I am glad to be able to answer you this question, leaving the child can not stand sad how to do? I summarized a few points I hope to help you?
First of all, the child is the heart of the parents, leaving the child who will be very sad!
This mood, every parent can experience, but also understand. But we as a father, to understand that from the day the child was born, we and the child's relationship is the relationship between the line gradually far away. The child will slowly grow up, after growing up will have to leave us to go to school and work, to be psychologically prepared in advance, so that when the day of the real departure, you will not be so difficult. The first thing you need to do is to get ready for the day when you really leave, and you won't feel so bad.
Secondly, we have to adjust our mindset, so that we can enrich ourselves.
Whatever the reason for leaving the child? We have to adjust our mindset, just as the child grows up, will live independently. Think a little more open, in fact, nowadays technology is so developed, transportation is so convenient, the network is also very convenient to communicate, video. If you want to children, we can video every day, telephone, something can also take the car, take the high-speed rail, take the plane can, so that the distance is not too big a problem.
If this is the case, you are still very sad, you can find ways to make yourself full, so you do not have so much time to miss, after a period of time after you slowly get used to it.
Again, you can make good use of this time to do the things you like to do.
In general, when the child is around, parents are surrounded by children, are not too much of their own time, it is just that you can make good use of this time to do what you like to do. You can go and play your hobbies!
These are some of my personal views, I hope my answer can help you!
Leaving the child sad can not stand, this problem I think I am very happy to answer,
2012 when the birth of a pair of twin sons, 2012 to 2016, which lasted for a few years are in, tormented,
2013, I was forced to go out of the way to go out to work, the child is less than a year old, because that time Betrayal, abandonment was swept out of the door, as the saying goes, is because it is a foreign daughter-in-law well, I left the small child at that time, every night is unable to sleep, many times in tears to sleep, daytime work is okay a little bit, and finally in the second half of 2013 can not stay up, their own back to the home, in order to children to swallow their anger, all the things can be let in, although he and other women The first thing I did was to get the money to pay for the house,
In 2014 he went out to work, and then his mother swept me off my feet, I rented a house and lived outside to work, a vacation, a time to go back to see the child, the heartache, the endurance, no one can appreciate, the torment, the woman can leave the man, leave everyone can live, the only thing is to be away from their own,
The first thing I did was to get the money to pay for the house,
The second thing I did was to get the money to pay for the house.
Every day is to use work to paralyze themselves, all day, do nothing like, especially at night, late at night, they often hide secretly tears, feel very helpless, very helpless,
In 2016, finally chose to divorce, even if the previous how to tolerate him? I don't know what to do with him, but I don't know what to do with him. Before he did not give me money, do not give me living expenses, their own daytime on two jobs, their own money to support themselves, children's milk powder, diapers he is not out of the money, although he betrayed me, deceived me, hurt me, abandoned me, let me hurt a thousand holes, body without skin, I have to bear with, I have admitted it,
In 2014, the time it! The time I accidentally got pregnant, after pregnancy, I went to the hospital to fight the child did not live in the month, no rest, what are on their own, with the child or as usual their own look with, why divorce in 2016? The best I'm pregnant, they want a daughter, their family generations are sons, no girl, at this time, he hit me,
At that time, his mother next to his brother and sister-in-law were there, no one came to persuade, looked at him pressed me on the sofa to beat me, in a fit of anger, I left the home, and began to rent a house, in their family moved out of the house to rent a house. Back and forth tossed six times, outside to buy good things, if he said a few good words, I will go back with him for the child,
2016 after the divorce, I still rent a house by myself, in that city, did not leave that city, the child can not afford to give up the child, I was at that time every night is to rely on the drinking and crying to fall asleep, paralyze themselves, thinking of not giving the child a complete home, to give the child a happy childhood, but I can not help, so tired,
In that year I was Saturday, Sunday themselves to bring the children in my place, one to Friday to send them back to their grandmother to go to school, because I have to work, so insisted on more than a year, I can not earn any money in that city, but also have money are spent on small children, I went out to the field to work, although people go to the field to work. I went out to work, although people go out of town, but from time to time will go back to that city, because that house I have not returned, has been rented there, I was in 2017, he wanted to remarry me, I refused, I would rather live alone, have time to go back to see the child, but also do not want to go back to that home, in that home, I have no status not to say, by them dislike of like a piece of shit is not as good as the things like. After leaving them to earn their own money, when they have money to take the children out to play, to see the children instead they are all polite to me,
But I often feel sad for the children, day and night
In 2018, I was no longer in that city, in the second half of 2018 when I completely left that city, the house is rented there, no return, I Go back a little, go back to see the child, I was in 2018, I know that my youngest son accompanied her grandmother to fight, I am very sad, I am very sad, I am really sad to feel that I have no way to live the feeling, I call him and say I am you give me the cub, no matter what? This life I will not starve him, I will raise him, and he did not agree, he came to a sentence, this life is to let me heart is not peaceful, let me this life in the heart of the loss of the two sons, I said at first you are sorry me, I forgive you, but in the end you are still like this, has always been in the hurt me,
Because he knew my mother married four times,
And I have always been one person.
The first time I saw a woman in the house, I was in the middle of the night, and she was in the middle of the night, and she was in the middle of the night. The fact that your heart is hurting means that you are a person who loves your children. A person who loves their children will eventually come back to them, believe in yourself.
