To tell the truth, 1982 I am 39 years old and pregnant with a baby. Because my own mother strongly advised me to give up, I finally missed Bauer. During this period, I struggled with my own psychology countless times and considered having a second child, but I never dared to take this step. Why? There are 1000 reasons for wanting to live, and there are 1000 reasons for not wanting to live. I guess we are all about the same, and we especially understand your feelings. However, since you are pregnant, you should take it seriously, have a peaceful mind and let nature take its course, no matter good or bad, success or failure. As the saying goes, Taoism is natural, just follow God's will. This is our destiny.
In fact, I wanted a big baby at the age of 30, which was not small at first, and it was a caesarean section. When my daughter was less than 2 years old, I was pregnant again. My mother persuaded me not to have it for the following reasons:
First, the husband doesn't earn much money, and the mother-in-law doesn't take children or help, even though the husband is an only child. During pregnancy, my husband was still working in other places. Until the third month of pregnancy, my husband jumped off the building and went back to his hometown, but he was dissatisfied with his job and resigned. He hasn't found a job for more than three months. My mother-in-law has always felt sorry for her son and doesn't like me to work after seven months of pregnancy. At that time, we didn't have our own house and began to live in her mother-in-law's house, but when her husband was not at home, she always asked me for living expenses and said that renting a house had to pay rent. Everyone's daughter-in-law gives her family 2000 yuan a month for living expenses. At that time, my husband's salary was only over 2000 a month [covering his face], and she refused to admit that she had said this when she came back. At that time, her mother-in-law never cared about how many months I was pregnant. Outsiders asked her that it was obvious that I was more than seven months old, and she also said that she was just pregnant [covering her face] and was not good at cooking, mostly because I cooked. On one occasion, she cooked and fried greasy wheat dishes. You can't eat oily wheat vegetables during pregnancy because you don't know why. I vomited as soon as I ate them. And she called me a sissy. I'm not happy. So we moved to my mother's house and didn't go back until we were born. At that time, because of my personal physical reasons, I chose caesarean section, and my mother-in-law was worried about it for a long time.
The next month, my mother waited on me at my mother-in-law's house. At that time, I basically didn't go out of the house except to go to the toilet. Everything is my mother's business. My mother said that it is always difficult to see her mother-in-law. I want her mother-in-law to buy something for me during the day, but I can't get in touch. I don't know what she is busy with. My mother cooked a meal and ate it when her mother-in-law came back at night, which made my mother very depressed. So I spent the second month, so my husband and I took the children back to my parents' house. I have lived here for half a year. My mother's house is in the village, so it is inevitable to gossip. I stayed at my mother's house for a short time, and no one would tell me. After a long time, many people will say. In the countryside, grandma helps to look after the children's anecdotes. My family is two sisters. Outsiders say that you have been here for a long time, and your parents should be responsible when they are old. To tell the truth, your parents will be filial, but it's really hard for them to say so. My mother can't stand people's comments and has lost her temper with me many times. I used to want to rent a house outside, but at that time my husband earned too little, and I couldn't go out to make money. My mother-in-law's house was under maintenance, and there was no heating. We stayed until the child was six months old and went back when the weather was warm. However, the mother-in-law was actually quite good. At that time, the child was older. I take care of the children, cook, wash clothes and take care of them by myself. When the children are older, I will arrange to go out to play for a while every day. I remember that at that time, I would go shopping, and sometimes I would push my car and take my children to the supermarket. At first, children will take a car. I came back with a bunch of things. The child didn't take the bus, I'm still here. But at that time, I was tired, but I was full. I take care of the children by myself, but I feel relaxed when no one interferes. It's just that my body has never recovered.
