First of all, we need to know what an original ecological family is and how to distinguish an unhealthy original ecological family. Because it has a lot to do with our marriage feelings and happiness.
The original ecological family is a family environment in which a person grows up.
An unhealthy original ecological family means that the family grew up in an unhappy, unhappy and depressed environment. There is always a smell of war in the home. Family members are intrigued, cheating each other, slandering each other or destroying Taiwan Province. In general, many wealthy families in film and television dramas will do this.
A person's family environment determines whether his temper, personality and psychology are healthy. It also affected his love, marriage, family and happiness all his life.
Therefore, a woman should never marry a man in an unhealthy original ecological family, because it is related to the relationship between husband and wife and the happiness of family marriage in your life.
How to distinguish unhealthy original ecological families?
First of all, family relations are particularly complicated. The general family reorganization is like this: there are many people and many things.
Secondly, it is a family with a particularly disharmonious relationship between husband and wife. Some even abuse, slander, expose shortcomings and violence families in front of children.
The family of consultant Xiao Qiang is like this. When Xiao Qiang was very young, his parents reorganized his family, and his stepmother had a son of her own. Some people say that lovers are thieves on the way. The stepmother gave all the delicious and easy-to-use things in the family to her son, and even made an excuse to exclusively lend the family money to relatives in the future, although it would be another story if she didn't come back. Stepmother regards Xiao Qiang as a thorn in the side and a thorn in the flesh. Xiao Qiang, who is forced every day, can only wander outside.
Xiao Qiang met a girl who was going to get married when she grew up, and her stepmother refused to give money on the pretext of opposition. His own son's marriage is a big deal.
Xiao Qiang has a child. The wife thinks that the child is still young and it is time to grow up. Therefore, children should pay more attention to nutrition when eating. The wife gave the child 30 yuan to buy two boxes of fresh milk. Xiao Qiang quarreled with his wife in front of the children. This is his own child! What's wrong with mom not eating expensive things and occasionally buying some for her children? Although the child is young and helpless in the face of quarrels, he knows everything in his heart. What do you think of the child's biological father?
Later, when the child grew up, Xiao Qiang's wife felt that the child was already a social person. On the other hand, the child's body has taken shape. Try to buy clothes with better quality and style and wear them for a long time.
However, once when buying clothes for children, Xiao Qiang also said: those who buy cashmere are comfortable to wear, while those who buy thick clothes are warm to wear. However, when his wife bought a double-sided cashmere coat and a good down jacket for her children, Xiao Qiang suddenly changed his face when he saw that his wife had paid so much money.
Out of the clothing store, Xiao Qiang angrily threw all the shopping bags to his wife and said, Take them. I want to go home. It's too expensive? Turn around and leave, giving nothing. The child and his wife looked at each other.
The purpose of telling this story is to explain: how can a child who grew up in an unhealthy original ecological family care and love others because he has never had the warmth of his family? Therefore, many of them have no kinship, and their hearts are basically selfish, cold and heartless.
Xiao Qiang is so stingy with his children, so concerned, but so heartless. Can you imagine that he will be kind to his wife? I can also imagine what kind of life his wife lives with him every day. Can you imagine his children's attitude towards him in the future?
Xiao Qiang's wife told me. Because the relationship between husband and wife has been disharmonious and the marriage is unhappy, she once suffered from severe depression. For more than 400 days, she thought about how to take her children to commit suicide every day. Finally, she saw that the child was sensible and made her feel too distressed, so she promised her mother that she would not leave him. Won't leave this house. For the sake of children, she slowly adjusted her mind and got out of the shadow of depression.
Therefore, a woman should never marry a man with an unhealthy original ecological family, which will really affect your life's marital happiness and even the healthy growth of the next generation.
Xiao Qiang, although his family has not been separated. However, it is really terrible that my wife and children live in this depressed and breathless family all day. I want to know how to solve this problem. Please stay tuned.