How can people learn to be contented?

Living, fame, wealth and property are all things outside. Even if you stop pursuing and demanding all the time, you will never be satisfied. On the contrary, it will bring you endless setbacks and troubles. Many times, the reason why we feel unhappy and unhappy is mostly because of our dissatisfaction. It is unfair to attribute dissatisfaction to human acquired variation. In fact, dissatisfaction is the most primitive psychological need, and satisfaction is a philosophy and excuse after rational thinking. \ x0d \ x0d \ Leo, a famous Russian writer? Tolstoy said: "Russians are never satisfied with their property, but they are quite confident in their wisdom." This shows the duality of contentment. People's pursuit of material desire is always superior to the pursuit of spirit. Spiritual satisfaction often fails to meet material needs, which is related to the fact that people's first need must be food and clothing. \ x0d \ x0d \ Between contentment and dissatisfaction, we prefer contentment, because it will make us feel at ease. If you want nothing, you won't have too much ideological load. With a contented heart, everything becomes reasonable, normal and calm. What other unrealistic desires and demands do we have? \ x0d \ x0d \ learn to be content, so that we can treat everything in front of us with a detached attitude, not be happy with things, not sad for ourselves, not be a utilitarian slave in the world, and not be affected by all kinds of distractions, stumbles and troubles in the world, so that our lives will continue to sublimate; Only by learning to be content can we face the growing material desires and dazzling world in today's society, stick to our spiritual home and pursue our life goals persistently; Learning to be content can make life brighter and feel more. You don't have to regret the gains and losses in the past, and you won't worry about the disappointment now. Put aside vanity, don't be surprised by yourself, look at the tranquility in the mountains, the breadth of the lake, the simplicity of the trees and the clarity of the stars. This is a state of contentment. A contented person always faces life with a smile. In the eyes of contented people, there is no problem that cannot be solved, and there is no hurdle that cannot be crossed. They will find their own steps, and they will never make much ado about nothing. A contented person is a happy person. \ x0d \ x0d \ always laments that fate is ill-fated, and happiness is often far away from you. But have we ever thought that we have been living in the encirclement of love, happiness has been around us, and we have never walked away. \x0d\ Sometimes a word of blessing can stretch a cohesive mood; Short-term comfort can make us see hope again \x0d\ Think about it, how many such trivial things happen around us? A blessing message from a friend, a caring message from a mother, and a caring message from a teacher. How much do you want? Are you unhappy when you are surrounded by this heavy love? \x0d\ contentment is always a pleasure. \x0d\ Don't always compare your own shortcomings with others' advantages, which is undoubtedly tantamount to rubbing salt on the wound and will only make your own injury deeper and heavier. When you are unhappy, you should learn to find yourself a "cushion", find some stories worse than yourself or the same as yourself to relive in your mind, face setbacks and sadness optimistically, and comfort your near-death experience. \x0d\ The story of horse racing in the field season may be known to everyone, and it was already memorized at school. We will win at least two races, using our inferior horse against the first-class horse of the other side, the first-class horse against the second-class horse of the other side, and the second-class horse against the second-class horse of the other side. On the other hand, the result of the game is that we lost. The horse has not changed, but in a different way, and the ending will be transposed and reversed. \x0d\ once knew it by heart, and dreamed of the truth of live simulation more than once in a young mind. Why was it forgotten with the growth of age? Just because others earn more money than themselves, do they have good living conditions? \x0d\ If that's it, why bother? Besides money, power \x0d\ profit, there are many other criteria to divide life. But in the final analysis, it all depends on the only standard-happiness. \x0d\ Think about it, are you happy? Happiness is the only effective criterion for dividing the order of life. \x0d\ Happiness itself is a vague concept. \x0d\ Sometimes, happiness only comes from a smile, and sometimes, happiness only comes from an empty pleasure of self-satisfaction. \x0d\ Sometimes, happiness comes from a failure, a tearful sadness \x0d\ happiness. To put it bluntly, it is actually just a measure of psychological balance, and its scale integrates positive, negative and zero. On the same scale, some people think it is positive, some people think it is negative, and some people think it is zero. An optimistic and open-minded person will always see only positive values. \x0d\ Be good at discovering your own strengths, give full play to your own strengths and face life with a smile. Where are the clouds still gathering? \x0d\ He who is satisfied is happy. \x0d\\x0d\ Life is a hundred years, and unpleasant things often happen. The so-called people are more popular than others, which involves fame, status and money. There is really not much comparability between people. This does not mean that you must be much worse than others, but that opportunities are always biased. Some people have prosperous careers, rolling in financial resources, surrounded by beautiful women, and famous BMW cars, and many good things come as easy as blowing off dust; It's not the same when it's your turn. You go through all kinds of hardships and do your best, but "good things" always make you "hide and seek", beyond your reach. What should I do whenever this happens? Complaining about others? Useless; Complaining about the unfair fate will not help; Spitting everywhere, swearing all over the street? Only \x0d\ shame. The best way is to have a little "Ah Q spirit" and understand the grapes that have not been eaten as sour and not eat them. \x0d\\x0d\ The so-called contented people are always happy. Being content with the status quo, for an individual, does not necessarily mean not making progress. "A gentleman does something, but a villain does something." We should diligently pursue our own career, but we don't have to care about things like fame and fortune. It's better to be safe than to be killed. Some people don't know how to spend more money, but for a considerable number of ordinary people, every penny is hard to come by. What shall we do? "Pink eye" is absolutely not allowed. If you have more money, you will be easily remembered by thieves-if you think so, your mentality will be stable. It's amazing that