There is a saying in China that "it is the father's fault to raise and not teach;" It means that it is the father's fault to have children and not educate them, and it is also the father's dereliction of duty. It is teachers' laziness and dereliction of duty to educate students without strict requirements.
In a materialistic society, people are easily influenced by distorted or wrong values. For example, what is a family's greatest property? Many people may think it is family property, including all movable and immovable property. The real property of a family is not family property, but children. No matter how much money you earn, your family will be fragmented, your children will be noisy, and everything will be meaningless. No matter how heavy the burden of the family is, it should not be a reason for a father to ignore his family and workaholic.
A warm, friendly, supportive and intelligent family is better than a family with mutual suspicion and resentment and a million mansions. Jews believe that no matter how busy, every father should not neglect his role and position in the family. In front of children, he is no longer the president or president in others' eyes, but a father. Going home to educate the children is his first task. What kind of person should you be if you want to educate your children?
Words and deeds speak louder than a thousand words. The power of example is infinite. Good and bad examples are expressed by words and actions. It can be built or demolished.
When it comes to the child care system, I have to mention Sweden. Sweden is the first country in the world to change "maternity leave" into "parental leave", and it also places great emphasis on gender equality. Therefore, raising children is also equality between men and women. Maternity leave is basically available to mothers all over the world. In order to encourage more fathers to take care of their children, Sweden has specially added a compulsory policy of "paternity leave" for 90 days. Some people may ask, isn't there no salary for taking care of children at home? How to allocate parental leave?
In Sweden, the law stipulates that the parents of newborn babies enjoy 16 months of "maternity leave", and how to share this 16 months is up to the parents of the children. Of the 480 days of "parental leave", 60 days must be taken by the father and cannot be transferred to the mother. Dad doesn't stop and can't get the "parental leave" subsidy. If a company employee takes parental leave, he can enjoy 80% of his 390-day salary. This policy allows Swedish fathers enough time to help their mothers look after their babies.
Everyone knows that children's early education plays a vital role in their lifelong growth. Parents take care of each other, which forms a double guarantee for the physical and mental health of children. It will not lead to mother's anxiety and children's out of control because of lack of father's love. Lack of fatherly love is a child's eternal shortcoming.
People's emotions are not material satisfaction, nor can money be redeemed, but the companionship of time and soul. In China, the lack of fatherly love and fatherly love has become a national hidden danger.
In an ordinary Jewish family, they educate their children in a unique way. The father took his 5-year-old son, who was having fun, to the sofa, held him up with open hands and motioned for his son to jump down. The son thought that his father wanted to play with him and jumped down without hesitation. I was arrested twice before. The third time, when he was about to be caught, the father gave up on purpose, and as a result, his son fell heavily to the ground and burst into tears. Father didn't go to comfort. When his son was about to cry, he used to wipe his tears to remind him: "Society is complicated. Don't trust others. The only thing you can trust is God and yourself. "
In another ordinary Jewish family, the father asked his son and daughter, "If one day the house catches fire, what will you do to escape?" The son said, "Needless to say, find out the money quickly and take it away first." The daughter thought for a moment and said, "Can you take the doll away?" Because they have been with me for a long time. "Father suggested," it is a thing without color, shape and smell. "They don't know. Finally, my father told me, "Son, what you want to take away is not money and playthings, but wisdom. Because no one can take wisdom away, as long as you live, wisdom will always follow you. "
These are the lessons that Jews have learned after being displaced from place to place and experiencing countless disasters for more than two thousand years. Jews can have nothing, but they can't live without wisdom. Wisdom is more important than knowledge. This is why Israel ranks first in the world in reading, with 64 books per capita every year. Israel, praised by the Bible as "the promised land flowing with milk and honey", is actually extremely poor in resources. With its largest human resources, it has become the smallest superpower in the world.
There is no future without education, and education is the most far-sighted investment. A country is like this, and a person is even more so.
For everyone, family is the first school in life. Parents are the first enlightenment teachers in their children's lives and shoulder great responsibilities and burdens. In the process of children's growth, the roles of father and mother are indispensable and irreplaceable. However, the reality is often that the father is always missing. If you are absent now, you are doomed to regret it in the future. Studies have shown that children who lack fatherly love are prone to extreme personality and irritability. Children who interact well with their fathers are braver and more responsible.
Fatherly love may be a stepping stone when you are afraid. When you feel dark, fatherly love may be a lamp. When you feel tired, fatherly love may be the harbor of life. When you are struggling, fatherly love may be a spiritual pillar. When you succeed, fatherly love may be an encouragement and vigilance. If you don't educate your child, the world will educate him severely.