Later, I got pregnant under such circumstances. I was particularly entangled at that time and didn't want to give up this little life. At that time, it was considered that it would take three years to have a baby by caesarean section. Second, the health was poor, and third, the conditions were not allowed. But I can't bear to give up this little life, and my husband wants it too. At that time, I thought my mother-in-law's opinion could be ignored because she didn't care. When I was struggling, my mother was particularly determined not to let me have a baby. She said you wanted this child dead, and you wanted a second one. Are you looking for bitterness yourself? She said she wouldn't help me if I wanted to. Then I finally gave in and asked my husband. He said he respected my decision, because he knew at that time that he really couldn't let me keep the baby. So I made up my mind to go to the hospital, and I found my aunt who gave me a caesarean section. On the operating table, she always advised me to keep the child, saying that now that medicine is developed, I can give birth to something. I'm afraid I'll be soft-hearted if she goes on, so I'll let my aunt stop. Finally, I strangled the child. My mother-in-law later complained that I killed the child without consulting her. In fact, until now, sometimes I feel particularly guilty when I think about it. I decided not to have him myself. Now that living conditions are good, I have my own house and car, and I have the ability to pay more for my children's education, but I have missed the best childbearing age. Of course, on the other hand, we are worried that if we want to have a second child, the quality of life and education of this Dabao will be greatly reduced, and the health is not good and the age is not allowed, so we have no courage to take the initiative.
Therefore, if the child comes naturally, just accept it with a natural attitude. Whether it is fate or not, it is nature, and we can accept it calmly. If we give birth to him, we must be responsible for him and try our best to raise him.
Finally, thank you for inviting me. I hope my answer is helpful to you. I also hope to make more friends and communicate more in the future.
My sister is forty-six, and she gave birth to another son. Her eldest son has been employed. She wanted a daughter, and she gave birth to a son. Things will not develop according to people's wishes.
Accidentally pregnant with a second child at the age of 39. I just want what I want when I let go of my second child. I got pregnant once, but I couldn't get pregnant. During the pregnancy, I failed and gave up, but I didn't expect to get pregnant without any preparation. At that time, because of many quarrels (but not because of the problems of the second-born mother-in-law and sister-in-law), we were already planning to divorce. The moment the doctor told me I was pregnant, I was really surprised and happy. To my surprise, my scarred uterus was old, but I was afraid that I would be as biochemical as last time, so I held back my surprise and waited for the fetal heart test ten days later (I was worried at that time). I didn't expect all the values to be good after ten days. The doctor asked me if I wanted it. If so, I will go to a higher level hospital for follow-up. Because I am a high-risk maternity, I definitely want it, but I am worried about my own safety. So I asked the doctor what I had been worried about, that is, I was afraid that the egg would be implanted in the last scar. The doctor told me that it was impossible to prevent, and I was at a loss. Fortunately, I met an enthusiastic doctor when I took a B-ultrasound, and I examined the fetus at that time. I said yes, I don't even have a plan. I wasn't pregnant with all kinds of conditioning before, but now I don't want to, but he comes. The doctor said with a smile, this is fate. Now the fetal heart is good in all aspects. I'm glad to hear that, but I still raised the most worrying issue, which is the implantation position. After listening to this, she carefully examined me and said that the position of the bed and the distance from the scar were safe, and my hanging heart was put down a little. On the way to work after checking, I was worried about the various situations of pregnancy at an advanced age (because I usually pay great attention to these), and the anesthetic I cut in the town hospital was not good when I was a child (I always thought it was my anesthetic, but later I learned that it was a technical problem of the anesthesiologist), so I decided to choose the Municipal Maternal and Child Health Hospital. Even though I know that every stop is a sea of people waiting for an hour to see a doctor, I dare not go to other hospitals for fear of another problem. The examination was good all the way, but it was premature at 32 weeks (because of my unicorned uterus). 