After the child enters adolescence,
There seems to be a sudden estrangement between children.
Children like to argue with themselves more and more.
It seems that nothing goes to ta's heart.
This is the case with Ms. Zhang and her children.
Let's take a look at her and my deep sister first.
Ms. Zhang's child has just entered junior high school. After entering adolescence, there are more and more quarrels between children and parents. The child who once cooperated with his parents and obeyed the rules became fond of saying "no". Children who once regarded their mother as the most beautiful mother in the world now feel that their mother is too low; Children who used to be willing to let their mothers do everything with them began to dislike going with their mothers ... These sudden changes of attitude made Ms. Zhang and her husband feel at a loss, and they were very uncomfortable with their children and didn't know how to spend this period with them.
How should parents cope with so many changes in adolescent children?
Sister Shen invited two experts today.
Come and answer questions for everyone ~
Adolescence is a transitional period for children to grow into adulthood.
Adolescent children develop very rapidly.
Can complete all aspects of the body's growth and development tasks in 2~3 years.
But its psychological development is relatively slow.
This makes adolescent children physically and mentally
Be in an unbalanced state
Various contradictions that are easy to cause psychological development.
The influence of various contradictions can easily lead to parent-child conflicts.
So, in the face of adolescent children,
Parents need to adjust their mentality in time and respond positively.
Guide children to grow up healthily
First of all, understand the psychological and age characteristics of children and establish a correct educational concept.
Parents can learn family education-related knowledge and update their educational concepts through the online platform. According to the characteristics of children's physical and mental development, we should grasp the "rhythm" of education, give appropriate help, and learn to let go to give children more room for free growth.
Secondly, pay attention to children's emotional problems and improve their emotional control ability.
After entering adolescence, children become sensitive because they seek independence and freedom. Parents should relax their mentality and constantly improve their emotional control ability. When there are contradictions, parents can try to communicate with their children, speak their feelings gently and firmly, set an example for their children, and help them learn to control their emotions correctly.
Finally, build an active and effective communication mechanism and create a loving family atmosphere.
In the process of communicating with children, parents should have a sense of democracy and equality, adopt democratic communication methods, pay attention to words and deeds, and build a good family environment through mutual learning, cooperation and influence with children.