Tell me about my grandmother. She meets this requirement. Many women in grandma's time didn't have jobs, but she did. She is a shop assistant in the supply and marketing cooperative. She has no culture. It is said that she is very principled, keeps her word and is top-notch in business. She has three children and two women, and the children of the three sons have no helper to take care of them. I didn't bring my uncle's child before he retired. Later, she didn't bring her second uncle's children, saying that it was a bowl of water, so as not to make people gossip. My mother once said privately that grandma was really hard, and she kept her word.
Thanks to the pension, grandma lived well in her later years. The two daughters also bought her some food and gave her a little money every month. She has her own money, medical insurance and good health. At first, when her grandfather was away, she lived and ate by herself. But in recent years, I am old, and my three sons take turns to take care of me for a month. The place where she lives, with some money to subsidize a little, seems to be doing well.
In fact, in the final analysis, when people are old, if they are in good health and have some money at hand, they will generally live well. It has nothing to do with babysitting.
I was born after 70, and I got married. My mother-in-law was almost 60, and my father-in-law died when my husband was three years old. At that time, the mother-in-law had many sons and could not help the daughter-in-law. She has her own mother-in-law to take care of and a lot of housework to do! I'm married. When the child was two years old, her mother-in-law was paralyzed. At that time, my grandmother was still there. My grandmother lives with my boss, and my penis has moved away. My mother-in-law accompanies me, feeds me every day, takes care of my children and does housework ... now I am a mother-in-law. From the birth of my grandson to now, I am responsible for all housework, three meals a day, washing and brushing my teeth for the whole family, including my daughter-in-law's clothes! Most people in our generation should honor their in-laws in this life and their daughters-in-law in the next life! Always remind yourself to play dumb and find fault with the eggs. This is not right, and that is not right!
Very good and happy, as long as the son is filial, it has nothing to do with these. My mother never takes care of the children with us, including confinement. At most, my brother and younger brother also take the discount we give, but almost all the expenses of parents' illness and death are spent outside, and so is my husband's family. Before and after marriage, including having children and confinement, I saw more than 65,438 kilograms of ginger planted by my mother-in-law. I didn't help my mother-in-law before and after marriage. We gave it to him. According to my husband, he covered all the fucking expenses as soon as he got off work. At first, the salary was very low, and my brother and sister-in-law also had a unit. His brother's pension is several thousand yuan, mainly because his brother gave him food and study before he came out to work. Before her mother-in-law died, her husband's brother would buy meat and fruit for her mother for a long time. It's boring to say this, mainly because of his conscience!
If the elderly are in good health, try to help take care of the children, even if they take them for a few hours every day, which can reduce the burden on the children. The years when young people just had children were the most in need of help. My children were all taken care of by themselves. Really tired, delayed my study and work, and had an impact on my career development.
If the elderly without children have no special circumstances and reasons, just for their own relaxation, they will have a certain degree of dissatisfaction with their children, which will lead to many family conflicts and affect the relationship between young couples. In the future, they still have to worry about the old people, and help the children if they can. Most children know how to be grateful and filial!
Old people don't help their children with their children, from the perspective of law and morality! No problem. But what are the social problems brought about by this? This will make the old man! In their children's hearts, there is an indelible gap, you don't have to talk about it, and you don't have to teach them intentionally! The child knows who to kiss in the future. After all, the feelings between people! Is to care with your heart! It takes time to accumulate. Now the old man doesn't help the children with their children! Don't blame your grandson for disowning you in the future! Once there is a family conflict between the old man and his grandson, you are giving the child a problem! What should he do if he makes a decision? Old people can help their children to take care of their children within their power, let them participate in the construction of the motherland, and the family will be more harmonious. Only when every small family is harmonious can the society be more harmonious! Don't underestimate the elderly with children! It is a matter of national security! Social harmony! A happy event for the whole family!
Whether the elderly help their children to take care of their children, first of all, this is not an obligation that the elderly should bear, and there is no need to bear it. It depends on whether the old man's body and life allow it. The son and daughter-in-law are not filial, and the old man is not a nanny. Some children think that it is natural for the elderly to look after their children themselves. Actually, it's not. Raising children and getting married are good for them. In old age, it should be time for children to repay the elderly, not to put pressure on them.