14 Sunday, I feel sick all over, but I can't tell what it is. I went to the hospital for examination at noon and said that my cervix was short and I had to go home for a few days (I asked to be hospitalized, but the doctor said that I didn't meet the admission criteria, so I still felt a little red when she asked me to be hospitalized). Who knows, in the early morning, I got up to go to the toilet and my water broke. I immediately went to the hospital for various tests and tried to give Cui an injection for fetal cardiopulmonary development. The amniotic fluid keeps flowing and the contractions are getting shorter and shorter (but the fetal monitor can't show it). After I urged Cui again and again, the nurse finally did an internal examination for me, saying that I had to arrange an operation immediately after touching my hand, so I finally got on the operating table at 4 pm. The doctors and nurses inside are operating everything before the operation like workers on the assembly line, and I have been shaking. I feel horrible. Whenever someone comes near me, I will ask him what he will do to me. They all told me not to worry. In the meantime, a male doctor saw that I was too scared and kept holding my hand. I am very grateful to him. After anesthesia, I felt like I was dreaming, but I clearly heard everything they said, so I knew that my operation was made into a teaching plan (I think it was because of my unicorned uterus). In the meantime, someone has been shooting with a mobile phone and explaining it in Chinese and English. Suddenly I heard the baby crying loudly. I asked if my child was crying. The doctor smiled and said, it must be yours, but you are pregnant with a baby! My hanging heart has been put down again. Because of premature birth, my brain tonic BB is too small, and crying can't save it. It shouldn't be a problem to hear him cry so hard now. Then show me the baby's bottom and tell me that the low-weight baby of 1.9kg will be sent to the baby department for treatment in the incubator. During this period, various conditions, such as cerebral hemorrhage, flatulence and low birth weight babies, were transferred to other hospitals. Fortunately, I booked a month center before I was born (for fear that the elderly at home would not be able to take care of me when they were too old). It turns out that this is very wise. Fortunately, I had a sister on the day I was born, otherwise I really don't know what to do. I'm having a baby myself. The baby is premature and needs treatment. Two old people were lying in the hospital, and my husband couldn't handle things, but fortunately I survived and everything went well. Now Bauer is 1 years and two months old. He is smart and lovely, and his brother loves him very much. His brother 18 years old, people think it's his father when he goes out. I smiled at my brother's parents' meeting and asked him to open it later. I'm glad to meet these two brothers. All the efforts are worthwhile, and I have no regrets. I feel young again because my stay-at-home mother is with Bauer.
I'm a senior and I'm 37 this year, but I have to work hard for three children. I am also cautiously afraid, all kinds of fears, just because Dabao Bauer is a daughter, just to round up the family's disappointment.
I have to say that age has a great influence on fertility.
Dabao, who was pregnant 30 years ago, went smoothly, without serious morning sickness and nothing particularly uncomfortable. She can eat and drink until she is born.
At the age of 33, after taking traditional Chinese medicine to regulate menstruation for half a year, she accidentally became pregnant with Bauer. It was much worse then. When I was four months old, I began to have severe anemia. I almost fainted after going to the supermarket several times. I just can't go to such a closed place with many people. I feel that the roof is blocked, my eyes are blurred, my head is spinning and my chest is out of breath. Later, when I was old, I was too tired to stand for a while.
In fact, when I was pregnant with Bauer for four or five months, I knew it was a girl. His family and relatives advised me to do it, but all pregnant mothers can understand the feeling of connecting mother and child! From the moment the child took root in the body, he felt induction, and it was not until three months later that he had fetal movement that he could truly feel that he was a living life. At this time, if someone lets himself end his life because of his gender, his feelings are panic and hatred. The panic is that he is afraid of losing his life, so the more he panics, the more he hates it. So I spent the second half of my pregnancy in extreme depression. Luckily, she survived. Fortunately, now Bauer is growing up healthily and everyone loves her very much.
Therefore, there will definitely be many difficulties and risks in the pregnancy of elderly women. There are more pains, more complications and greater risks during pregnancy and postpartum. But it depends on your own thoughts and decisions. First, do a comprehensive physical examination. If you are in good health and understand the risks, if you still want to fight, then fight. After all, there is only one life, and the number of viable eggs is limited. I have chosen my own path, and I will be prepared to go on bravely in the future, whether it is good or bad.
