Now a lot of magazines are handing girls these, and the TV series "fat field happy", take a look, very detailed, but can not be copied, to contact the actual situation, I would like to say is that self-confidence is the most important.
And you have to understand him, so-called know your enemy
"Phone rules".
Breaking the message code
Find out the hidden secrets behind three of the most common and confusing voicemail messages ......
- Stuttering and stuttering
"Hello, ah, it's me, that's what, just to call. phone call to see if you're in. Nothing much, dropped you a line ......"
Nervousness is the biggest characteristic of this type of message, which shows that he cares quite a lot about you, and also that he cares a lot about the impression he leaves on you.
-Purely Business Type
"It's me. Call me back as soon as you can, Bye!"
Women usually find this tone intonation too stiff and rude. But don't forget that this is how men usually use the phone, and in their eyes, the phone is nothing more than a tool for quickly passing on information. Don't worry about the formalities, what needs to be cared about is - it's obvious that he wants to talk to you.
- Suddenly Unaware Type
"I'm out with my friends, but I wanted to give you a call to say hi and hear your voice. That's all, bye!"
What does he mean? Wanted me to call him back? Jealous that I was hanging out with someone else? The answers to all these queries seemed ambiguous, only one thing was certain - he was thinking of you even though he was with someone else - he liked you, no run.
Men's "telephone law" - telephone etiquette to explain
-He has obviously been interesting to me, but hesitant to take the initiative.
What can I do to get him to ask for my phone number? You have to realize that many men are shy, and many are too "dumb" to pick up on your hints, and both of these types of men usually won't take the initiative unless they are 100 percent sure that you are willing to give them your phone number. As a smart woman, you have to take the pressure off him and ask for his phone number. If that seems a little too "rough" to you, try breaking up the date with a gentle nod like, "You can call me."
-My caller ID tells me he called me when I wasn't home, but didn't leave a message.
Should I call him back? And if so, should I mention that I know about his call?
Proactively calling him on the grounds that you found out through caller ID that he had called you may seem like a great idea on the surface, but in reality it's only a third-rate tactic. Remember, when you're on the phone, the "phone game" has its own set of rules, especially in the early stages of a relationship, it's especially important to follow the rules. Only after he has left you a clear message - such as leaving you a message to call back - will it be your turn to take action.
-Does the fact that he hasn't called me since the date mean he's not interested in me at all?
This is obviously not a good sign. Generally speaking, when a man is enamored with a woman, unless all the phones at hand are broken, he'll be eager to call his sweetheart. There is also a possibility that although he is very interested in you, but do not know what attitude you will be, so hesitant, rather than repeatedly torturing themselves, but do not dare to call over. This kind of indecisive man I advise you not to consider, let him pay for his incompetence!
-I've already left a message on his recorded phone at home, should I call his cell phone again?
It depends on what kind of person he is - if he's the kind of person who says "why don't you call my cell phone?" then everything's OK, just call until you find him. If you've left him a message before and he responded in the first place, then there's no need to go after him. It's important to note that if you're not sure what kind of person he is, or if you've just started dating, it's better to be patient and not be too pushy.
-Wouldn't calling him back later add a few more points to my attraction to him?
The answer is - "absolutely"! When a man is struck by the question "Does she love me? She doesn't love me?" question, your chance comes! As a man, in the face of the unknown you take the initiative for the first time after the attack, his heart must be apprehensive. If this time you forget to be reserved, call back too quickly, so that he perceived that you are equally eager (even more than he still rushed), then he will feel the challenge of a lot lower, everything will become tasteless.
In addition to phone calls, there are also SMS text messages that you receive after the first meeting, after which you receive the following text message: How are you? It's nice to meet you, let's meet again, I'll pick you up at six o'clock.
You're tempted to reply: I'll see you at six o'clock!
You have to reply: I'd love to, but I've already got a date, can we meet next Monday?
Why?
You are indeed very eager to meet him, and you are even beginning to fantasize about a beautiful relationship, but please allow yourself at least a few days of space, men will be as eager to establish a relationship as a hungry tiger when they are in love, they will not take into account your feelings, and you should be the one to control the pace at this time, he can't just go from being a stranger to being your boyfriend in a few days, he He can't go from a stranger to your boyfriend in a few days, he should know that you have your own life and fun, and that every minute of your time is precious. You can't respond with "I'm sorry I don't have time" because you're expecting to be on the same stage as him.
This tactic isn't an argument against going with the flow, it's just a way to give the man room to move on and give yourself enough leeway to still encourage him to ask you out again, but don't forget that you really need to reserve your time for your friends and family, and it's definitely wise to slow down in moments like these.
●Last text from the cute guy you met at prom last week: where are you? Are you out for a drink?
You're tempted to reply: where to? I'll be out in a minute!
You have to reply: sorry, which one are you?
Why?
He had two whole weeks to give you a call, but unfortunately he seemed so busy that he only bothered to spend 15.2 seconds sending you a text when he felt he needed a female companion. Did it never occur to him to formally ask you out during those two weeks?
