? Colleagues in life seem to be a different group of people, different from parents, relatives and close friends, without the blood relationship with parents, without the intimacy of relatives, without the sense of proper proportion of close friends.
? I Baidu a friend's explanation, 1. ? People who have friendship with each other except lovers or relatives; 2.? The object of love; 3.? Refers to the curtain friend. That is, the scope of friends is very wide, in addition to lovers, relatives have friendship with people. Of course, friends also have the depth of friendship, deep friendship, can be only a few of the life of a close friend, shallow friendship, may just have met a few people, can be classified as a friend of the category.
? Colleagues, colleagues, as the name suggests, is to do things together, the probability is that people with similar interests. About colleagues, I have a different understanding, colleagues can be understood as allies. Because of a **** the same thing, or more accurately, because of the **** the same interests, gathered together. If the interest does not exist, it will dissolve.
? In summary, whether or not coworkers can be friends depends on the scope of what each person defines as a friend. If it is a general friend, then coworkers are possible, if it is only a few life-long close friends, it is estimated that coworkers into this range should be difficult. There is also a key factor to consider, which is interest. Between friends involved in the relationship of interest, a lot of feelings are not too pure, is mixed with utilitarian factors, because the feelings themselves is a very fragile thing.
? In addition to relatives, people who have friendship, collectively known as friends. Then coworkers, people who do things together, people who are similar in many ways, such as ideas, concepts, goals, and actions, are naturally called friends.
? Just human beings will have jealousy, far away from the sky that superstar, income millions, but we will not be jealous of him, because too far, the gap is too large, there is no comparability. Close to the side of the colleague, yesterday got lucky, signed a big single, income of 100,000, may be jealous of not, if in case that is your customer, it is not simple jealousy, can be resolved.
? Sometimes, people's emotions are complex and subtle, will synthesize a lot of things to judge whether it is an enemy or a friend? For example, odor, language, vocabulary, movement, demeanor and so on. Friends are distinguished from enemies to say, so colleagues are friends, or enemies? Probabilistically, the probability of a coworker being a friend is a little higher, but the probability of a friend being an enemy is not ruled out, just lower.
? Science fiction writer Liu Cixin, in his masterpiece "Three Bodies: Once Upon a Time on Earth", once designed a thought experiment, that is, in the information age, an ordinary individual, to what extent can destroy the system? Simply put, to what extent can a collective be undermined by the presence of a traitor in it. The answer given in the novel is hundreds of years of upheaval and billions of deaths.
? It is clear that once a coworker becomes an enemy, the consequences are very serious. Another thought experiment follows, what is the most important thing to do once a traitor is discovered? The answer to the novel is to get the chat log of the traitor and his opponent, and the points that the opponent wants to grab are the points that I want to grab. This chat log, you can get high-quality feedback, see your own strengths and weaknesses, but also know what the opponent's focus is.
? A tribute to the work of my favorite authors, Day 10 of the Jane Bowen Writing Group Daily Shift Punch Card , thanks for enjoying.