Let's start with my mom. She was pregnant with my brother when she was 36. Now my brother has just graduated from graduate school and is 62 years old.
When she became a grandmother at the same age and discussed what to buy, where to travel and when to go for a walk every day, she was very worried. Why doesn't my brother have a girlfriend Where does my brother work and buy a house? Can I look after the children in the future, even how old are my future brother-in-law's parents? Can I help look after the children? Do you think she is in pain now? Actually, I enjoy it, too
Mom and my dad belong to a couple halfway, so it is helpless to have a baby. After all, if two people have a child together, their feelings will be deeper. Now this problem falls on me. I am the same age as my mother, but I only have one daughter. Will I have a second child? My husband and I struggle every day.
So I especially understand the feelings of this precious mother, but fortunately, she is pregnant. For her, this is not a difficult problem, and there is no need to be scared every day. The most important thing now is to relax and let yourself get through pregnancy smoothly. You have to believe that when you cross this bridge, all problems can be solved in the future. Instead of worrying so much now, it is better to plan your life in the future.
People still live in the present, always thinking that the past will make them feel annoyed and resentful, and always thinking that the future will make them anxious and fearful. Therefore, one step at a time is the real life, and it is the most important thing to do every step at the moment to meet the arrival of a new life.
Ok, the scar forgot to hurt! The big one is hard to mention. After just two days of leisure, people are idle, that is, eating, drinking and having fun. [Covering your face] Congratulations, start from the beginning!
I am 35 years old, my second child is over one year old, and my husband is two years older than me. It can be said that we are also the second children born in the fourth grade.
Being pregnant with a second child was an accident. My husband and I discussed that it is enough to have a boss, and we also have an one-child certificate. But even taking medicine didn't stop the arrival of the second child. I thought it was a gift from God and a little life, so I was born.
My husband and I don't want to have a second child for several reasons.
The first reason is that I suffered enough when I was pregnant with my boss.
First of all, when I was pregnant for the second month, I was hospitalized because of massive hemorrhage of central placenta previa, and I stayed in the hospital for several months to protect the fetus. After leaving the hospital, she was hospitalized for bleeding in the seventh month of pregnancy, and then began to eat, drink and stay in bed until the baby was born. The doctor said that I must stay in bed when I am alive, and I am not allowed to get out of bed again, otherwise I will be born prematurely. More seriously, I am afraid of causing massive bleeding. If I can't stop the bleeding, I will have my uterus removed. So in those months, I was like a patient who couldn't take care of himself. I'm scared in bed every day.
Then, when I was pregnant with my boss, I became pregnant with diabetes. I can't eat fruit, soy milk or milk. I can only eat buckwheat steamed bread every day. If I really want to eat fruit, I can only eat half a cucumber to satisfy my hunger.
Finally, the eldest son was delivered by caesarean section, but he never recovered well after delivery, with bladder swelling and uterine prolapse.
The second reason is that my husband and I are separated and no one takes care of the children.
I married in Sichuan, and my parents are in Hunan. They don't adapt to the climate and eating habits in Sichuan and don't want to come to Sichuan to help me with my children. My father-in-law died, and my mother-in-law was sick in her 60 s. It is beyond her ability to help me with my children. Besides, my husband can't expect to work in other places. I can't take two children to work. If you hire a nanny, I can't afford the high cost and I'm not at ease. No one to take care of the children is the biggest reason to prevent my husband and I from having a second child.
The third reason is that it takes too much energy and money to raise a child now.
Our public kindergartens are far away and there are too few places. My boss didn't get into a public kindergarten, so he had to go to a private kindergarten. There are only two private kindergartens near our home. The cheapest tuition and living expenses are about 9,000 yuan a semester, and almost 20,000 yuan a year. There are also interest classes where children usually learn dance and painting, and tens of thousands of dollars are spent on her every year. Children need their parents to pick them up and accompany them, and they also need too much time and energy.
