Apart from personal conditions, high personal ability or income, experience and experience, such a woman does not have an advantage in marriage, so it is really difficult to find a satisfactory man to spend the rest of her life with.
In general, older women are over 30 years old. Because the marriage problem can't be solved smoothly, they lose their vigor and vitality, and their mood often fluctuates, which is incomparable with the relaxed state of young people.
1. Why can't older women find men with cars and houses?
1. The influence of male mate selection criteria
I feel that it is difficult to choose a spouse because of the limitation of male mate selection standards. Men want their wives to be young, beautiful, handsome and energetic.
Men with cars and houses have relatively good family conditions and stable income. As long as it is not particularly unsightly, older women will definitely not be considered, and girls who make themselves happy will be listed as the first choice.
They don't think about older women at all unless they have to, and they will focus on younger women.
2. Comparison of young women
Young girls, when they get married, will also target men with cars, houses and high incomes. As long as these rigid requirements meet them, other conditions for men will be relaxed. A man with a car and a house can marry a young girl, even if he is older.
If there is no competition from young girls, the marriage of older women can be solved smoothly. But in front of young girls, older women have no advantage at all, which is why older men still have young and beautiful women around them.
3. The reasons of the older leftover women themselves
Many older women have good personal conditions. It's not that they can't find a marriage partner. It is only because they are too picky about the marriageable age and miss the marriage partner that they become older women. They don't want to lower their marriage standards, so they are reduced to older women.
If they can wake up in time, think clearly about their own advantages and disadvantages, and adjust their mate selection criteria in time, it will also reverse the situation of older women.
Because they can't find a suitable man for a long time, even if they don't talk, they are anxious, which can be shown in many aspects such as manners, expressions and mentality, which makes them look different from young girls' personalities and sometimes even out of place, which has become one of the reasons why they can't enter the marriage smoothly.
Second, if older women want to find a suitable man, they must face their own actual situation and adjust their mate selection criteria in time. They should start from the following two aspects:
1. lower the standard
Older women have reached the age of high and low, so they can't compare themselves with young women because they have no weight compared with young women.
When girls want cars and houses, older women can no longer focus on owning cars. Men without cars and houses are equally excellent. If you choose to stay with them and live a happy and stable life, over time, they will definitely become owners with cars and houses.
Look at those celebrities and big names. They were poor when they were young. Through unremitting efforts, they proved their Excellence with practical actions. Therefore, the criteria for choosing a spouse should not be based on having a car or a house, but on their personality and ability. Gold will shine everywhere, and they will certainly shine at some point.
Positive attitude
Don't focus on others. Compared with others, others have found a good man, and they want to find a better man than her, even more than them. This may or may not be the case, and no one can guarantee that he will find the best man and let others envy him.
At this time, we must correct our mentality and measure our personal conditions. As long as the other party has no shortcomings in the general direction, other small aspects can be relaxed.
Three. conclusion
No one is perfect, and older women themselves are not perfect. They also have many shortcomings. When they criticize each other, maybe they are criticizing them.
He who knows the times is a hero. Even if the criteria for choosing a spouse are adjusted, as long as he feels that two people are happy, relaxed, in love and have the same values, this person is a man suitable for older women. I hope they can find the other half who can make them happy as soon as possible.