you drive a private car, but ten years later, it's just a pile of scrap metal at best; I go to work by bike. I am very tired, but I am safe and environmentally friendly. More importantly, I have exercised. A thousand dollars can't buy a good figure, so why not? \ x0d \ x0d \ Since grapes can't be eaten, it's useless to worry about getting angry. Think of them as sour. If you don't eat them, you won't have a toothache or lose anything. Life is purgatory, and there are countless sufferings. If you want to live a chic life, you must learn to comfort yourself. As the saying goes, the bottom of my heart is selfless and the world is wide. As long as you figure it out, there will be no big deal to torture you. If you want to be in a good mood, you must learn to appreciate yourself. Now people pay more attention to their quality of life. However, the quality of life is not all material, but more about one's own mood. A person is always worried about a little petty gain, even if he owns Jinshan Yinshan, the quality of life is not much better. To be a man, we should pay more attention to our inner quality, not to compare the oil and water in our stomachs with others, but to compare the ink in our stomachs. Knowledge is priceless. No fame and wealth can compare with knowledge. I'm not saying that the world should not pursue material life, but should not be trapped by economic interests and let the "Confucius brothers" block their horizons. \ x0d \ x0d \ grapes are sour-this is only for most people who can't eat grapes. As for people who eat grapes, there is no need to be too proud and satirize them with words like "if you can't eat grapes, it will be sour". The so-called feng shui turns, a moment of success does not necessarily mean that you can be proud for a lifetime. Everyone takes fame and fortune lightly, and those who are satisfied are always happy. Being an optimistic person is good for yourself, people and society. \x0d\\x0d\ I was very moved to see a few short words on the Internet. \ x0d \ x0d \ A child said to his mother, Mom, you are so beautiful today. Mother asked: Why? The child said, because mom has not been angry all day today. \ x0d \ \ x0d \- It turns out that it is very simple to be beautiful, as long as you don't get angry. \ x0d \ x0d \ There was a young man who was an apprentice in a bicycle shop. Someone sent a faulty bicycle, and the young man not only repaired it, but also scrubbed it like a new one. Other apprentices laughed at him for being redundant. Later, the day after the owner took the bike back, the young man was dug into the owner's company to work. \ x0d \ \ x0d \- It turns out that getting the opportunity is very simple, just be diligent. \ x0d \ x0d \ The frog living by the field said to the frog living by the roadside, It's too dangerous for you to be here. Come and live with me. The frog on the roadside said, I'm used to it and I'm too lazy to move. A few days later, the frog by the field visited the frog by the roadside, only to find that it was run over by a car. \ x0d \ \ x0d \- It turns out that the way to master your destiny is simple, just stay away from laziness. \ x0d \ x0d \ Indeed, life can be really simple. \ x0d \ x0d \ If you want to be beautiful, you don't need to spend too much time fiddling with cosmetics, as long as you don't get angry and keep a good mood; If you want to get a chance, you don't have to pour tea after the boss all day. Just do what you should and can do diligently. I believe that the opportunity will give you ready. If you want to control your own destiny, you don't need to think about it, just stay away from laziness, change what you should change and do what you should do. The same is true of others, such as studying, falling in love, looking for a job and so on. Isn't it? \x0d\\x0d\ A friend wanted to take the postgraduate entrance examination very early, but he was always worried that the life of postgraduate entrance examination might be very hard or he could not pass the exam. Seeing him recently, he told me calmly that the life of postgraduate entrance examination is actually very happy. I was surprised and asked why. He told me that because the life of postgraduate entrance examination is very simple, although I study by myself every day, compared with before, I try my best to make myself laugh and tired. Now my life is simple, full and happy. I suddenly realized that simplicity is really good, you don't need to think too much, just do what you should do seriously. \ x0d \ x0d \ I am a simple person and want to have simple happiness. After three years in college, I think I am happy. If the happiness when I first entered school is due to my curiosity about my new life, the happiness now is a real heartfelt feeling. Over the past year, I have lived according to my own simple and simple principles. In learning, although I am not keen on learning biology, I always study with a very simple purpose, that is, there is absolutely no harm in learning more. Therefore, I try my best to attend every class and do my homework well. In this way, I have a clear conscience and a little happiness. What did I get? Maybe I have learned something that others don't know, or maybe I am happy with my serious study, so it is simple but interesting. \ x0d \ x0d \ I will do what I like or want to do at other times. I like reading a book or thinking about something quietly; I also like going out with friends on weekends. I share feelings without purpose, with a group of people. Of course, I still love everyone else. I think feelings, like other things, are something that life must try and experience. The difference is that I am serious about feelings but not infatuated. Boyfriend is a high school classmate who has been together for four years. They know each other, but don't interfere with each other. We carefully care for this imperfect feeling and enjoy the happiness it brings to each other. \ x0d \ x0d \ My life is so simple. Whenever I see what others are worried about, I always smile indifferently. What is there to think about? That's because you haven't "stepped back". People always say that modern society is becoming more and more complicated and life is becoming more and more complicated. I don't deny it. Because technology and the Internet have brought us many unexpected things, but they are only external, and it is impossible and unnecessary to accommodate too many things in one's heart. People are upset because there are too many greed and extravagant hopes, but in reality you will never get as much as you want. \x0d\\x0d\ There is an old saying that "the contented are always happy". I think many people know it, but too many people are dissatisfied. From this, I thought of Laozi and Zhuangzi's "inaction" philosophy. Although "inaction" is negative to a great extent, I think our modern spiritual world needs "inaction" very much. Perhaps "inaction" will make us less greedy and less extravagant, then our life will be much simpler and happier.