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Everyone needs encouragement from others.
Encouragement is an affirmation of the value of others.
Encouragement will generate unexpected motivation.
Encourage yourself when you are in trouble.
Encourage others when they are frustrated.
Encourage bold ideas and dreams.
Don't forget to encourage when criticizing.
Don't encourage wrong behavior.
Sometimes a white lie is encouragement.
Encouragement is a good way of education.
It is better to encourage children than to criticize them.
well-known saying
If we give ordinary employees opportunities, encouragement and rewards to do their best, their achievements are absolutely infinite. Robert Walton
The easiest thing in the world to destroy a person's ambition is the boss's criticism. I never criticize anyone. I only give encouragement. I long for praise, not blame. -Chabou
Sometimes, timely and powerful encouragement is the best help for you. Thomas
Scientific research can dispel superstition because it encourages people to think and observe things according to causality. -Einstein
The most important educational method always encourages students to practice. -Einstein
Only by being generous to others and praising their beauty can we win friends. -Evelyn Ender Hilf.
There is no reward in the world to encourage hard work. All rewards are only used to reward work results.
-motto of success motivation
Encouragement and praise turn an idiot into a genius, while criticism and abuse turn a genius into an idiot. anonymous
In the ocean of learning, teachers' encouragement is like a sail, and trust is like a boat, carrying students to the other side of success. anonymous
Classic material
Master's words
An encouraging word inspired the courage to persevere.
Padlevski, a famous pianist and composer, plans to perform in a big concert hall in the United States. It was an unforgettable night-the concert hall was full of black evening dresses, formal evening dresses and upper-class dresses. There was a mother with an excited 9-year-old child in the audience that night.
When she turned to talk to her friend, he was attracted by the grand piano on the stage and the ebony stool in front of him, and slipped away from his mother with dazzling lights. He put his trembling little finger on the black and white keys and began to play a piece called Chopsticks.
The audience's conversation suddenly stopped, and hundreds of unhappy eyes watched together. The angry and embarrassed audience began to shout that the children should be thrown out.
In the background, piano master heard the sound in front of the stage. He quickly grabbed his coat, ran to the stage, stood behind the boy without saying a word, stretched out his hands, and improvised some harmonious notes to match chopsticks. When they were playing at the same time, the master whispered in the boy's ear, "keep playing, don't stop." Keep playing ... don't stop ... don't stop. "
So do we. Our efforts have the same effect as children playing with chopsticks in the auditorium. Just as we were about to give up, suddenly the master appeared, bent down and whispered to us, "Now keep playing, don't stop." Go on ... don't stop; Don't stop, he improvised for us and played the right melody at the right time.
A Beautiful Mind
Encouragement requires selfless dedication and perseverance.
The film A Beautiful Mind won the 74th Academy Award, which was almost the highest award in the world in 2002, and the film's protagonist Nash prototype also became a popular public figure. Johnf nash was born in 1928, and began to show his talent in mathematics at the age of 14. 1950 On July 3rd, my birthday, I received my doctorate from Princeton Institute for Advanced Studies. An important discovery in his 27-page doctoral thesis is the game theory that was later called "Nash equilibrium". Just in his early twenties, he was already a master of game theory and a world-famous scientist in the late 1950s. However, at the height of his career, Nash, 30, suffered from severe schizophrenia and could not conduct normal research for 30 years.
His wife Alicia graduated from the Physics Department of Massachusetts Institute of Technology. She is a noble and strong woman who has always given him meticulous care, tolerance and encouragement. She showed an iron will: she survived the confinement and isolation of her husband and the shock and sadness of her son suffering from schizophrenia ... After a long half century, her patience and perseverance finally produced a miracle: Professor Nash, like her son, gradually recovered and resumed his research work, and won the Nobel Prize in Economics in 1994.
I want to jump on the moon.