Because of these three reasons, my husband and I discussed not to have a second child, and the one-child certificate was issued, but "happiness" is unstoppable. Now the second child is over one year old.
When I was pregnant, I had diabetes, central placenta previa, type O blood and husband's type A blood. The second child has a high chance of hemolysis, and he is afraid of massive bleeding and premature birth every day.
Fortunately, it went well when I was pregnant with a second child. There is no diabetes, no bleeding, and all the test results are normal. The second child is of my blood type and has no hemolysis. It can be said that it is more worry-free to have an eldest child and more worry-free to have a second child.
Just because of the elderly women, and both of them are caesarean sections. It's really slow to recover, and I'm tired with two children at ordinary times. But seeing the smiles of the two children and their love for each other, as long as they grow up healthily, it is worthwhile to pay more.
1982, I have a son and a daughter. The eldest daughter 15 years old, and the youngest son is less than three years old. At first I wanted to have a second child, but I didn't want it. I look everywhere, and Chinese medicine practitioners have to eat a car. It's no use. Later, I went to make a test tube and succeeded once. I feel much better now, so do the children. As a result, my period has not come for a long time, and I feel sick and have no appetite. Feel like God is playing me? Not when I want it. I don't want it. Again? It's tangled I cried at home at the thought of going to the hospital. I feel sad. My husband is hesitant, too. I wanted to have an abortion for a while, but I had to spend money and suffer. I still get nothing. Do you want to keep it? Then listen to her. A few days later, my mother said that she was too old to babysit for you. What do you think of two children getting so close? Why don't you give it up? You are also very tired after saving you! [Tears] I went to the obstetrics and gynecology department for more than two months and wanted to have an abortion. The doctor also gave me a good suggestion. This is fate. Now the conditions are worse and stronger than before, right? Yes, the child is developing very well. She is too old for painless abortion and hesitated to come back. I am pregnant for three months now, and I am very sad every day. The second child is still so small, how dare outsiders have a third child when they know it? And I feel that I am middle-aged, and I will be pregnant in a few months. I'm embarrassed to attend a pregnant class with a group of pregnant mothers. I want to cry without tears. I can't imagine giving birth to a chicken feather, and cutting off the first two. When will the third child recover after cutting?
I am a 39-year-old Bauer, and the hardships are really indescribable! I have been pregnant for more than two years because of my age. After seeing the conditioning of Chinese medicine, western medicine detected various hormones, and the fallopian tube was watered, and finally I was pregnant! I can see red in more than two months, threatened abortion, and Chinese medicine doctors suggest hospitalization to protect the fetus, saying natural selection, but creating good reproductive conditions! So I was hospitalized for nearly a month to protect my baby, and I kept a diary to talk to my baby every day! When I was six or seven months old, I had high blood sugar tolerance and gestational diabetes. I poked my finger four times a day, measured my blood sugar and ate nutritious meals. Only those who have experienced it can feel the pain! In recent months, I have to walk at least 10 thousand steps every day because of my big stomach, and my left thigh is a little pubic separation. I cry when I walk, so I have to stop and have a rest before I go! It's the due date at last, but there's no sign of birth yet. The doctor said that you are old, have gestational diabetes, and are ready to induce labor! So I went to the waiting room at 9 o'clock to hang oxytocin, and 1 1 opened three fingers into the delivery room. 12 o'clock, normal delivery, no painless delivery. But an hour later, the placenta stopped bleeding, and I gave my family a critical notice! Finally, a professor came to do manual placental abruption! Pain to doubt life [tears] [tears] [tears], and finally didn't leave the delivery room until nearly six o'clock in the evening!
It's really hard from pregnancy to delivery! Therefore, it is really necessary to have a good baby while you are young! Fortunately, the results are good now! I am also very grateful to God for giving me the opportunity to have two treasures!