The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is already a problem, coupled with parenting that is much more difficult, if not handled properly, can only intensify the conflict between the family and the relationship between the more powerful, and even lead to the breakdown of the marriage. Therefore, it is very important to pay attention to the proportion and skill when dealing with the contradiction with your mother-in-law's concept of childcare. I'd like to share my own experience with you, and I hope it will help you:
1, self-reflection. First of all, I will analyze what happened, and look for the reason from my own body first, to see which part of the problem is in the end, if it is the tone of communication with the mother-in-law and the attitude is not right, then I will apologize to the mother-in-law in time and correct, and next time I will pay special attention to the tone of communication and the attitude.
2. Respect your mother-in-law and listen to her. When it comes to parenting conflicts, I will first understand the details of the situation, listen to my mother-in-law's account, and let them finish their story first, instead of judging and blaming them as my first reaction.
3, not in front of the children to discuss, when the conflict occurs, if their attitude is not good, I will find a suitable time to apologize to the mother-in-law alone, wait until everyone's emotions are more calm, and then analyze the problem to find a suitable solution.
4. Through some news and examples of people around me, I can convey to my mother-in-law the dangers of bad parenting. Because this is more acceptable through the form of examples.
5. Learn more about yourself, improve your parenting skills and concepts, and let your mother-in-law know the correct way of parenting through your own personal demonstration.
6, and the husband negotiated, so that after the husband to communicate with the mother-in-law, the child's upbringing for the division of labor. If you want your mother-in-law to help you with laundry and cooking, and to pick up and drop off your children, then let your husband tell your mother-in-law that she needs to help you with these things, and that you are responsible for your own child's upbringing. It's best for each to do their own thing and not interfere with each other.
7, if conditions can be, it is best to be able to live separately from the elderly. If you have a better method, you are welcome to leave a comment and interact, *** with the learning progress