(Encourage every dream)
A mother is washing dishes in the kitchen. She heard the children skipping in the backyard and shouted to him, "What are you doing?" The child replied, "I want to jump to the moon!" " "Guess what mom said? Instead of throwing cold water on the child and calling him "Don't talk nonsense" or "Come in and wash", she said, "Well, don't forget to come back! The child later became the first man to land on the moon. He is Armstrong.
Su Buqing and Gu Chaohao
(Encourage students to surpass themselves)
Sue, a master of mathematics, has a noble character. He sincerely encourages students to surpass themselves. He often says to his students, "Only when each generation is better than the next can science develop and career have hope. You should surpass me and move towards higher goals. "
He not only advocates this point verbally, but also helps students surpass themselves in practical actions. Observing from many aspects, he found that Gu Chaohao, a student, had a keen mind and spare capacity for learning, so he put forward higher requirements for him according to the principle of step by step, and supported him to listen to Mr. Chen's class while listening to his own class. He took part in the discussion class of differential geometry and function at the same time, so that he could learn both the knowledge of the two gentlemen and their strengths. At the beginning of liberation, the superior planned to transfer Gu Chaohao to a certain unit for administrative leadership. Sue thinks this is not suitable for employing people, saying that Gu Chaohao has a talent for mathematics, so he should be given full play to his expertise in mathematics. Later, he thought that Gu Chaohao had basically mastered his knowledge and recommended him to study at Moscow University.
After returning to China, Gu Chaohao made a series of advanced research results in differential equations. He cooperated with Yang Zhenning, a famous physicist, and made a series of achievements in the study of mathematical structure of gauge field, which was highly praised by the scientific community.
Kōnosuke Matsushita's decision-making view
(Encourage employees)
Kōnosuke Matsushita, president of Panasonic, is famous for his abusive leadership style, but he is also known for being the best at cultivating talents.
Once, Kōnosuke Matsushita said to a department manager of his company, "I have to make many decisions every day, and I have to approve many decisions of others. In fact, the decision I really agree with is only 40%, and the remaining 60% is reserved by me, or I think it is ok. " The manager was very surprised. If Panasonic disagrees with something, he can directly veto it.
"You can't say no to anything. For those plans that you think are passable, you can guide them in the process of implementation and make them return to the track you expect. I think a leader should sometimes accept what he doesn't like, because no one likes to be denied. " As a leader, you must know how to enhance people's confidence. You can't always dampen the enthusiasm of subordinates. Try to avoid using the words "you can't, you can't, you don't know, maybe", but always say "you can, you will, you must, you will, you know" to your subordinates.
Self-confidence is extremely important to people's success. A leader who knows how to enhance the confidence of his subordinates is not only encouraging your subordinates, but also helping you to succeed. Management is not dictatorship. In business management, it is very important to respect human rights, attach importance to individuals, ask questions in a friendly way, and care about listening.
Pavlov educates students.
Don't forget to encourage when criticizing.
One day, a sad student came to Pavlov, a famous physiologist, and reported that an important animal experiment had failed. Pavlov said, "From your magic when you succeeded in your last experiment, I knew you would fail this time!" The professor severely criticized the depressed student and earnestly encouraged him: "You are still young, don't let pride possess you." The professor also said: "When my first scientific paper was published, I was not so happy as a little heavy, because I thought it was not easy to make even a little progress on the rugged scientific road."
The power of respect
(encouraging people who make mistakes)
On one occasion, Bob Hoover, a famous fighter test pilot of the US Air Force, flew back to Los Angeles after completing an air show mission. On the way, the plane suddenly broke down seriously, and both engines failed at the same time. He was fearless in the face of danger and took decisive and calm measures to miraculously land the plane at the airport. When he and the security personnel checked the plane, they found that the accident was caused by the wrong oil. He flies a propeller plane, but he uses aircraft oil.
The mechanic in charge of refueling cried at the sight of Hoover. Because his momentary negligence may cause a plane crash and three people died. Hoover didn't blow his top. Instead, he gently hugged the guilty mechanic and sincerely said to him, "In order to prove that you have done a good job, I want you to help me with the maintenance of the plane tomorrow." The mechanic has been with Hoover ever since, taking charge of his plane maintenance. Since then, Hoover's aircraft maintenance has never gone wrong.
