The difference between a family that raises a girl and a family that raises a son in old age is very big, and there are too many real-life examples around me. Now let's talk about this topic with the lives of the two families closest to me.
My wife's three sisters, his second aunt two sons, the eldest son graduated from junior high school went out to work, the family spent more than ten thousand dollars to build a new house in the village. In recent years, the rural youth to marry a daughter-in-law is very difficult, took a lot of trouble to the eldest son at the age of twenty-nine years old that year out of two hundred and forty-eight thousand dollars to marry a girl in the adjacent village, and even married to spend three hundred and fifty thousand, but only eight months of the female side of the family did not follow, the wealth of the gift is also not refunded. This is the reason why the lawsuit barely came back to nine million dollars.
The oldest son spent three quarters of a million dollars on the marriage of Zhang Gong, and the gift of money came back to 90,000 yuan, a net loss of two hundred and sixty thousand dollars.
Summarizing the lessons of the eldest son, I think it is the education is too low son has no ability to fall into a person's wealth, therefore, the head of the rotten also want to pay for the second son to go to school to change the door.
Originally, the second son was not a good student. He failed to get into Koraku Koraku after graduating from junior high school, and the family let him repeat a year of study in junior high school. After graduating from Koraku Koraku and failing to get into a university, the family made their second son repeat a year of study in Koraku Koraku. In the end, he barely got into the second bachelor's degree, but after graduation, he went to work in an electronics factory in Suzhou.
However, the second son this year, thirty-two years old, daughter-in-law even a shadow.
Speaking of his second aunt husband, although the same as me is to do carpentry work, but the craft than I am still hard, do the main body of work is a good hand, and carving and painting is unparalleled, working a year more than I earn more money. Weekdays do not smoke, do not drink, do not play cards, even a new piece of clothing throughout the year are not wearing, and even a monthly salary of more than 10,000 issued even a melon seeds are not willing to eat. It is such a large amount of money to earn money, spend a penny is a pity to live, but, two sons are more than thirty, so far a problem has not been solved! His aunt's husband is two years younger than me, and eighty percent of the hair on his head is white.
Unlike his second aunt's family, his third aunt two daughters. Although the eldest daughter married less to ask for wealth gifts, but also received more than 160,000 yuan. Now, the second daughter graduated from college, found a job although the salary is low, but also can give parents more than a thousand dollars a month. In addition, the woman's heart is fine every now and then to call the parents to ask for warmth, and his sister-in-law's two sons to form a clear contrast.
From the two his aunt's family situation contrast, two sons of his second aunt's family, parents for two sons of the family to spend millions of dollars. And two daughters of his third aunt's family, the daughter to get married to collect hundreds of thousands of dollars. This into a million-dollar gap, you think, the quality of life of the two farmers' families how big the difference should be?
The above is just a calculation of the economic account, the mental pressure is a world of difference. The two sons' marriage was not resolved, and the two of them were so worried that they couldn't sleep during the night, and they didn't go to the crowd during the day, and they didn't talk to each other. And his third aunt there are many people there to drill, with most rural women, as soon as they have time to dance, new clothes washed two water color did not change to buy a new change.
With two of his aunt's situation the same example is too much! My friend, do you think there is a big gap between raising a girl and raising a son at the moment?
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Patriarchalism is the idea of thousands of years in China, with the development of the times, the economic progress, the improvement of the cultural level, and now patriarchalism of the family is becoming less and less, and the families of the city and even appeared the importance of women over men, and now say that the poor son of a rich girl, that we compare the family of the birth of a son The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money.
My great-uncle, in the early 70's had an only son, that is, my cousin, great-uncle is the director of the factory, in that era, in response to the one-child policy, had a son of my cousin, great-uncle is still a bit of patriarchal thinking, gave birth to a son, feel very dignified, especially pampered, from childhood to feed the rice to the mouth, the clothes to stretch out the hands, the food to the mouth, what my cousin wanted he tried to meet, a little reluctant, cousin, he tried to meet, but he did not want, and he did not want, and he did not want, but he did not want, but he did not want. Meet, a little less than desired, the cousin will lose his temper, from childhood into a selfish habit, the cousin does not go to school properly, often skipping school, uncle had no choice but to let him go to a technical school, after graduation to the factory where he worked as a small worker, is also considered to be a stable job, but how to eat the cousin that bitter, from childhood, lazy, always late for work, leave early, on the less than a year, the big uncle also did not do anything, he was not a good boy, he was not a good boy, he was not a good boy. The first time I saw him, I was so happy to see him, and I was so happy to see him, and I was so happy to see him.
