Internet age the pace becomes faster, the new trend can not be exhausted.
Many delicious and fun, have not seen not played, will come out of the cold, leading to the screen in front of the people want to try a hand.
Of course no matter what kind of experience, play is a fresh energy.
Even the hottest things have their day to cool off, and many people deliberately pursue new products and trends, not out of vanity, but just to get in on the action and prove they're keeping up with the times.
If you've been mercilessly humiliated by this, you're sure to feel very wronged.
Women pursuing new things, men can not understand, but there is really no need to speak out to hurt, otherwise, the original precarious marriage may be encountered secondary damage, each other feelings, but also to another extreme.
01 I do "anything" at home, he will speak sarcastically
33-year-old Li Qinfang into an unprecedented predicament, her marriage has become a pool of stagnant water, there is no little vitality and vigor.
Her life is set in stone every day, from the moment she opens her eyes, she is repeating yesterday's behavior, washing, cooking, eating, sending her children to school, going to work .......
She lives day after day, year after year, her life is like a fixed mechanization, or like a mechanical dancer standing in the middle of the stage, staging a one-woman show everywhere, without a single change.
Why is this happening? Li Qinfang also asked herself many times, and then she found the reason, because she has a violent husband who "can't stand anything".
Her husband, short-tempered, extremely conceited, all the things of life are not accustomed to, will have to say a few sarcastic words.
Together with Li Qinfang's makeup, clothes, cooking taste, tableware arrangement, and even lying down on the sofa posture, they all want to seize the opportunity to comment a good deal.
At first, Li Qinfang refuted, but later, she got used to it - he can say whatever he likes, I'll just pretend I didn't hear it.
So, it is also from this point onwards, the family is not even a hint of noise, do not want to take care of each other's emotions are high, even the child can feel the parents' embarrassment and anger.
The child often asked Li Qinfang: "Mom, why don't you talk to dad ah."
Li Qinfang was speechless and simply said, "No, you're overthinking it."
She also tried to "reconcile" with her husband, but he clearly didn't think he was doing anything wrong, saying he was just talking normally and didn't understand why Li Qinfang was always upset.
The two men, as if they were going to start arguing again, simply kept their mouths shut and continued to return to silence.
02 A 40 yuan hot pot milk tea, make me see the truth of marriage
Li Qinfang can not return to the previous love with her husband, she can only think of ways to "self-help".
She didn't want life to be dull, so she made every effort to add color to her life.
First of all, she booked a weekly flower order and placed a large bouquet of flowers on the table, so that she could smell the fragrance of the flowers as soon as she entered the room.
Secondly, she began to change the decorations in her house, the sofa cover, curtains, even the cloth for wiping the table, a new set.
Finally, she tried to start with the meals, learning a lot of meals and buying a lot of western food ingredients.
She really wanted to revolutionize the atmosphere of her home, so she took great care in every aspect.
Unfortunately, the above behavior, in the eyes of her husband, became a "poor toss", he disliked the fragrance of the flowers, disliked the decoration of the color scheme is ugly, and disliked the meal is not good, the wife just warmed up the excitement and firmly frozen.
Finally, at tea time one afternoon, Li Qinfang exploded over a milk tea hot pot, and did not want to live with her husband at all.
It was a weekday, the child woke up from his nap and said his mouth was dry, Li Qinfang suggested: "Recently, there is a homemade milk tea terrain is quite hot, mom order one."
The child was excited, because the child has seen a similar video, call a milk tea, and then additionally call a whole lot of small ingredients, and finally poured them all in, stirred into a pot of milk tea porridge, DIY fun, but also the fun of eating dessert.
After the takeout arrived, mother and son began pouring the ingredients around the coffee table.
Just then, the husband passed by, picked up the takeout order and couldn't help but be furious: "This is all you get for 40 bucks or so, you're too much of a loser... Drink, drink, drink, drink... I'll let you guys have it."
The husband picked up the cup that Li Qinfang was stirring, and splashed it into the trash can in the twinkling of an eye. The child was too frightened to speak, and Li Qinfang was furious: "What's wrong with you, what's wrong with drinking, what's wrong with being mad!"
"Poor, we don't deserve to drink these fancy things, it's really a loser bitch, disgusting." With those words, the husband put on his clothes and left the house.
Li Qinfang and her children were left to look at the mess on the table and weep silently.
03The couple's three views are incompatible, and life is miserable
There is no doubt that such a married life is suffocating.
Li Qinfang husband this kind of people, I also have around, they just can't see other people happy, always have to say a few words to stab and scratch other people, hurt other people will feel happy.
Back to Li Qinfang's family, it is clear that this is a typical three views.
Li Qinfang is determined to increase the interest of life, the day to become tasty, colorful, while her husband believes that the day how to live are over, all the extra tossing is a waste of money, are looking for nothing to do blind folding.
Some people focus on the emotions fed by material forms, while others see formalism as unnecessary hedonism and vanity.
That said, neither view is wrong.
As it is, there are also many people who don't understand why a plastic toy that costs a few dollars to make into a blind box can be sold for $59 or more, and a plain old block puzzle with a logo on it can be sold for thousands of dollars.
The disparity in consumption is reflecting the difference in consciousness, and the crisis in marriage is seeing the difference in these little things.
Possibly in her husband's eyes, the more she tosses and turns, the less lovely Li Qinfang is.
And in Li Qinfang's eyes, the more silent and indifferent her husband is, the less interesting he is.
In the final analysis, both did not step into each other's world, and did not accept each other's point of view, when the disadvantages of not understanding, not communicating gradually appeared, the loser of the marriage will inevitably have to bear more suffering.
Of course, the innocent children are bound to be affected and suffer the baptism of merciless anger.