This is Hoover's genius. There is no need to blame others for the big mistake, I have already blamed myself. If we respect each other and understand their feelings at this time, it is a kind of love and encouragement for each other.
All this will pass.
Both failure and success need encouragement.
From 65438 to 0954, men, women and children in Brazil agreed that the Brazilian football team would win the World Cup. However, accidents happen from time to time, and the charm of football lies in its unpredictability. In the semi-final, Brazil unexpectedly lost to France and failed to bring the gold cup back to Brazil. Players know better than anyone that football is the soul of China in Brazil. They are remorseful and ashamed to meet their hometown elders. They know that it is inevitable for fans to abuse, ridicule and throw soda bottles.
When the plane entered Brazil's airspace, the players were even more uneasy, and they were on pins and needles. However, when the plane landed at the capital airport, they were greeted by another scene: the Brazilian president and more than 20 thousand fans stood silently at the airport, and two banners in the crowd were particularly eye-catching: "If you fail, hold your head high!" "This will pass!" The players were in tears. Neither the president nor the fans spoke, silently watching the players leave the airport.
Four years later, the Brazilian football team lived up to expectations and won the World Cup. When returning home, the Brazilian football team's special plane entered the country, and 16 jet fighters immediately escorted it. As many as 30,000 people gathered at the airport to welcome the plane when it landed at Dogor airport. On both sides of the road from the airport to the Capital Square, more than 6.5438+0 million people gathered automatically. What a spectacular and exciting scene it is!
There are also two banners in the crowd that are particularly eye-catching: "If you win, you must move forward!" "This will pass!"
Beethoven's kiss
(convey encouragement)
1985 In September, the Hungarian pianist Andorra Foldes gave a class to a group of young pianists in Saarbrü cken, Federal Republic of Germany. He found that if he patted a student on the back, that student would behave better. He praised his outstanding performance in front of the whole class. To his great surprise, he immediately surpassed his original level.
Andor did this because of his own experience. /kloc-When I was 0/6 years old, I fell into some kind of crisis because I disagreed with my music teacher. Later, the famous pianist Emile von Salle, the last living disciple of Liszt, came to Budapest and asked Amdo to play for him. Liszt listened attentively to him playing Bach's Tokata in C major and asked for more tunes. Amdo is devoted to playing Beethoven's Sonata Pathetique and Schumann's Ba Bilong. Finally, von Salle stood up and kissed his forehead. "My child," he said, "I became a student of Liszt when I was your age. After my first class, he kissed me on the forehead and said,' cherish this kiss-it comes from Beethoven. He gave it to me after listening to my performance. I waited for many years for this sacred legacy to be handed down, and now I think you deserve it. "
Nothing can compare with Feng in Amdo's life. Sal's praise. Beethoven's kiss magically saved him from the crisis and helped him become a pianist today. It will soon be his turn to pass on the inheritance to the person who should inherit it most.
The height of whales
(Animals also need encouragement)
If you see a whale weighing 8600 kilograms jumping 6.6 meters on the water and performing various actions for you, I think you will be amazed and regard this as a miracle. There is such a miraculous whale.
The trainer of this whale revealed the mystery of the training to the outside world: at first, they put the rope underwater so that the whale could not cross the rope. Every time the whale crosses the rope, it will be rewarded, it will get fish to eat, and someone will pat it and play with it. Animal trainers encourage whales. When the whale crosses the rope more times than it gets under it, the animal trainer will lift the rope, but the lifting speed must be slow, so as not to make the whale depressed because of too many failures.