Cousin resigned after not sleeping at home, is to go around looking for fox friends to play, eat, drink and have fun, uncle to take him there is no way, no money to spend to go home to ask, do not give to be angry, wrestling with things, which is the great uncle when he was a child, the result of pampering.
Auntie died in her 50s due to illness, leaving her cousin and uncle, cousin slowly grew up, uncle introduced a daughter-in-law to his son, because the conditions of the uncle's family can be, so the cousin became a family, and uncle lived together for a few years, buy groceries and cooking, washing dishes and clothes are all uncle's business, uncle retired after becoming an authentic old nanny, his son from childhood to become a family did not help him to wash a piece of clothing, wash a piece of clothing, wash a piece of clothes, wash a piece of clothes, wash a piece of clothes, wash a piece of clothes, wash a piece of clothes, wash a piece of clothes, and wash a piece of clothes, wash a piece of clothes, wash a piece of clothes. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on this, but I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good deal on this, and I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good deal on this, and I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good deal on this, and I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good deal on this.
Great uncle, this year has been 80 years old, son and daughter-in-law rarely to see him, in addition to the need for money, will look for him, usually almost do not come home, in fact, the great uncle life is very frugal, rarely to see him wear a new piece of clothing, clothes are washed white, and even have holes can not afford to throw, and occasionally my mother will give her to buy a new piece of clothing, we will buy him a little bit of the cousin never gave him to buy anything, the cousin never gave him to buy anything. The heart of the heart at any time calculating the savings of the great uncle, the great uncle hard body, now older, every day to find old colleagues climbing mountains, playing cards, but also pass, but the New Year's holidays on him alone, cold and quiet, sick is also their own one person to take care of their own, an old man of more than 80 years old, or a little bit of pity.
And then my second aunt's home
The second aunt had a daughter that year, because of poor family conditions, the daughter grew up hard-working, because in the countryside, to see her parents work hard, every day after school to help her parents to work, very well-behaved and understanding, has been very hard to go to school, year after year to take the first test, and finally, through their own efforts to get into the university, jumped out of the door of the farm.
The daughter of the second aunt after the university, while studying hard, while working and studying, to earn living expenses, and when the university and the same classmates fell in love, after graduation, have found a good job, the income is also very considerable, and greatly improve the life of the whole family.
After the daughter in the city to become a family, the two aunts are still living in the countryside, through the family's efforts to build a small house, the days are also very comfortable, the daughter since she joined the workforce, the weekend is a big bag to bring home to visit her parents, good food, with a large number of them to buy a whole lot of clothes on the body of the two families more and more through the foreign style, are all the daughter to the purchase of the daughter as long as the family needs what, daughter, son-in-law, as soon as he heard, quickly buy the parents. The son-in-law heard on the quick purchase, very filial, two aunts are sick daughter with everywhere check, see a doctor, every month pocket money is not less, two aunts praise the girl, son-in-law filial piety, too good for them, although the two aunts family was born a daughter, but the daughter is competitive, know how to, filial piety, so that the two aunts in the village is also raised eyebrow!
Nowadays, many elderly people are sick and hospitalized, see more is the daughter in the company, may be in China men and women identity is different, the pressure of the man will be more, at the same time, most of the son does not have a daughter of the heart of the fine, the son of the big big grin, so take care of the parents of the daughter to be a little bit more, but does not exclude that there are some sons are also very filial piety, the heart of the fine, and do a very good job.
Summary:
I think that no matter whether you have a son or a daughter, there is a great relationship with the family education, as the saying goes, there must be a cause and effect, planting melons get melons, planting beans get beans, what kind of person will the child become in the future? And parents' education and guidance have a lot to do with it, what do you say? Welcome to explore.
Theoretically, raising children are the same, but in fact, most people experience a difference when they get old, one is the girl's heart is fine, and the relationship with parents is closer, the second is that the girl has filial piety, patience, and more willing to take care of their parents, known as the parents of the little coat, and the boy is mostly for the cause and the family, the care of their parents, considerate than the girl will be a little worse. Whether boys or girls, we need to cultivate to become a polite and caring person who knows the basic principles of how to deal with the world, otherwise it will be difficult to rely on.
Depending on the person and easy, it is difficult to distinguish. As long as the old retirement paycheck breaks ten thousand, sons and daughters are the same. Or cultivate the son or daughter into a talent, otherwise?
Raise the girl's family is generally very happy, the girl is more understanding, obedient will also take care of people, the care of parents to be more careful and thoughtful than the boys, there is affinity, so that the home seems warm and happy. The other side of the coin is that it is not a good idea to have a good time, but it is a good idea to have a good time.
I don't think I can count on my son, but I think it's better to have a daughter because she knows how to love people
The son is a construction bank, and the daughter is a China Merchants Bank.