? A Syrian boy of 12 years old sued his parents in a Lebanese court on the grounds that they gave birth to me.
His parents unjustly defended themselves: that's how I grew up! I have worked like a slave all my life to support my children, and I am willing to commit many crimes. At first glance, parents also have their own secrets. But when you think about it carefully, you find that their causal logic is very problematic. It seems that having children is the cause, and hard work is the result.
? Imagine, if living itself is very difficult, and living is suffering, then why bother a new young life and struggle in this dark hell on earth? I don't think children should blame their parents for their unhappy life. Children should be the sublimation of their parents' lives, not the praise of their parents. They never want their children to be good people. Every child should be an angel on the earth, and should be born in a pure, warm and clean environment, not a shit-like world; Every life should come in the sound of expectation and blessing, not an uninvited guest in bed; I still advise people to be cautious if they have no ability to make our life in this world live happily and with dignity.
I have never understood why someone would choose "Dink", because the child is so cute, so full of hope, so high-spirited, which is our living witness and our living goal. With the growth of age and knowledge, I found that children mean more to us than that. I watched the first issue of The Golden Star Show, and the guest interviewed was Carina Lau. The host Venus asked about the children. Carina Lau said that there was a time when she wanted children very much, on the grounds that children were the standard for women, just like a bag in a woman's hand. Later, she and her husband, Tony Leung Chiu Wai, agreed on the issue of children: children are the responsibility, and raising them badly will have too much influence on public figures, so they chose to be a dink. And Li Jian, a former Shui Mu youth member. A netizen once said: You have such a good gene. If you don't have children, wouldn't it be for nothing? Li Jian replied, I don't think my genes are very good. Children are a social responsibility and a personal choice. This group of people who choose to be dinks is an unusual existence, which is called "tide" in modern parlance.
Contrary to the Dink family, a group of people think that children are a gift of fate, a grace, just like Zan's mother got pregnant after her daughter Saha died, and she also called it "a gift from God". It was the mother's words that completely angered Zan. "You are stabbing me in the heart with a knife." Great. Totally desperate. "I only remember violence, insults, beatings, chains, pipes and belts. The gentlest thing I have ever heard is: "Get out, you son of a bitch. "Get out, you piece of garbage." The endless life of parents is just another child who has been trampled on the carpet forever like praise. The tragedy repeats itself in the foreseeable range, which is the most terrible place. The poorer and poorer, the poorer and poorer. It's like a curse, falling into an infinite loop. Once, because of work, I came into contact with a rogue, who idled around all day and did nothing. My favorite thing to do is to wander around the square dance circle and seduce good women. He is about forty years old, and his wife is said to have died of illness. He is alone with four children, the oldest is ten years old and the youngest is three years old. Whenever I have no money to spend, I take my four children and sit on the floor in the government leadership office, pretending not to leave without money. This trick really works! After repeated efforts, the city's minimum living allowance was provided, and the needy people were given relief once a month, and all kinds of solatium were inclined to his home. Several times, when I went to pay my respects, I saw older children and cooked a pot of thin noodle soup to share with younger children. These children have such a father, which is really a gift for the man, and the children have become tools of sympathy and blackmail. Apart from not selling his own flesh and blood, what he did was not much nobler than that of a trafficker. Ignorant children are born in such a family, and their future and fate are worrying. It is simply extravagant to think that they have a valuable and dignified life.
? For children, I believe that most people have love and goodwill, but it does not rule out the right to kidnap children in the name of love and choose their own lives. In particular, our traditional Confucian culture is too deeply rooted. In order to promote the culture of filial piety, parents' kindness in bearing and rearing is regarded as the supreme position, such as stories of crying bamboo shoots, begging for carp on the ice, crying at the tomb of thunder, and even stories of mesons pushing and cutting meat to feed their mothers. The logic of filial piety culture: your life belongs to your parents, and what is not yours. At the age when I can't think critically, I believe in this theory. But now it is different: what kind of face we live in this world, from birth, some fate has been doomed. From this perspective, parents should feel sorry. They brought us into an imperfect world without our permission.
? I once read a sentence in a book: the relationship between parents and children is just the encounter between life and life. After a brief intersection, everything is fine. I like this sentence very much. This is reasonable and to the point. There are not so many rewards and debts. They are intertwined and independent. The deepest part of human nature doesn't like the debt that can't be repaid, and the debt that can't be repaid. It is human nature that parents support their children in the weak and their children support their parents in their old age. Why impose ungrateful logic? If we don't feel indebted to our parents, will we flatly say no when our parents interfere in our lives? If parents don't expect their children's "crow feeding back", will they plan ahead in the face of the old, the weak and the sick? No one is the expectation of anyone, and no one will be the burden of anyone.
? In short, the responsibilities and obligations between parents and children are limited, leaving room for each other and giving life more free space. I hope my children can appreciate our hardships and hardships. I don't want to burden them with heavy debts. I expect them to go into battle lightly, spread their wings and fly, and live their life.