Wen as water, Jiangzuo Meiniang
People in the middle age, on the elderly parents need to support, under the children waiting to feed, the pressure of life as the shadow of the shadow, and the solution to the pressure of the most effective way, it seems to be to make money.
Because, "money can solve 99 percent of the problem." The remaining one percent, perhaps only life and death.
Whether it is the immediate food and clothing, or a little farther away from the sick medical, or poetry and far away, which are inseparable from the money.
I don't know from when, make money become the most important thing in our life, so we make money outside of the things are treated as a pretense and do.
No one can deny the importance of money, but for the average person, money is not the only path to happiness.
Especially in the middle age, after seeing through the truth of life, I realized that these three things are more important than making money.
In the TV series "My First Half Life", Chen Junsheng is a corporate executive with an annual salary of one million dollars, which is a top-notch salary even in the talent-rich Shanghai. Therefore, his wife Luo Zijun can enjoy a good life with a nanny and shopping every day.
Perhaps some people say that if Chen Junsheng does not cheat, but loves Luo Zijun all his life, then she does not have to eat the pain of going to work, and can be happy for the rest of his life.
But in fact, before Chen Junsheng cheated on his wife, Luo Zijun showed a strong sense of insecurity, and even acted like a shrew and made a scene at the company where her husband worked.
Such a Luo Zijun, even if Chen Junsheng does not mind, she will live into a growing old face hateful spiteful woman, and "independent" does not have a little edge.
When she was living under Chen Junsheng's roof, she was so pampered that she was addicted to shopping and spending money, and her spirit has long been out of sync with Chen Junsheng's world.
On the contrary, after the divorce, Luo Zijun, due to the compulsion of life, returned to the workplace, relying on their own efforts to grow a little bit, the aura is gradually strong.
Her changes were first recognized by her best friend Tang Jing, and then even her ex-husband, who once disliked her, began to regret and wanted to go back to before the divorce.
In fact, after the divorce, Luo Zijun's salary was very low, plus she had to support her children, so she was not well off, and her clothes were naturally not as good as before the divorce, but this could not hide the light that emanated from her inside.
Because she is self-supporting, no longer have to please her husband for money, do not have to worry about her husband was snatched by a young girl, her bottom line comes from their own, the loss of shelter, but she can stand up, live into their own armor.
Such Luo Zijun, even if she has been living alone with her son, or better than being kept by Chen Junsheng, the whole day is full of suspicion.
The security that comes with spiritual independence is far better than money.
Life is a boat, each of us must learn to do their own helmsman, rather than envy the luxury of the cruise ship, as well as their own boat.
Because the cruise ship will sail to where, not by our decision, although the boat is simple, but completely by our own control.
Some people say that women do better than marrying well. I do not agree, those who seem to "life" good woman, we can see, is she cultivated eight lifetimes of blessings; do not see, is she good enough to marry well.
However, being able to live well on your own doesn't mean you'll be happy in your marriage.
Since you have chosen marriage, you should manage it with all your heart and reap the rewards of a harmonious husband and wife relationship. Because a good marriage relationship nourishes people, and a disharmonious couple relationship only consumes people.
Last year, a farmer couple in Wenzhou, Zhejiang Province, because of a video of double dancing fire.
In the video, the husband's feet wearing liberation shoes, his wife wore black cloth shoes, simple clothing does not affect their love of dance.
Some people may say that rural people have a lot of time to do what they want to do after planting crops, and give him a "996", so there must be no leisure to dance.
But in fact, fate is not only not in favor of them, but also very cruel.
At one point, the husband was in a car accident and spent all of his savings on treatment, leaving serious psychological sequelae.
In order to help her husband restore his physical and mental health, and to relieve his own stress, his wife saw other people dancing in the square, and then dragged her husband to learn to dance.
After the beginning of the unaccustomed and resistance, the more they dance, the more happy, the pressure release, the body is also gradually good. This kind of self-healing is better than spending money on the best psychiatrist.
To be able to become a Netflix star is precisely because of their attitude to face up to bad luck and cope with it positively, as well as the wife's unfailing love for her husband, and the husband's appreciation and trust for his wife.
Obviously poor, when the wife danced, the husband did not say that she was "poor and happy", but both husband and wife to dance.
Even if they live in a simple house, not a decent piece of furniture, eat a meal, but the couple is together, but also enough to make their happiness far more than those who are well-dressed, but the couples in the same bed.
A poor but harmonious marital relationship is far better than the one that earns a lot of money, but the one that is centrifugal and away from the virtue is much happier, and I believe that everyone who is in it has experienced it.
At one time, the best answer I've seen to the question of why we should have children was this: "We should have children in order to participate in the growth of a life without having to fight for my honor, without having to carry on my family's work, and without having to help me with my old age. I just need this life to exist, to walk in this beautiful world, so that I have the opportunity to walk with her (him) for a period of time ......."
For the child, the parents' attentive companionship affects his whole life, and the child's future affects the parents for the rest of their lives.
A few years ago, there was a popular saying that brought tears to my eyes: I couldn't hold you if I moved up a brick, and I couldn't raise you if I put down a brick.
Every responsible parent wants to earn more money to provide good material conditions for their children. But they also inevitably overlooked one problem: The child's education has an expiration date.
All good habits, character development are from childhood. When children are small, their parents are their whole world, their parents' physical behavior, teaching by example, will be rooted in their hearts, and that is the golden age of family education.
Those migrant workers who went to work in the city to make money and left their children with the elderly, their children will most likely become the same as them, the bottom of the labor force.
Education is fair, it will not pity you because you live a hard life, nor will it favor you because you are rich.
The poor neglect their children's education in order to make money, the probability is that they will fall into the predicament of generational poverty; the rich do not pay attention to their children's companionship and education, may be "rich but not three generations".
Hong Kong's Jackie Chan, the world's biggest movie star, is an anti-drug ambassador, but his son, Joey Fong, has been jailed for half a year for smoking DU.
In this regard, Jackie Chan has publicly stated that he is busy with his career and has neglected his family and his son's growth, and that he is full of confidence as an artist, but full of guilt as a father.
Any success in business can't make up for the failure of a child's education. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good understanding of what you're doing and how you're doing it.
The real "rich" is not to give the child expensive, but with unconditional love and rational rules to raise.
It is better to give a man a fish than to give him a fish. It is better to give children rich material than to set an example and teach them how to be a useful person, and the only way to have a harmonious parent-child relationship is to let the children become real adults.
When you are in your middle age, your life is half over. The meaning of life will be found in walking and looking, not forgetting the goal in front of you, and not ignoring the scenery around you.
To make money and create good material conditions for your family is a must in life; to be confident and sure, and to maintain the independence of spirit and personality is also a practice in life; to manage the marriage relationship with care, in order to find the way to happiness; to accompany your children with love, to create a cozy home, the life of a step closer to the success of another.
Money can indeed solve a lot of problems, but the world's loveliness lies in its richness and diversity, and the people who live by heart, life will not let down his seriousness and wisdom.
If you have money, then you can enjoy the elegance of the environment and the delicacy of the food in a high-end restaurant, if you don't have a lot of money, in the stalls, you can also truly taste the original flavor of the food.
Don't forget that successful people have their glory and joy, and ordinary people have their pride and joy.
It's important to work hard to make money, but it's more important to have an independent spirit than anything else, because with it, you can go in and out and avoid the risks of life; it's more important to have a warm home than anything else, because with it, you'll have a really smokin' hot happiness, a really grounded happiness.
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