Features: Children aged 3-4 enter a stubborn sensitive period, and some children enter this sensitive period ahead of time when they are almost 3 years old. Explain that everything should be done according to his thoughts and intentions, otherwise his mood will change greatly, he will lose his temper, cry and make trouble. At this time, parents and teachers should give their children enough patience and care, and also learn some soothing skills.
The sensitive period of children's obstinacy may come from a sense of order. When constructing the special quality of sense of order, children's excessive demands are often considered as "willfulness" and "nonsense", but we think the concept of "stubbornness" is more accurate. During this period, children are often inflexible and sometimes unreasonable.
We don't know the real reason, but we know that children's psychological activities must be orderly, and when they don't go beyond this order, they will be strictly enforced.
Suggestion: To solve children's stubborn problems, one must understand, the other must be flexible, and the third must be successful. Understanding is not particularly difficult, but flexibility requires wisdom and skill. Only by adapting well can we successfully solve the problem and have the happiness that comes with it. How to master flexible skills is a subject we have been studying.
It should be noted that children's demand for order did not reach a stubborn level at first. At first, they will feel uneasy and cry. With the gradual formation of self, he raised this order to the level of consciousness and began to become stubborn and uncompromising.
2. The sensitive period of pursuing perfection is 3.5 -4.5 years old.
Features: children need to be perfect in doing things.
It is very painful to sprinkle a drop when carrying water;
There should be no spots on the apples you eat;
The white bedpan in the toilet should not have any yellow stains;
Clothes can't be short of buttons or something.
Then rise to the requirements of the rules:
I obey the rules, you must obey them, and everyone must obey them;
The banana peel must be thrown into the trash can, and if there is no trash can, it must be held;
The red light is on, even if there is no car and no one on the road, you can't cross the road. Be sure to pay it back after it's over, and it's no good paying it back. Who told you to do this!
Suggestion: still respect the children! At this time, you don't have to worry about whether the child must eat a whole cake, whether it will become his favorite waste, and so on. Children's problems should not be expanded, and when to expand is just for what.
3. The sensitive period of curse is 3 -5 years old.
Features: Words that sound uncivilized and scary, such as "smelly ass and egg", "pooping", "killing you" and "kicking you to death", always come from children of this age. Because at this time, children find that language is powerful, and the most powerful word is curse. The stronger the reaction of adults, the more children like to say it.
Suggestion: ignore and dilute! Don't care about the child's language. This is not what he really wants to express. Wait for this stage to pass slowly.
4, inquire about the sensitive period of birth 4-5 years old.
Features: During this period, children often start to ask themselves where they are from, ask ask. Adults' answers should not be a little sloppy, because this is the earliest source of children's sense of security and the oldest philosophical question of mankind: Where do I come from? If your child reaches this sensitive period.
Suggestion: Parents should take out encyclopedias seriously and tell their children the whole process of life formation scientifically.
The sensitive period of interpersonal relationship is 4.5 -6 years old.
Features: From exchanging toys and food one-on-one, to finding like-minded partners, they begin to be attached to each other, from playing with many children to interacting with only one or two children, the children themselves have experienced the whole process of interpersonal communication, and this kind of communication intelligence is innate.
Suggestion: Parents can give some guidance on how to get along with others, but words speak louder than examples.
6. The sensitive period of marriage is 4 to 5 years old.
Characteristics: After the sensitive period of interpersonal relationship, the child really started the sensitive period of marriage. At the earliest, children will want to "marry" their parents. After that, they will "love" their teachers or other adults.
I didn't "fall in love" with a small partner until I was about 5 years old. For example, I only shared delicious food with my favorite children, often played together, and I didn't want others to interfere when there was a contradiction. In short, they want to have their own space.
Suggestion: No matter how many children want to get married and how many friends they like, parents should give their children free space. Help children establish a correct view of marriage.
7. The aesthetic sensitive period is 5 -7 years old.
Features: Aesthetics means having one's own wishes and aesthetic standards for one's own image, especially girls have a strong interest in their own clothes and costumes.
Suggestion: Children always like to make up during the aesthetic sensitive period. Of course, in the eyes of adults, these "makeup" are outrageous, but these girls are always enthusiastic and always walk around in front of everyone. Until they get your praise, they will leave with a satisfied look and turn to other teachers.
In addition to make-up, girls also like beautiful skirts and shoes, so they should wear and dress according to their own ideas. At this time, what children need is the affirmation of adults. At this point, we don't need to make any judgment on beauty.
8. The sensitive period of identity confirmation is 4 -5 years old.
Features: Children will give themselves one identity after another. This phenomenon is because children begin to worship an idol and hope that they are that idol. In kindergartens, there are often children in Snow White costumes. You have to call her Snow White before she will agree with you.
