I think in order to be a good and responsible mother-in-law, you have to let go of your preconceived notions about your daughter-in-law first.
Mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship has been an eternal topic since ancient times, and it is a headache in every family. Because the daughter-in-law, married to the family, is a guest to his parents, and for the in-laws, she becomes an outsider. This will make her feel lost. So as a good mother-in-law, you must care more about him in life, so that she can feel the love beyond her parents.
If I were a mother-in-law, I would let my daughter-in-law, live a little better no longer let her suffer, the same woman, have women's difficulties, are from that step over, why put the previous mother-in-law on my tricks used in the daughter-in-law, aggressive it? Why should a woman make things difficult for a woman. Ask my daughter-in-law more often what kind of dishes she likes to eat, and then cook some of the dishes she eats. I will let my daughter-in-law get used to the environment, so that she will not feel lost because she has left the environment where she has lived for more than twenty years. I will care about her life and will not make her feel that she has become an orphan because she has lost the favor of her parents. As a mother-in-law, I wouldn't would let my daughter-in-law be more favored than my daughter with.
If I were an active person, I would definitely let my daughter-in-law be 'lazy', she doesn't have to do everything for me, she doesn't have to fight with me to wash the dishes, and she doesn't have to help me clean up the house, she's a young person, and young people have young people's things, and she has lived in a pampered environment since she was a child, and if she is suddenly asked to do these If she is suddenly asked to do such heavy housework, then she will definitely be very uncomfortable. She is the love of my son's life, so why should I make things so difficult for her? I am still very healthy, I can do a little more housework, which can also exercise my body, why not?
If I were a mother-in-law, when my daughter-in-law and my son quarrel, no matter who is right and who is wrong, I would be on my daughter-in-law's side, and my son would never leave me or get angry with me. The daughter-in-law, on the other hand, is likely to leave at any time, he left my son will not be happy, my grandson will have no mother, what a tragic thing, there is no such thing as a heavenly thing over, why, go to the daughter-in-law? Anyone who has a young and vigorous time, when I and my husband, also quarrel over most of his life, not also so over? So when they quarrel I will not be on the side of accusing daughter-in-law, but will, try to help daughter-in-law to speak.
Let go of your preconceived notions about your daughter-in-law and be a good and responsible mother-in-law. Now to the daughter-in-law's love, she will certainly remember in the heart, wait until I am old later she will also, take care of me with all my heart, why not? Couples are good for the original match, if I am aggressive towards my daughter-in-law and force her away, then even if my son remarries in the future, I am afraid that this woman is not as good as the original match for my son and for my grandchildren!
So to be a good and responsible mother-in-law, you have to let go of your prejudice against your daughter-in-law!