Two days ago my son suddenly switched to mom when he called me mom, and the first time I heard it I didn't move. The second time I heard it I was a little sad. The third time I heard it, I realized my kid was joking. Because every time he calls "mom", he does it in dialect and giggles when he does it.
What's the difference between "mom" and "mommy"?
I'm a post-80s girl, and when we were kids, very few of us called our moms "Mom". We were all called mom. When I was in middle school, a friend was a girl in a class so all middle school so old, still called called "mom", after school, that girl jumped into her mom's arms and called out for her mom.
In fact, after hearing which girl called mom like this, I envy this girl. It must be that the mom's relationship is a very good one. Otherwise, how can you call her "mom"? So, I always deliberately observe the girl and find a smile on her face every time she is talking to her mom. I've only seen this kind of scene on TV.
"Mom" and "mother" is just a difference of one word, just call it, give people a completely different feeling, called "mom" is a very intimate feeling."" Mom" is like "pampering" and "spoiling" including children. On the other hand, if you say "mom", it doesn't seem to be as warm. It's not that love disappears, but there is always a sense of distance.
The change from "mom" to "ma" hides these three psychological changes in children
We used to be called "mom" all the time, so we didn't feel any change. Now the child is called "mom", suddenly called "mom", this is a psychological change is inevitable.
The first change: they start to have their own ideas.
Observe carefully how happy your child is when you praise him or her for growing up. There was also a time when children liked to say I'm bigger than "someone", when they wanted to grow up on their own, to become little adults, to have their own individuality.
Children are growing up and are very lively and lovely in our eyes, but they are abandoning their "childishness" and don't like to be labeled as "childish" or "immature" by others. On the other hand, the word "mom" has become synonymous with childishness in their eyes, so they call themselves "mom" in order to reveal a sense of maturity, and so they unconsciously assimilate themselves into the group that naturally belongs to them. In fact, it suggests that our children are really growing up.
The second change: children want to be independent.
From "mom" to "mom", the child has had an awakening of self-consciousness, no longer like a small tail every day to stick to you, he gradually began to have their own little secrets, want their own space is no longer dependent on everything, has been doing their own efforts
The third change: there can be a gap between father and son.
In addition to the psychological changes of the above two factors, there can be problems between the father and the son, and there is also so close or bad relationship. This usually occurs in two ways, on the one hand, because the mother and the child have been separated in two places for many years, so the relationship between the two is not too strong. On the other hand, the mother may be too harsh in her discipline of the child. For example, the mother is very controlling and the child wants to run away from the mother, so verbal communication with the mother is as concise as possible.
That is to say, if the name of the child's mother changes, the parenting style will also change. All the love in the world is for getting together, but only the parents' love is for breaking up. True love is an orderly exit. The younger the child is the more he should be loved. The older he gets, the more you should respect his realm and his freedom, not to survive under his own wings, but to get in touch with the world little by little. This is the process of the child's psychological growth and the practice of parenting.
Learning to let go of parents are always afraid of the child to do bad things, worried about the child to get hurt, but afraid of the child to hit the wall on the child to think of everything, this will only stop the child to grow up.
Parents can trust their children to choose their favorite clothes, what food to eat, etc. and dictate their own pocket money. If you don't know when to practice "letting go", start when he calls you "mom".
Let go of your child and let him keep making mistakes so he can wake up from them again." Letting go" is not letting go, parents need to give proper input to keep their children in line, but not to force them, but to respect them as the main focus.
Children who are allowed to have personal space want to have their own personal space when they grow up. This is for the same reason we want our own personal space. Parents peeking into their children's diaries, suppressing their children's freedom of interaction, and trying to peek into their children's space will only suffocate them.
For a child's mind and body to develop well, he or she needs to be able to breathe freely like a fish in water, and have good, good friends who can tell their secrets and moods in a competitive and stressful learning environment. In short, the greatest significance of the transition from "mom" to "mother" is that the child has grown up. If the child is healthy and happy, "mom" and "mom" are the best names.