Lin Zexu's Tang Shu Lian Zhi
(Encourage others to give advice to themselves)
When Lin Zexu, a national hero in the anti-smoking movement, served as a low-cost national defense ambassador in Jiangsu Province, he personally wrote a couplet in the lobby: "I would like to hear his name and seek public opinion." He called on people to boldly expose corrupt officials and encouraged others to express their opinions to themselves. 1838, after he was promoted to the governor of Guangdong and Guangxi, he personally wrote a couplet in the official office: Hainan has a hundred rivers, with great tolerance; The wall stands a thousand miles, and it is just without desire. This pair of couplets has been read full of praise. The first part means being as generous as the sea and listening to different opinions widely; The second part of the couplet is an inspiring motto, encouraging you to put an end to selfish desires and be a tough guy standing in the world.
Darwin's father
(Encourage children's interest and imagination)
From the age of seven, Darwin liked to collect dried plants and dead insects, as well as coins, stamps, shells and fossils. He also likes to do chemical experiments at home, for which he was reprimanded by the headmaster, Dr. Butler. However, old Darwin supported the children. He gave him a shed in the garden to do chemical experiments. At the age of ten, he helped him spend a three-week holiday on the coast of Wales, where he observed and collected many specimens of marine plants.
Darwin loved fantasy and always claimed that several fossils he collected were priceless. One day, he dug a coin out of the mud and said to his sister, "Look! My sister took the coin minted by the ancient Romans and found it was just a common coin. She was angry at her brother's "lying" and complained to her father. But the father called his son over and praised him face to face: "son, your imagination is really rich!" How can I blame you? " The father's appreciation of his son aroused everyone's dissatisfaction. People think that this will ruin the child and let him get into the bad habit of telling lies. Old Darwin said, "This shows that the child is full of imagination, and one day he will use this talent for business."
Those imaginative people often show a strong thirst for knowledge, sufficient learning motivation and tenacious fighting spirit. We encourage children to dare to imagine since childhood, which is to encourage children's desire, motivation and spirit. On the contrary, depriving children of their imagination is to shake the foundation of this desire, motivation and spirit.
Cheer up your wife and persuade your husband.
(Encourage others to pay attention to methods)
In the Eastern Han Dynasty, there was a scholar named Le Yangzi in Henan County. His wife is a very virtuous and diligent person. On one occasion, Le Yangzi saw a piece of gold on the road, so he picked it up and took it home to tell his wife happily. The wife said: "I heard that people with lofty ideals don't drink the water of stealing springs (because they hate the name of stealing springs), and Fang Zhengzhi people don't accept disrespectful alms, let alone pick up other people's things and bring them back to their homes." Yue Yangzi was very ashamed and sent the gold back to its original place.
Later, Le Yangzi went out to study, and his wife was very supportive. However, he came back less than a year after he went out as an apprentice. The wife was surprised when she saw it and asked him, "How did you come back so soon?" Yue Yangzi said, "I've been gone for a long time and missed you very much. Nothing else. " After hearing this, the wife picked up a pair of scissors and walked quickly to the loom, saying, "Look, the raw material of this cloth is spring cocoon. It is woven by looms and shuttles bit by bit. It takes a long time to weave silk into inches, feet, feet and horses. " If you cut it with scissors now, you will waste a lot of time and lose the chance of success. The same is true of studying abroad. You should learn what you don't know every day to enrich your knowledge and cultivate good virtues. Try a little and give up halfway, isn't it just like scissors cutting the silk thread on the loom? ! "Le Yangzi was very moved after hearing this and immediately set out to study abroad. He didn't go home for seven years and finally finished his studies.
Yilin story
Don't encourage the wrong things.
A child stole a classmate's clipboard at school and took it home to his mother. Mother didn't criticize, but praised his ability. The second time he stole a coat and gave it to his mother, who was very satisfied and praised him even more. As the years passed, the children grew up and began to steal bigger things. On one occasion, he was caught red-handed, with his hands tied behind his back, and was escorted to the executioner. His mother followed, beating her chest and crying. At this moment, the thief said that he wanted to have a word with his mother. His mother went up at once, and his son suddenly bit her ear and tore it off. His mother called him unfilial, and it was not enough to commit the crime of decapitation, and he also maimed his mother. The son said, "If you can beat me when I stole the slate for the first time, why did I end up in such a tragic ending and be executed today?"