In the process of children's identity confirmation, we can observe that they begin to express themselves through idols.
Suggestion: You can play role-playing games at home, and children will be very interested. Maybe you will cultivate a famous artist!
9. The gender sensitive period is 4 -5 years old.
Characteristics: Around 4 years old, children are most concerned about who is a boy and who is a girl. If someone goes to the bathroom, be sure to follow, because it is necessary to observe whether it is a boy or a girl.
Suggestion: Children's exploration and understanding of the body comes from observation. When adults explain to children, their attitude must be objective and scientific, just like understanding children's eyes, nose and mouth. Of course, the encyclopedia is the best tool at this time.
10, and the sensitive period of mathematical concepts is 4.5 -7 years old.
Features: Children are over 4 years old and always like to ask: How many people are there? What time is it? How many people are there? This is because children have a strong interest in names, numbers and numbers. But at this time, the child can't fully understand the logic, and can only match the names, numbers and quantities.
Suggestion: This is the initial development of children's mathematical intelligence. Only by mastering the Trinity can we master the concept of numbers. At this time, children can buy some daily necessities for their families and exercise their computing and economic abilities by spending money.
1 1, the sensitive period of literacy is 5 -7 years old.
Features: This is the first time a child touches a symbol. Our method is to give children some character cards and let them match the words and actions they see to learn the characters.
Suggestion: At this stage, children can only understand Chinese characters from a macro perspective, that is, the overall image, but they can't decompose the strokes of Chinese characters and can't write. Children will also be interested in some familiar words. For example, they will find that the words in their names appear in other places.
12, the sensitive period of painting and music is 4 -7 years old.
Features: This is innate intelligence. Painting is the language that children can use best. From doodling to expressing one's feelings, the whole process is a natural display.
Children begin to develop hearing in their mother's belly, and children over one year old can twist their bodies with the rhythm of music. Music is the language of human beings, and children are born with the highest artistic appreciation ability.
Suggestion: In this sensitive period, as long as we can provide a high-quality environment for children, we can help them develop.
I3。 The sensitive period of continuing marriage is 5 -6 years old.
Features: This sensitive period after 5 years old is a continuation of the previous sensitive period of marriage.
Suggestion: At this time, the child's tendency to choose a spouse is very obvious, and he knows some simple marriage rules, such as only those who love each other can get married.
I4。 6 -7 years old is a sensitive period for the development of social interests.
Characteristics: Children's development from 0 to 6 years old is the epitome of a person's macro development. By the age of 6, they began to take the initiative to understand the basic rights of themselves and others, like to abide by each other and establish rules, and form a sense of cooperation.
For example, electing the monitor, realizing self-management, supervising who doesn't come into the classroom in class, who doesn't wash his hands before eating, and which child doesn't follow the rules of kindergarten … these are all things they are very concerned about.
Suggestion: Let children participate in some social activities, including public welfare activities, such as picking up their own garbage and donating money. This is a good opportunity to cultivate children's sense of social responsibility.
I5。 The sensitive period of mathematical logic is 6 -7 years old.
Features: There is a difference between the sensitive period of mathematical logic and the sensitive period of mathematical concepts. After completing the understanding of numbers, names and quantities, children begin to be interested in the order of numbers, concepts and the relationship between concepts.
Suggestion: For example, let children learn the methods of addition, subtraction, multiplication and division through Montessori's mathematics teaching AIDS. This method learns mathematical logic rather than simple memory.
I6。 The sensitive period of animals and plants, scientific experiments and collections is 6 -7 years old.
Features: Children begin to absorb all knowledge from nature enthusiastically. Children's interest in exploring nature is much stronger than we thought. Children can remain studious and curious until they are six years old.
Suggestion: Give children more opportunities to observe nature.
17, the culture sensitive period is 6 ~ 9 years old.
Features: Children's interest in cultural learning begins at the age of 3; 6 ~ 9 years old, there is a strong demand to explore the mysteries of things. Therefore, the hearts of children in this period are like a fertile land, ready to receive a large number of cultural seeds at any time.
Suggestion: Parents can provide rich cultural information at this time, which is based on local culture and extends to caring for the world.
The above 3 1 sensitive period can basically cover the main stages of children's growth.
The helpless body of a child who has experienced a sensitive period is being commanded by a sacred command, and his small heart is also encouraged. The sensitive period is not only a critical period for children to learn, but also affects their spiritual and personality development. Therefore, adults should respect the behaviors and actions given to children by nature and provide necessary help. So as not to miss the golden opportunity.