Dating is a process in which two strange creatures, guarded and wary, slowly approach each other, and the most common embarrassment is the cold.
Two people sitting in a restaurant silly, eating and chatting, a ride without a ride, both sides are racking their brains to find a topic of conversation, the brain is running at high speed, a meal to eat down more than the war are tired, accidentally cold, cold three or five times on the end.
Both spent time, but also on the energy, and finally empty-handed, lost a wife and soldiers.
The key to this "static dating" is only suitable for "the beginning of the dating stage", can not always play, because the static mode can not effectively promote the subsequent plot development, the efficiency is extremely low.
The same goes for watching a movie.
Two people spent three hours, the whole process in addition to the "pick up + send" stage, can probably exchange a few pleasantries, most of the time wasted in the movie, the front couples head to head snuggle with each other, the back of the young in the bla bla bla kissing ......
you two! The movie can not see in, spend money for nothing, can not talk, but also be a mouthful of people stuffed with dog food, a huge stupid incomparable thief embarrassed, completely meaningless and inefficient.
In fact, the most suitable stage for watching a movie is when the relationship between two people reaches the most crucial stage of the "transition" in the "rise and fall".
The initial stability of the relationship between the two, each other feel that the other is reliable, can continue to go down, but who can not wipe the face, at most pulled the small hand, never found a key breakthrough point to make each other's relationship to a higher level, then go to the dark forest ....... No, the movie theater, by the convenience of darkness and the surrounding rich hormonal environment, one arm creeping forward, can be in the movie before the end of the arm around her waist is victory ....... Relationships have gone to a new level since then.
Generally speaking, two people in the "beginning stage" can adopt a "static mode", sitting in a restaurant while eating and chatting, using words to test, detect and feel each other out.
If they are a little bit fond of each other, or at least they don't hate each other, that's good news, it's a good start.
Next, we must not dare to eat again, at most three or five meals, we must quickly change from "static mode" to "dynamic mode", and find a way to "move time and again to move up! "The first thing that you need to do is to make sure that you have a good understanding of what is going on in your life and how it will affect you.
--Beginning and ending, beginning to be quiet, bearing to move.
How to move?
As an example, on the amusement park.
Because the two of you are not very familiar, so you must go to a "dynamic atmosphere" of the environment, with the help of the environment to drive and stimulate a young man, the environment a stimulus, it is easy to release your activity.
People are animals, as long as they play, it is easy to eliminate the distance and strangeness with the partners around them, and quickly get closer.
Animals do this, unfamiliar a male and a female as long as the play up, can play together, the back of the grass can be drilled ....... Thieves are quick.
And, where amusement parks like this full of action, generally noisy environment, do not have to rack your brains to find nonsense, action on the right.
There is a third advantage of the amusement park, inside the adults and children are shouting, those who play the people laugh, did not play also excited, everyone is very joyful, followed up the ****** productionism - the atmosphere is very good.
Whether you or the other party, can be infected by the atmosphere, people are happy, it is easy to remove the disguise, let go of the guard and guarded, open heart, the words on the thief, naturally unfold a lot of topics.
You'll be able to say one or two wrong things once in a while, and the other person will laugh it off and not mind.
You two to put aside in the restaurant static blind chat, a said not right, poking in each other's acupuncture points, her mouth does not say in the heart, you just buy a single side, her side to you deleted, you do not even know how to die, a head of confusion, death is not close to the eyes.
In a place full of motion and joy, there are no such concerns.
Sisters to really timid and weak, what what all dare not, that's okay, the surrounding environment is good atmosphere great, you two will rent a leisure car to skate around to see the scene, while watching and chatting, the topic will never worry, unknowingly can talk about a book out.
The same spend a few hundred dollars, than to go to the hotel much stronger, the efficiency is particularly high.
So what do you do when you get to the playground?
Of course you have to listen to the girl, you have the right to suggest the right to explain, she has the right to decide.
Rest assured that the general girl with you out to play for the first time, are talking about a reserved, will not go in, the tiger does not pull a few drag you straight to the roller coaster to play life, to really catch up with such a tiger woman, you either run, or kneel down to sing a conquest.
For the first time, the girl generally do not play too difficult, and you are not familiar with that point, but also to play a coefficient of difficulty of 1.0 or less of the two-person project, what carousel bumper cars Ferris wheel ...... as long as she played happy, dopamine secretion, look at you on the eye, and then at night together with the dinner, that the communication efficiency swish.
You two as long as you can play together, the back of the dating process is basically smooth, and perhaps also find a little bit of love feet.
They can't play together?
That's even better, it's a good idea to say goodbye, and don't waste your time and energy.
Four of the things to pay attention to:
1, is to make each other happy, she is happy you are happy, all happy not to get into a single happy.
Once a big brother listened to my advice, the weekend pulling a blind date straight to the amusement park, at first very good, he was busy before and after the care is in place, the girl is very happy to play, the two have a point of frown, and then play, this grandson himself to play high, a twist of the head, the person lost ......
There is a Men are born to be the heavenly lone star, a lifetime suitable for playing single player, not suitable for playing the two-player combination game of marriage.
2, proper control of your hormones, do not take a look at the girl happy, you take the opportunity to touch people small hand.
The first time you succeeded in getting someone to come out to play, it is like the Red Army has just gone down to Jinggang Mountain, has not yet begun the long march, do not rush to launch an attack on the Kuomintang, or else it will be difficult to get off the ground.
Also don't tiger, to challenge the super swing hammer, show off your little androgynous temperament ...... not likely to have to her to help you play 120.
3, don't play the popular projects.
Because of the long queue, easy to get annoyed, the two people wide-eyed and back to static mode, very embarrassing.
4, a lot of people lively, more long heart, protect each other's safety, food and drink to take care of in place.
Whether in love, dating or writing a story, are concerned about a "Wenxi see the mountains do not like flat", move times to get up and actively mobilize the two sides of the hormones, to do a moving and static, appropriate to her to create a little surprise and excitement, stirring the emotions, do not go to the restaurant and the cinema to play the dead air! The "static mode", make the two people with seventy years old twilight love like.
All in all, the "rise and fall" in the start to be quiet (dinner), bearing to move (play), turn to black (movie theater grove) ...... last to be together.
Don't get the order wrong.
There is an old comrade, the body times great, others are kind to introduce him to an old partner, the first meeting, the old man is still honest and stable as a dog, the second time directly pull the old lady to go to the square dance, Kucha gave a twisted waist, shelved home to lie down for half a year ...... This is a heavenly lone star, ghosts do not dare to recruit him.
Many people are worried, with the dating object to meet three or five times, eat three or five meals, each other feel okay, just do not know how to continue to move forward.
You every day on WeChat with people static awkward chat, morning and evening please, she is not the old Buddha, but you have been Li Lianying, the atmosphere allows you to get dead, no flavor, weird, very screwed up, to me I do not take care of you.
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The talent in love on WeChat "love", there are endless heart, and you are not, you go on a blind date route, each other, there is nothing to talk about, you have to go off the beaten track, take the "play friends" route of the campaign, the atmosphere of the "play" up.