Don't forget to cheer for others.
One class won the "Moral Style" prize in the school sports meeting. Someone asked the headmaster a question: during the whole competition, I didn't find out where the morality of this class was higher than that of other classes. The headmaster said with a smile, you have overlooked a detail-when everyone is cheering for the good results of the athletes in their class, only the students in this class cheer for their class and don't forget to cheer for others at the same time.
Encourage the sunshine in your heart.
There is a boy who has been very naughty. His homework is always in a mess, he often fights and curses, and he is always late, leaving early and even playing truant. But the female teacher never discriminated against him, because she knew that the boy had no mother and his father was a professional chicken farmer. Dad is in a hurry, so he must be busy, which is why he can't obey the discipline.
One day, the female teacher arranged a composition My People，My Country, and everyone immediately picked up a brush to write, but the boy looked at the ceiling, gawking. Later, the female teacher corrected a very strange composition: the motherland is a hen, and I would like to be a grain of rice. That boy wrote it. The female teacher's heart is full of heat waves: even children who are extremely distressed by feeding chickens have sunshine in their hearts!
The next day, when commenting on the composition, she made special mention of this essay: "From the map, our motherland looks like a rooster, but a clever child thinks that the shape of the motherland is more like a hen. It is this affectionate word' mom' that highlights his deep love for the motherland. The motherland is a hen, and I would like to be a grain of rice. Listen! This is called selfless dedication, this is called complete sacrifice, this is called deep love and affection! Therefore, the teacher decided that this metaphor is the most wonderful and attractive composition handed in this time. "
From that day on, that naughty boy changed completely, as if he had grown up at once! He is very polite. He never comes late or leaves early. He never fights or curses, and he never misses class. He works hard, and his homework is clean and his words are neat. It was written with his heart, and his heart was filled with love from then on.
This must be encouragement.
When I was a teacher, I once taught a "poor student". He studied for five years, but he remained on the bench in the second grade. This "poor student" has low self-esteem, but he is diligent. He struggles to do good things every day, such as cleaning the toilet, and almost all of them are built by himself. But the students turned a blind eye to it, and even the teacher couldn't praise him.
In order to improve the boring atmosphere in the classroom, I often put forward some knowledge outside the textbook to test students-"Which sinks first, a bamboo or a straw?" This is a brain teaser, which is obviously a bit difficult for students in grade two of primary school. The students are chirping like sparrows in a tree. Some say bamboo sinks first, some say straw sinks first, and more people stare at me expectantly. The "poor student" sitting in the back row suddenly stood up: "Teacher, I know the answer!" As soon as the voice fell, the whole class burst into laughter and the "poor students" blushed. Under my repeated encouragement, he timidly replied, "neither straw nor bamboo will sink." When I loudly announced that "the answer is absolutely correct", the whole classroom was silent. Students, you look at me and I look at you, as if I couldn't believe my ears. The "poor student" sat back in his seat and cried on his desk. People's memories are so strange. Now I have left my teaching post for many years. What impressed me most over the years was the cry of this "poor student".
Mother's lies
When I was in primary school, my Chinese was poor, especially my composition was a mess, and I was often criticized by my teacher, so I had an instinctive rejection and fear of composition. Once, after reading the composition I just handed in, the teacher said to me, "Let your mother come after school." I think it's over. My mother will kill me if she knows that my composition is so poor. Mother went to see the teacher, and I sat at home waiting for her in fear, waiting for a storm to come. Unexpectedly, when my mother came back, she was filled with joy: "The teacher praised you today and said that your composition has made great progress. No, the teacher also asked me to take your composition book home and take good care of it, saying that as long as you continue to work hard, you will definitely become a writer in the future. " After that, my mother raised her composition book. "Let my mother keep it for you, son, you are great." My previous worries vanished at once, and I immediately became happy.
