My parents have a bad relationship, from the time I was a child to adolescence, almost up to 18 years.
Other people's family of three is always happy, but our family, since I have memories, perennial pots and pans fall loudly, the left and right neighbors on our home from time to time to pull the fight.
My father was so good looking that many people could not help but look at him for a second time after the first time.
However, he was a selfish man who often went out to drink, lost his temper when he came home, and even hit my mother, who was often bruised and battered.
No one would have thought that the good-looking man would have laid hands on his own hairy wife.
I asked her: since you don't even love this man anymore, why don't you divorce him?
Mother did not say anything, eyes despondent, hopeless.
Until I went out to study, I gradually understood my mother's sorrows, perhaps she was afraid that she was too difficult to bring me alone.
Thinking of these, I was extraordinarily heartbroken, and secretly vowed in my heart that I would take my mom away from that place of wrongdoing.
After I graduated from college, I told my mother: Mom, you don't have to think about me now, if you want to leave, just leave, leave him, I can also support you.
I encourage her to be brave enough to end a bad marriage relationship, or else the rest of her life will be even more bitter, to put up with that man every day to womanize, their own home but every day in tears.
After two days of calm reflection, my mother finally made up her mind to file for divorce.
But my father did not agree, and felt that my support is betrayed him, as his daughter, how can you do such a thing?
He refused to divorce and traveled far and wide in an attempt to block the divorce in this way.
In the end, the mother through the court for a long period of separation and can not contact him before the judgment of divorce.
Every scumbag, think outside to enjoy the warmth of the lover, and at home and enjoy the care of the wife, my scumbag couple is no exception.
Later, retribution came very quickly, because he often womanizing, the body was infected with what disease.
All of a sudden, the lovers all left him, and no one gave him a second glance, even if he was very good-looking.
After mom's divorce, I took her to another city, as if we were mother and daughter to start a new life.
I rented a house near the unit, we live together, cook together every day, mom is also considered to have a second spring of life, right, she met some new friends, not busy, a few small sisters will go to the square dance together, and occasionally will go together in a group to travel.
Her face, finally have a smile, no longer detained by the past, her sisters often tell her "people ah, to look forward, can not live in the past".
She never thought that she could live so easily and happily after the divorce, and that she could live seriously for herself.
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As for the father of the scum, I have not contacted him, and even he also informed all the relatives on his side, not allowed to tell me any news about him, and even his brother and sister-in-law are still in the small county everywhere to say that I'm not filial piety, saying that what my father was scolded by me, saying that I scolded can be hard to listen to, breaking his heart and so on.
When these gossips reached my ears, I was shocked, how can he be so upside down right and wrong.
He also let it slip that he would only forgive me if I admitted my mistake and apologized to him.
I never wanted to reconcile with him, and there is no need to do so, I will never forgive him in my life for the harm he did to my mother.
This year, I am ready to get married, and occasionally I think of my father, but no one to hold me towards the groom is quite difficult.
But I don't think it's wrong to support my mother's divorce, he never knew why he and my mother would come to this point, is it just because I support their divorce?
In fact, as long as the mother has a sense of independence, when she knows that she can still be independent after leaving the scumbag, she will have to file for divorce one day.
In the past, she didn't have the courage to get a divorce, perhaps because she was concerned about my existence, and she is a very traditional person who thinks that a "family" should be together.
Till I told her: home, not people together called "home", but the family hearts are together, love each other, this is called "home", if the family does not love each other, this is not called "home"! "
This is the first time I've ever seen a person with the same name, but I've never seen a person with the same name.
Fortunately, a few years after leaving his scummy father, my mom is getting younger and younger, and she looks very good, even my grandmother said that my mom is much happier after the divorce.
As for whether my mom will remarry in the future, she said: It doesn't matter, think about the chance of being single in this life, and feel happy.
A woman's life, if all spent on unworthy men, so that a lifetime, perhaps not get married happiness, but also instead of getting all kinds of diseases, the heart of the gas hold, the body which can rest well?
Happiness of marriage needs love, not boisterous love, but with many kinds of expression of love, such as care, love, etc., is the details of the sincerity.
A good man is a woman's happy harbor, a good man can cover the wind and rain for the woman, can let the woman get a sense of spiritual pleasure, life happiness.
From the woman's point of view, whether it is a strong woman in the career, or a small woman at home in life, there is an expectation of marriage, and deep down there is a desire for love.
Before the wedding, seriously recognize a good man, pay attention to catch a good man, is the same as for their own marriage to buy a piece of insurance.
Love in marriage is very simple, just a simple hug, a thoughtful greeting, an encouraging look, may make you feel loved.
If a man can't even do that, he might as well let him live a single life.
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