My mother-in-law is also an independent individual. Her mind does not depend on anyone. She is free to choose her own life. We have no right to ask our mother-in-law to take care of the children for our daughter-in-law. Just a family, everyone will encounter thorny problems and difficulties. If my mother-in-law can help my daughter-in-law take care of the children when she needs your help, I think my daughter-in-law will be grateful to her mother-in-law
Respecting the old people's ideas and not interfering is also a kind of respect for their lives. If young people can respect the elderly and don't ask them to help take care of their children, then if the elderly can help their daughters-in-law share some troubles in a harmonious atmosphere, they will do their best to help their children even if they don't help take care of their grandchildren, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be more harmonious. But in fact, many people can't tolerate each other's shortcomings and will only criticize others from their own standpoint.
Mother-in-law also has the right to enjoy the comfort of her old age. Although it is not easy for a daughter-in-law, it is very hard to take care of the baby independently. In the most difficult times, my mother-in-law will not help to take care of her grandchildren, and she will complain, but there is no explicit law that the elderly must take care of their grandchildren. My mother-in-law also has the right to enjoy her old age. After all, you have worked hard all your life, and you should think about your happiness when you are old. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
But if everyone looks at it from their own standpoint, they will feel that the other party is very unreasonable. Daughter-in-law wants her mother-in-law to take care of her, and her mother-in-law wants her daughter-in-law to be filial to herself. There is nothing wrong with these ideas, but everyone is not a saint and cannot be absolutely generous. Of course, if everyone can tolerate home and everything, I believe life will be more harmonious and beautiful.