Later, I was really no longer afraid of writing. I write every day and often show my mother my composition. She never forgets to say, "Son, you have made progress again today!" " "Later, my composition became the best in my class and the best in the whole school; Later, I became a campus writer, writing while reading, and I have published dozens of articles.
When I came home during the Spring Festival last year, I came across the composition book that my mother had kept for me. I opened it and was shocked. The teacher's comment to me at that time was: "It's a mess, rewrite it!" My mother's lies made me.
lead by example
My wife and I traveled to Zhangjiajie, a famous scenic spot. All the scenic spots on the flat land have been visited. On that day, I will climb Huangshizhai, which is on a high mountain.
The road up the mountain is paved with stone steps, and it is not difficult to walk. There are dozens of sedan chairs tied with rattan chairs at the foot of the mountain. The bearers crowded up and asked us to take a sedan chair. We declined, thinking that it would reduce our interest in traveling. Climb up slowly, I was very idle at first, and gradually I felt tired. Several places are quite steep and difficult to climb. Before I could see a long steep slope at the top of the mountain clearly, I sat on a rock all over and felt so happy when I rested. Looking up, I really doubt if I have the strength to climb up.
Several women with Henan accents panted and climbed up from below. They stopped beside me and looked up at the steep slope complaining. Among them, a chubby woman in her thirties shouted, "My mother! How high! It's terrible. " She noticed me and asked my age with a smile. After getting the answer, she was dazed. He turned around and said loudly to his companion, "Even this old gentleman dares to go up. If we want to retreat, it's time to jump off a cliff! "! Go! "She turned and strode to the steep slope, followed by her companions.
I smiled at her. Secretly happy to set an example and give people a little encouragement.
I immediately stood up and walked up the steep slope with my wife-her approval also inspired me.
Application and innovation
No one else's approval.
Everyone should encourage others and be encouraged, but encouragement and praise are different. We want encouragement when we are frustrated, but we don't need praise when we are proud.
The need for praise is equivalent to saying, "What you think of me is more important than what I think of myself." You may spend a lot of time trying to win others' approval, or you may worry that you won't get it. If seeking approval has become a necessity in your life, then you have entered a misunderstanding. If you want to be praised, you only want to be recognized by others, but if you need praise, you will be depressed when you don't get what you want. This is the reason for self-frustration. Once seeking approval becomes necessary, it is almost impossible to seek truth from facts, and no one will be honest with you. Similarly, you will deliberately cater to other people's opinions and preferences, so you will give up your own value.
People will certainly encounter many objections in their lives. Don't expect others to praise you and encourage you. We need encouragement when we are frustrated, but we don't need too much praise. So are others. Give them courage when they need help, and don't give them too many flowers and applause when they succeed.
The highest state of encouragement
I like this sentence: people who can incite others to work for themselves are called leadership geniuses. Wilson, a famous British naval officer, is such a typical example. He often inspires his subordinates to accomplish great achievements. This extraordinary quality was revealed when he was young. There is a story: One winter in England, there was a snowstorm. His brother looked at the heavy snow outside the house, and he was very scared. He held back and wanted to miss school for a day. When Wilson knew this, he was filled with emotion. He told his younger brother to be loyal. A person should not flinch because of a little difficulty, but he is a master after suffering. ...
My brother was very moved, so he opened the door and braved the wind and rain to go to school-to help my brother ask for sick leave.
Wilson is a genius. He can incite others to do things he doesn't want to do. The "incitement" used here is of course a derogatory term, because what Wilson encouraged his brother to do was not a good thing. However, he later put this "instigation" ability into his works, which is what a real genius does. At this time, he should use "encouragement" and "agitation" instead of "incitement". We always say that encouraging ourselves to meet challenges or encouraging others to face difficulties is a good moral character, out of friendship and conscience. But when we can encourage others to face great difficulties and make great contributions, it means that we have been able to manage and lead.
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