Don't be solicitous of him, he has a lot to work on! This setback will remind him that he's being overly smug and presumptuous, and that you're definitely not the kind of flirty girl who can be greeted out of a glass of wine.
●Encountering an ex-boyfriend in a shopping center, followed by a text message from him: Still so pretty, I miss you, let's find a place to sit and talk some day.
You are tempted to reply: You finally understand my goodness!
You should take: ignore is the best way, at most reply: thank you, let's talk about it later.
Why?
It's easy to move your fingers and send a text message, it's hard to dial your phone number, let alone chat face-to-face. If he really wants to see you, or even ready to take a step in the direction of breaking the ice, he shouldn't just send a text message, and if he genuinely wants to make peace, his actions won't end here.
It is undeniable that the moment you receive a text message, all the memories of your past will surface in your heart, but he does not see how much expectation there will be a reply to the letter, if you do not respond to the depressed mood will affect the two of you, but at the moment you need to force him to act, so as to understand whether he is really willing to give up the text message, change the phone to talk. If your indifference is rewarded with another text message from him, you should reply clearly telling him that you want to meet in person rather than in this way.
Giving him hope assumes that you want to start over with him, and if your relationship history has left you y hurt, it's advisable to turn around and walk away from the old ways. Say to him: you look good too, take care.
●At 2 a.m. on Saturday morning, a man you once had a fling with sends a text message: I've been looking for you everywhere and I'm dying to see you, can I come over now?
You are tempted to reply: Don't you know my address?
You should take: you must not reply to anything, turn your cell phone off to mute, go to sleep, and the next morning if you find that he made dozens of phone calls, send a text message to question him: are you crazy?
Why?
Anyone who tries to get in touch via text at that hour is not having to be responsible for their behavior after the fact, so why doesn't he text you during the usual daytime hours? Men are very prone to impulsive behavior under the influence of alcohol.
Remember to be wary of late-night text messages, which are usually the devil of desire calling, full of hints of lust and debauchery. Don't give any chance to a man who is afraid to contact you while awake!
●You're making dinner and getting ready to watch a serial when he says: What are you going to do tonight? Got a date?
You're tempted to reply, No, do you?
You have to reply, I'm making dinner, let's go out next week.
Why?
If he really wants to ask you out, he has to give you at least a couple hours notice, and it shouldn't be via text message, to let him know that you're a social animal with a great spare time, a full schedule, and that you never change your plans for an impromptu date with a male.
Only good sisters and relatives have the right to ask to meet you without saying hello beforehand, and for such males give him a polite lecture, and repeat offenders can be put right into the category of no consideration.
You have to believe that your time is valuable and that it is his honor to take time out to date him. Of course it is a little difficult to put on airs if you are eager to meet with him, but it is not possible to be overly tolerant of males who ask for dates without saying hello in advance. Your principled approach to your time and scheduling can remind him to maintain enough respect for you.
●He booked a date but stood you up. He sent you a text message saying: I'm so sorry, I'm temporarily attending a coworker's farewell party, can we make another date next week?
You're tempted to reply: no more dates, asshole!
You have to reply: no.
Why?
A man who disrespects you and your time will not get a second chance. It only takes 5 seconds to make a phone call to notify you of a canceled appointment and wastes your day.
It's not uncommon for a man to do this kind of thing; it was once analyzed specifically for this phenomenon, and the only conclusion was that he doesn't love you as much as you think he does. Putting aside the position of etiquette and respect, you can do a little bit of transposition, if you are in love with a person, there is a chance to meet with him, you will easily let go? Even if there was an unforeseen event that you had to miss the appointment, you would be the first to grab the phone and let him know.
For men, this is quite a low-level kind of behavior, don't think that you are narrow-minded, a more correct way is to delete along with the cell phone number.
And then there's their Achilles heel
Beauty: no matter how good a character you are, you won't get an encounter without it. Men appreciate beautiful women without exception.
Sociable: the more you can talk, the happier men will be, but too much emphasis will only make men wonder if I have met a socialite, because of the reduction of enthusiasm, and feel that it is safer to just be ordinary friends.
Jealousy: a complete lack of words will instead make men insecure about love. Is she not interested at all if she cares so little about me? Making him nervous once in a while is good for a relationship.
Cooking skills: as an excuse to go up to his house, but too poor skills would not be justified. Conquering a man's heart starts with conquering his stomach.
Conversation skills: it becomes the main character at parties, but be careful not to get too argumentative or gushy. Men are argumentative creatures, so they won't want to marry a mirror version of themselves back home.
Carefulness: Men sometimes care about very small things, so beware of trouble coming out of the mouth.
Saving: It's not important when you're in love, but if you're talking about marriage, it becomes a choice focus.
Pathetic look: "I can't do it without you by my side" is an element that mesmerizes men. There is a dog-like instinct in a man's nature to protect his food.
Willfulness: It is more or less loved by men, and if you use it together with the pitiful look, you will win a hundred battles.
Cooperative: Invited to a cocktail party or a men's and women's gathering among men, she must occasionally cooperate with him, even if she doesn't like it.
Shyness: without this, one is made to feel inadequate in love, a sort of character ace.
Only for reference ah!!!!