In fact, in life, old people like to take care of their grandchildren, but there will be many problems in the process. Nowadays, the elderly have suffered more or less, and the concept of parenting is different from that of young people. Maybe they will have differences with their children, especially their daughter-in-law, because of some trivial matters. Sometimes it's hard for a son to get caught in the middle.
Personally, try not to force the elderly to look after your children. They have no obligation, but children should not have other ideas just because the elderly don't look after their children. We should consider how to be filial to the elderly. After all, they are old and need someone to take care of them.
Old people have the right to live freely and have no obligation to raise their sons, grandchildren and granddaughters.
All the old people I have met who don't help their sons with their children live well, are free, happy and healthy.
They have worked hard for their families for most of their lives. At this time, it is the only chance to give their old and weak bodies a rest. Helping you take care of your son is not an obligation or a reason. Their son has done his duty. Your son is yours, and it is your responsibility to raise your son.
There are always people who can't take care of their children because of work, but they are sick. They always have a legal obligation. If the old people don't help them take care of their children, they will be unable to support them in the future and will not be filial before going to bed. Threaten the old man with such stupid, selfish and immoral ideas. This is not only an example for their young children, but also their future retribution.
If you don't understand, you will be punished.
Old people who don't help their children with their babies are very happy! Someone must be unconvinced! But this is the end! It's no use if you refuse to accept it! Some people will make up some stories to refute! But that must be all the stories you made up, not the same as playing with reality! Some people want to kidnap the elderly with moral theory, while others are more realistic and threaten to say: If you can't move, we will leave you alone, which will make you die of pain! Anyway, all kinds of ideas want to treat the old man as their free servant! But the reality is that once the elderly decide to give up everything and plan to spend the rest of their lives easily, they will give up all kinds of expectations for their children, and it is just a delusion for their children to try their best! On the contrary, it is the children themselves who have experienced the hardships of raising children, but they can better understand the difficulties of the elderly and understand the original intention of human nature! Understand the original intention of respecting the elderly! The attitude towards the old man has reversed! Become a real dutiful son! On the other hand, those old people who are willing to be slaves for their children naively think that they did it voluntarily and should do it, and they prefer to do it! I didn't expect the old man to fight for them with his weak body and struggling heart! In this process, there are not many good relations between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law! Finally, the hatchback resentment!
As in-laws, you raised your son, and his son has always been kind to you. But for your daughter-in-law, when her parents are well raised in your family, you can say that you have no feelings for her. What you can do is to help the teenager take care of the child and let him struggle on his own. Actually, it's for this family. She also remembers your kindness. You are old, so it's natural to be kind to you. After all, there are few baiwenhang, and most of them know how to be grateful. It happened that several students around me got married, and two of them were at home with their children. My mother-in-law has to go to work and refuses to bring it, so she has to bring it herself. A few years later, she was out of touch with society and couldn't find a job. My mother-in-law didn't like it, so she finally went back to her home and didn't want to have more contact with her husband's family. When it comes to her mother-in-law, she is full of discontent. In most families in today's society, a man's salary can't afford to support a family at all, so there is no way to ask the elderly to take care of their children. It can be said that our generation is brought up by grandma, whether it is duty or mutual affection. Personally, I think the role of mother-in-law should be to sacrifice herself and help everyone, that is, to be in good health, not to be a staff member.
It is a common phenomenon for the elderly to help their children with their babies in today's society. The task of helping the baby fell on grandma's shoulder.
This crop of grandmothers, when they were young, had to go to work to earn money after marriage, and they were also the main labor force to support their children and complicated housework. Now their children are married, and their daughter-in-law and daughter have children. Is it to help them? Still to no avail?
What a wonderful world outside. Be a Chinese aunt, dress herself up beautifully, dance a square dance, travel in groups, go shopping and enjoy the happiness in her later years.
But his grandson, granddaughter; Grandchildren are left unattended. Old people just don't care about these children, but they still have to care about their children, right?
Therefore, at present, there are many grandmothers in the city who help their children, all of whom are distressed by their daughters, in order to reduce the burden. Most of the rural areas are helped by grandmothers, who still maintain the tradition of China, and grandchildren are the heirs of their own family.
It is also good for the elderly who don't help their babies. They often communicate with their grandchildren, but they can't contribute and give financial support.
Whether the old man helps or not, he has worked hard all his life. We should treat them well for their children and their families. Housework, don't sing high-profile, don't pretend to be the best.