Every day, my father-in-law goes out fishing, plays tai chi, and then gets together with a few old buddies to drink tea or something. The mother-in-law cooks three meals a day, and the dishes are all brought back by her son after work. After the family eats dinner, the daughter-in-law is responsible for washing dishes and shabu-shabu, and then urges the children to study. The mother-in-law and her older sisters go outside for square dancing and don't come home until nine o'clock every night.
This day was supposed to be calm and beautiful, but then something happened, and Xu's mother was diagnosed with intestinal cancer. The only child of Xu, the mother of the two children, was born to a family of two. The first time I saw this was when I was a child, and it was the first time I'd ever seen a child. After Xu and her father took her mother to the hospital, the doctor said that she should have an operation first and then chemotherapy. While their mother was hospitalized, Xu and Tan Xinnan took turns going to the hospital while working.
The father was running between the hospital and home every day, and because he was so tired, he had another accident on the way to the hospital. Suddenly, both old men fell ill and Xu and Tan Xinnan could not take care of them, so they had to hire two nurses. The two nurses, a month nurse added up to 6,000 dollars, plus medical expenses, food and so on. Every day costs a lot of money.
Just spending money. There's nothing you can do when you're sick, but those two caregivers provide a bad service. Because they are outsiders, the elderly feel put out, especially urinating and defecating, wiping the body, changing underwear, etc.. It's very inconvenient. They have to wait for their daughter and son-in-law to go to the hospital before they are willing to wipe their bodies and change their underwear under the care of their daughter and son-in-law.
To take care of two patients and a child, work in the unit was intense, and both Xu and Tan Xinnan felt exhausted. Her mother-in-law, who is heartbroken for her son, starts complaining and blames Xu's family for dragging her feet and making her son sleep badly every day. Xu Lan is embarrassed and doesn't know what to do!
The aunt, who lives in the same ward as Xu's mother, has a son, a daughter and two children, plus a daughter and son-in-law. A **** four young people taking care of an elderly person. They didn't hire a nurse, and the four took turns taking care of the old man. The old man was in a good mood and recovered quickly. Xu Jinlan looked at their large family and for the first time felt how good it would be to have a younger sibling in this situation!
The day her father was discharged from the hospital, Xu checked out just in time to catch a couple hugging and crying in the hallway. Xu Lan inquired about the incident. It turned out that the couple's only son died due to illness. My son was supposed to graduate from college this year, and they had already contacted workplaces after he arrived. They had already arranged a matrimonial home for their son's future marriage, but now - already in his 50s!
After their parents fell ill, Xu and Tan Xinnan decided to have another child. If there was any danger in the future, their daughter would have a helping hand, and the couple would be relieved to leave this world. But having a second child at 40 is not a simple matter, and it's not even possible to get pregnant. So Tan Xinnan said, "Don't tell your family yet, wait until you're pregnant. If you tell them early in the morning, how embarrassing it would be if you can't get pregnant!"
The couple quietly got pregnant, and Xu went to explore his daughter. The daughter was not against or in favor of her parents having a second child. She just thought her mother was talking casually.
Fortunately, a few months later, Xu became pregnant. When Tan Xinnan announced it to his family, he believed his parents would be supportive. But to his surprise, his father didn't object, but his mother was strongly against it. My mother didn't want to grow old, but she also had to help her son and daughter-in-law with their second child. She wanted to continue this leisurely life, dancing and eating good food every day. How nice! Why ask for trouble and create another burden.
But the mother-in-law didn't say what she really thought, she just said that the burden of having a second child is too heavy. In the future, when the parents are old, the child will only be older, which is not fair to the child. If you don't get it right, there may be a scourge to the boss, and it's not good to find a date for the boss, who would want to marry a daughter-in-law and help take care of her brother-in-law or sister-in-law .
When my daughter heard her grandmother say it was bad for her, she immediately became upset. The grandmother took the opportunity to tell her granddaughter that Hsu was a son and she wanted a son too. Once she has a son, she won't treat her daughter well. The daughter had grown up enjoying the love of her parents, grandparents, and grandparents. Now, suddenly someone wanted to share that love. Of course, she instinctively refused. Now that her grandmother has brainwashed her and strongly urged her to oppose her mom having a second child, she's really fallen out with her mom.
After messing around for more than five months, with the support of her grandmother, her daughter, who was about to take the midterm exams, saw that her mother was delayed in getting an abortion and took a vicious 3354 hunger strike, announcing that she would not take the midterm exams. Helpless, Tan Xinnan and his mother had a fight, the mother said: "I will never help you have a second child!"
"We don't let you bring it, we hire a nanny!" Tan Xinnan said.
"I don't agree with a nanny coming to my house. Every day a stranger lives in my house. Is this still my home?" Mom said.
"Then let's move out!" Tan Xinnan said.
"No! We only have one son, so we have to live with him so we can take care of each other." The mother said without budging.
In the end, only Xu gave in. As she lay on the operating table to remove the baby, she let out a loud cry. The doctor later told her it was a boy. Because the baby was more than five months old, and Xu was old, and because the operation had done so much damage to Xu's body, she couldn't have any more children.
The furor over having a second child ended with the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law finished. Shortly afterward, her daughter took the midterm exams and got into a very good high school, and things gradually got back on track.
However, another "unexpected thing happened". When my daughter reported to her new high school, she was involved in a car accident on the way. When Xu, Tan Xinnan and her in-laws arrived, the child was already dead. At that moment, the whole family couldn't accept the reality, and the pain enveloped them like a boundless darkness.
From then on, the family became orphans. Xu Jinlan refused to let her son and daughter-in-law adopt the child. The mother-in-law asked her son to divorce and remarry, but Tan Xinnan said he would never abandon Xu Jinlan.