But you need to improve yourself in three ways to get closer to your child.
The first is that you should have higher pursuit of economic, so that before you want to do something, first of all, financially, have a stable and high income as your support.
In addition to your own normal career, you can find some part-time jobs in life that suit you. This will not only give you some financial flexibility, but also allow you to come out of the sadness slowly and become comfortable with it.
The second is to improve your own ability to deal with things. If you are sad about leaving your child, you may be less assured of a lot of things, which means that your ability to deal with some things is not enough.
Find some celebrity books to read, or find some books to inspire yourself to read, and put the book said, naturally apply to life, and slowly make yourself comfortable, then, with the children between the ability to interact with a lot of strong, a lot of things can be slowly retrieved.
Third, is to carry out their new life. A person who does not love themselves, others will not love you; on the contrary. Learning to love yourself, you will find that the people who pay attention to you will be more and more, the people who appreciate you will be more and more, and the people who look for you to share the harvest will be more and more, then, your chances will be a lot more. At this point, you won't be limited to just looking inside the hardness of leaving your child.
Remember, you have the financial ability to have free rein, have to get along with people, have their own pursuit, to solve some problems will be very easy . I hope you get together with your kids early and everyone has a good time.
I'm glad to answer your question, it is inevitable to leave your child's heart hard, want to cry, cry out, the heart will feel better, try to keep yourself busy, you will not miss him so much, the following is my answer, I hope to help you.
Hello, I'm thin Food Zhu Xiaomei
I'm glad to be able to answer this question
I'm also a baby mama of two children, and sometimes it's very sad to leave the child once in a while. But as a parent you should adapt, after all the child will grow up day by day and will always be farther and farther away from the parents. I began to leave him half a clock I can not stand, and then slowly slowly slightly adapted, at first he went to kindergarten, I also can not eat all day to sleep, and then on a semester on some good. I hope you will be able to get used to it sooner rather than later!
Hi everyone, I'm Tina, the big-eyed girl, and I'm happy to answer this question. What should I do if I'm too sad to leave my child?
I believe that this problem is currently faced by most families and experienced, in order to live a better material life, the future to give children a better education conditions, had to temporarily leave the child, away from home to work in the city, so that the child has become a left-behind children. This is the only person who has experienced this heartache
I brought our family big baby when, because of the mother-in-law relationship is not harmonious, the economic conditions are not good, and can not bring the child around, also brought to the almost eight months of the time when you go to the field to work. At that time, I was very reluctant to go out for a few days could not sleep, and then I had a belief in my heart, earn more money, and then in a few years, I will be able to bring the child with me, the family will not be separated, and it does not matter if I suffer a little bit, which is the reason why I work so hard. Usually will often call to ask the child's situation, video to see her, in order to solve the pain of longing. Every year, I stay home for more than half a month to spend time with my children during Chinese New Year. The year before last, I had planned to bring my eldest child to study with me, morning and evening transportation, and my working hours are staggered, quite good, but the result of the arrival of the second child has disrupted the plan, can only be a failure, and now I am also in the old home with two children. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do this, but I'm sure I'll be able to do it again," he said!
If the baby moms and dads, have no choice but to leave the child, I suggest that it is best to bring the baby to the age of one, the baby's body resistance to be a little stronger, not so easy to get sick. When the child is three years old can go to kindergarten, the child will be taken over to school, they can also work. If the husband's salary is good, the mother resigned to take a few years of children, and when he is older can go to kindergarten, and then come out to work, or let the grandmother and you go to work with the city to live, let her help with the child, so that you can go to work and every day to see to the child, the best of both worlds, it depends on the child his grandmother is willing or not.
In short, try to earn money, have a certain economic basis, you can bring the children around, no longer let their children are left behind. The child is still in the mother and father side of the growth will be better, on his mind, character, vision, speech, etc. have an impact, after all, the concept of education is different from the previous, grandparents with children are too much spoiled, raised children are bullying.
The above is my answer, I hope it can help you, thank you!
Technology developed, video calls, conditions allow the case to take the time to see the child
Tips: Sometimes separate, for the child also means the beginning of independence
Parents, people to the middle age, must go through things. Children have to go to school, children have to work, they have to leave their parents, as parents, there is no way to always stay with their children. Once the child according to a distant place to study and work, and did not come back many times a year, the remaining parents, is often referred to as the empty nest elderly. What should we do? I think there are a few ways to solve the problem, to alleviate the miss of the child.
More to increase their hobbies, hobbies more, life content rich up, there is no time to think about it! Such as the current square dance, to jump, and can exercise, and in the process of learning square dance, can experience a lot of happiness, to the square above, but also can make more friends. Or sing, three to five groups, to a few sisters, a few buddies, to sing outside, can also be a pleasant mood. Weekend vacation, more to walk outside, see a different world.
If time permits, in addition to the daily call to the child, you can go to the child's place of study or work, to see the child, more concerned about the child, if the child has a good, their heart will be put down.
If your child is still small, you left him sadly can not stand, take him in the body over or back to his side! After all, parents are the child's first teacher, the child needs parents' care and education and companionship. Especially left-behind children in rural areas are more eager for their parents to return to their side. If the child is older you should learn to let go, give him a piece of the sky to let him go fly free!