To have such an idea shows that your mother-in-law's relationship is not very wonderful, no matter what, you can not let your mother-in-law go out to rent a house to live, even if the character of the person who has a good character, but also the heart will have a suspicion. This makes outsiders how to look at you? How to see your mother-in-law?
So this approach is certainly not work, not to mention your husband does not agree! The first thing you need to do is to find a way to make sure that you have a good understanding of what you are doing!
The second child was born in the second month of life and asked his mother-in-law to come over to take care of him, because there was not enough room for his mother-in-law to go out and rent a house. I think this kind of thing no matter how to say is not reasonable, people feel that this is to "drive" the mother-in-law out, no matter what your original intention, mother-in-law after all is your husband's mother, so let the elderly out of the old man to live, the old man will be very unhappy.
Although I do not know why your mother-in-law does not help take care of the month, but not because she does not help you feel that she is redundant in this family, many times with the elderly reasoning is difficult, not to mention that you want to let her temporarily move out of the house, you think your mother-in-law will understand?
1. Arrange another single bed in your mother-in-law's room, the kind of folding bed that can be put away so that you don't feel the room is too crowded when you put it away during the day. If your mom feels uncomfortable sleeping, then change your mother-in-law's bed into a queen-size bed, and it's no problem to sleep two old people at the same time.
2. Let your husband go to the sofa to sleep, and then your own mother and you sleep together in a room, if there is a condition, it is best to arrange a crib for the baby to sleep alone, so that the two of you adults can sleep comfortably, do not have to worry about the impact on the baby.
3. If you can't squeeze in at home, you can ask your mother-in-law not to come over to help, so that your mother-in-law and husband can help you sit down for the month, although your mother-in-law doesn't help, but she sees that her son is working so hard, so she'll naturally help some.
4. If you can't solve the above situations, you can go to the monthly center, although the price is a bit high, but this is the most important stage of your post-partum recovery. Two old people at home, to be honest, certainly can not get along well, when it affects the mood will affect the recovery.
My friend's mother-in-law and her mother used to sit in the moonlight, and her mother gave her food to eat, and her mother-in-law said that they don't eat this, don't eat that, but her mother-in-law didn't do anything to make it happen. The family's housework mother-in-law is not much to do, may think that the in-laws of the mother since it is to come to help, then let the in-laws of the mother to do, anyway, listen to my friend said, her mother regrets to take care of the sitting, born a stomach of anger back to the hometown.
In short, in order to be able to sit in a good month, you must think carefully!
It is a bit unreasonable.
I'm not sure if you're going to be able to do this, but I'm sure you're going to be able to do it.
When I had my second child, my mother-in-law had to take care of the oldest child, so she invited my mom to come over from her hometown to help take care of the baby and bring up the oldest child.
So, for my parents in the same neighborhood, rented a suite.
During the month, my parents and I lived in a rented house outside with my second child.
Every day, my mother-in-law, my husband and my eldest child came over to visit and chat.
The custom in my hometown is to take care of the baby for two months, so I went back to my own home.
Back to their own home to live after
working days, every night must take the whole family to see the second, at least stay 1-2 hours. If I'm working late, my family will go with him first, and then I'll go with him after work.
At that time, my son was very small, so every time I went there, I would just make her happy, she was happy, and we were happy too.
When it comes to rest days, I'll bring my penis back. As you know, it's very hard to bring up a small baby, so it was a good time for my parents to take a break and get some sleep.
If there is a holiday or something, we will go out for a dinner together. Both sides of the elderly do not cook, go out and relax.
After dinner, we will go shopping and relax together, and also buy some clothes for the elderly.
In the parents to help bring the second period, I know they are not very familiar with the environment, Dad loves to play cards and chat, Mom loves to dance, are sacrificed, so I try to accompany them more.
Buy them plenty of supplies, fish, meat, eggs, rice, noodles, oil and so on, so that they don't have to worry about it; send some red envelopes to mom and dad from time to time.
My mom was going to help me bring the oldest two to three years old, I did not expect that later my brother had a child, can only be 1 year and 8 months when the old family back home.
Also because we had been with my oldest two every day, she wasn't the least bit uncomfortable picking her up and bringing her back to live. Except for missing Grandma.
After having my second sister, I was in a better mood with my mom and dad. Many of my coworkers say that I look better and have more energy than before.
