A few days ago, I read an article about the current situation of Chinese parents through several examples.
Fuyang, Anhui Province. A father accidentally fell while working at home on a climb, and lay on the ground for a long time, unable to get up.
The accident, the father has been hidden from the family, until the daughter came home on vacation to check the monitor found this short 20 seconds of footage, instant tears.
Until that moment, that father still did not tell anyone, and even the hospital did not go.
There is also a father who fell and hurt his arm while riding his bike, even wringing out the towel could not stop trembling, but still insisted on going to the construction site to work the next day.
Waiting for the child to learn about this from his mother's mouth, it has actually been two or three years, and the father's hand has fallen into the root of the disease.
The son was ashamed and remorseful, and hated himself for not being able to let his parents enjoy the happiness.
My father-in-law had an appendix operation the year before last, and he instructed his family not to tell us, saying, "We are far away, and no big deal, don't tell them to let them worry."
Look, this is our parents ah! The first thing that comes to mind is the child.
Every year, New Year's Eve is the happiest time for the elderly. The children are gathered from all over the world. The family gathered around the table, lively and happy meal. The grandchildren run all over the house, and the whole house is filled with the sound of laughter and talking. For this day, the old man began to prepare early for the New Year's goods, to buy new clothes and gifts for the grandchildren.
But on days when their children are not at home, they are "empty nesters", they will always be very quiet, and perhaps a little lost.
They are frugal and simple, they don't talk much, they don't dawdle much, and their lives are far less colorful than ours at home.......
They read the weather forecasts for our city every day; they carry cell phones with them, and they look forward to our calls.
There is another example in the article:
Chen Xiaodong, who was born in the Yimeng mountainous area, installed surveillance in his old home because he works abroad all the time.
This is because after the death of his mother, it is convenient to take care of his father, who lives alone, but he did not expect the next scene to make him incredibly disturbed.
His father is already in his sixties, but the old man is always idle.
After the busy farm work in the field, the end of the fall harvest, but also riding a motorized tricycle to the farm to play odd jobs.
In order to 80 yuan of wages, often from seven or eight in the morning busy to more than six in the evening, the day through the dark before going home.
After the fall, the north of the day cold, his father every day cold pots and cold stoves to deal with. Sitting in front of the house, staring blankly out of the yard at the lane where cars come and go, people go back and forth, the dog lying not far away."
"At 67, he looks thin and senile, rather like he's 76." The whole picture has loneliness written all over it.
The daughter's classmate's family is two children, his parents are busy working, grandma and grandpa take turns to come over to take care of the household chores and take them to and from school. The children's parents are both busy working, and their grandma and grandpa take turns coming over to take care of the housework and drive them to and from school.
The child's grandma is retired and loves square dancing. It should have been the time to enjoy the leisure time, but for the children old people had to assume the responsibility of caring for the grandchildren, had to be separated from the old couple. They work hard and pay for it silently.
The relationship between parents and children in China is one of inversion. It's not the children who are honoring their parents, but the parents who are "honoring" their children, or even their children's children.
A friend's daughter in college, usually do not contact with her parents, the circle of friends to the parents also pulled the black, only to ask for living expenses will take the initiative to contact their parents, WeChat is also a few short words, "no living expenses, play some money over."
"Bring me some food and clothes." With one word from her, her mother had to take the subway for two hours to go over. But when her mother went over, she even slept in the dormitory. Her mother waited outside the gate for two or three hours in the middle of winter.
Life is a cycle, we are the parents of the child, will also be the parents of the child.
Parents are always in the time we did not pay attention to, alone old, and when we found that the parents have changed, perhaps parents have long been old as not like.
And all of this, before becoming parents, for the children of people we can not really understand.
Until much later, when their skin becomes saggy and their heart weakens.
It is only then that we realize that they have given their lives for us. When we were young, we made a wish to our parents: in the future, I will take you on a nationwide tour, a foreign tour. But when we want to take them on a tour, they can no longer walk.
"Parents, for a young man, I'm afraid it's like an old house, you live in it, it protects you from the wind and rain, gives you warmth and security.
But once you leave it, even if you will think about it and love it, you will rarely pay attention to it and understand it."
The Analects of Confucius says:
" The year of a parent is not to be known. One is for joy, the other for fear."
As our parents age quickly, all we can do is try to keep up with their aging.
Find some spare time Find some time
Lead your children to come home more often
Bring smiles and good wishes
Accompany your loved ones to come home more often
Mom prepares some nagging
Dad puts on a good meal
Talk to your mom about your life's worries
Talk to your dad about your work
Come home and visit us often
Even if it's to help mom with the chopsticks and the dishes
The old man doesn't want his children to do much for the family
It's not easy to live a life just to be reunited
Come home and visit us often
Even if it's to give your dad a massage on his back and shoulders
The old man doesn't want his children to do much for the family
The old man doesn't want his children to do much for the family.
All his life, he's been worried about nothing but peace and quiet.