65-year-old sister: late in life and people ambiguous, did not expect to be the hijacking of my life, what do you think? First of all, you have to tell her that since she is married, her ambiguity with other people should not happen, he did this has hurt your heart, her as if nothing and unrepentant more hurt your self-esteem as a man. Although the ambiguity is not as unacceptable as cheating, it can be the beginning of cheating, resulting in an irreparable end until the end. Therefore, you have to tell her ambiguity is not to have, and absolutely is not right, he did this in a step by step challenge to your marriage and feelings, is the contempt of your love for each other.
Secondly, you need to communicate with her, tell her that you still love her, and want to get her back and attention, and re-examine your marriage in the end where the problem is, is it that you have been too busy lately did not give him enough care or you accidentally ignored her emotions, so that she needs to get more from the outside. Marriage is a matter of two people, has gone wrong, it is necessary to find the reasons from both sides to make the marriage better, both of you have the responsibility to maintain it well, *** with the efforts and make adjustments. Ambiguity is a part of mental derailment, the woman likes ambiguity, the man is afraid that if the blame will make the relationship between you worse. Only good communication, and from both sides to find out the reasons for mental derailment can be the right medicine to repair this marriage.
Once again, you need to tell her that you have a bottom line, where your bottom line is, and if you touch that bottom line, she will really lose you, and your relationship and marriage will be ruined, and as an adult, she needs to think it through and be ultimately responsible for her own behavior. Let her realize that ambiguity this kind of mental derailment is a prelude to behavioral derailment, if he still loves you, but also have more expectations for your marriage, then please she hangs back and re-focus on your family, so that her body and mind are returned to this home, you will also cherish her more.