This is all thanks to my mom and dad's dedication here to help me carry my weight forward, so that I can have my cloud of lightness.
You want your mom to take care of you which is fine, but you can't let your own mother-in-law go out and rent a house, as long as it's a normal person will feel a little awkward. Either you rent your own house and live with your own mom. Let your husband and mother-in-law often visit.
First, communication is very important
Since the subject is a second child and asked his mother to take care of, at the expense of letting his mother-in-law go out to live, implying a little bit: 1, the birth of the oldest sitting on the moon with his mother-in-law had a bad 2, some habits in daily life with his mother-in-law is different. 3, the subject does not want to fight with his mother-in-law because of the moon, but do not want to aggravate themselves, they say that the first time the moon did not do a good job, the second time you can make up for it, so the subject wants to finish the month smoothly, and the mother-in-law will be able to make up for it. The first time I saw this, I was able to get a good deal of money from my mother-in-law, and I was able to get a good deal of money from her.
I can understand why you want your mom to take care of you, because I've had the same thing happen to me, but it's not the right way to handle it. According to the subject's meaning mother-in-law was living with you and have no other place to live, otherwise she can go back to her own home without renting a room, in this case, the elderly will feel that you ask her to go out to rent a room is equivalent to drive her out.
And you also have the oldest need to take care of, just mom alone can not be busy, it is easy to ignore the oldest, more people to take care of you, you also have to take into account the oldest mood.
I think there are three feasible ways:
1 Mom rents a house and lives with her mother-in-law, who is responsible for taking care of you, and her mother-in-law is responsible for taking care of the two children, and her mother-in-law knows how to take care of her grandchildren, because she knows how to take care of her grandchildren.
2 Hubby, the home to make a floor, mom with you to sleep, or can mom take care of you, mother-in-law to take care of the two grandchildren.
3 You go to your mom's house, the advantage of doing this is that both yourself and your children are in accordance with your way. The disadvantage is that you don't see the oldest and your husband is not around.
Lastly, a warm reminder that it is better to show weakness than to force your mother-in-law to go out and live with you, "I'm afraid that you're too tired!" "I'm worried about my own post-partum depression, I want my own mother to spend more time with me," "I want to eat my mother's hometown food," and so on, I believe they will understand.
Even if you don't like your mother-in-law, you shouldn't ask her to move out at this time. If you still want to live with your husband and let your children have a complete home, it's best to take into account your husband's feelings. Unless your husband is the kind of man who is so terrible, but I think that kind of man who is so terrible you can not make such a request at this time. During the month, even if you let your mother-in-law give your mom a hand, it's okay. You can talk about it after you get out of the month.
If your mother-in-law is willing to take care of the month, it is better to let her take care of it. The mother-in-law can come and visit.
But you can't just stay and not go. The mother-in-law must be willing to take care of the baby. If you have to let your mother-in-law take care of you, you will hurt your mother-in-law's heart, and you will have to think about how your mother-in-law will not be able to take care of your child.
If it is possible to support a simple bed, the mother-in-law and mother's mother together to take care of. My sister-in-law is married with mom live, after giving birth to a child mother's mother and mother-in-law together to take care of (happy it this woman). Out of the month maternal mom to bring the child to one year old, now what is the situation I an outsider do not know.
So if the mother-in-law is not a good person, or let the mother-in-law care. If it is a very good have to think about how to cope with the mother-in-law
If your mother's family has a house, you can find a suitable reason, directly back to the mother's home to sit in the month. I think you do not intend to let your mother-in-law take care of the month, it is possible that your mother-in-law's health is not good, or your mother-in-law is not very good at taking care of people, or mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is not good, in short, you have such an idea there must be a reason.
There are ways to solve the problem. First of all, you have to negotiate with your husband to make it clear that you don't need your mother-in-law to participate in the month, mainly because you are afraid that your mother-in-law will be tired, and this reason is acceptable to your husband no matter what.
If your mother's family doesn't have a house, it's a good idea to bring your own mother, and then send your mother-in-law to her daughter's house or another daughter's house, and then bring your mother-in-law your big baby, and calmly tell your mother-in-law that your house is too small and too crowded, and that you'll be separated from your mother-in-law temporarily, and that you'll be able to let your mother-in-law take advantage of the opportunity to relax a little bit.