Even though it's been almost two years, Su Xing still occasionally dreams about her experience of being "disciplined" at the "Love Without Borders" camp, where she was spanked with a 30-centimeter-long ruler. The first time I saw her was when she was beaten on her buttocks with a 30-centimeter ruler.
When she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder at 16, her desperate parents tried everything, but in the summer of her 20th year, they took her to the Hulunbeier steppe in Inner Mongolia to attend a camp run by a man called Juyuran.
There, everyone changed into a uniform, every child at the table to toast to their parents, and misbehaved to be "disciplined". Su Xing tried to escape, the police, but eventually she was sent back to accept the "discipline".
May 1, Ju Yuran in an interview with the Beijing News reporter said he advocates "the traditional Eastern model of family education", the use of the ruler to "discipline" the child is an indispensable means of "restoring the family spirit". Restore the family style". He compared himself to a "Don Quixote-type" character, and started "Great Love" to save suffering families. "These children are my sons and daughters and I am waking them up with my life."
But to Su Xing, Ju Yuran was a shadow in her life, a destroyer of family relationships. She posted online about her experience. Some of the children who have been to the camp have also come forward, most of them are in the eyes of their parents "problem teenagers" - suffering from depression, bipolar disorder and other mental illnesses, in the parents "coaxed" to join the camp, by Juiyuran, who is the only person in the world who has ever been to the camp. Under the tour to join the camp, by the Ju Yuran asked to break the drug, was verbally abusive, received a ruler, slapping and other varying degrees of violence.
On the afternoon of May 6, the Yancheng City Yandong police station police told the Beijing News reporter, May 2 received a minor alarm, said "love without boundaries" is a "pyramid scheme", the case has been filed for investigation.
At present, "love without boundaries" Yancheng study tour camp has been closed early. A staff member said: "We are now starting to enter the collective silence, and at the same time do not accept new family counseling".
The children are being "disciplined" in the camp.
School trip on the prairie
Su Xing and her mother, Li Fang, have different accounts of the complete breakdown of family relations.
According to Su Xing, the starting point was her parents' contact with the organization "Big Love". It claims to be able to solve the problem of "no goal in life, no motivation to study, dawdling and dragging, addicted to the Internet, the whirlpool of the first love, anorexia and truancy, suspension and dropout, black and white, gnawing on the old man snail, confrontation of parents, parent-child relationship, husband and wife relationship". Her parents took it as a "life-saving straw".
But in the eyes of her mother, Li Fang, the family relationship has deteriorated since Su Xing was diagnosed with "bipolar disorder" in high school. After her daughter's illness, she and her husband developed feelings of guilt, "too good for her, everything is accommodating her, she demanded more and more." So that Su Xing adult, living alone in Wuhan. Usually almost not go home, pulled the black mother's contact information, occasionally only with the father to communicate.
Su Xing's diagnostic report.
Li Fang does not recognize her daughter has a disease, for her to find a counselor, once or twice a week to see, the medicine also ate, but did not improve. "Big Love" coincides with her - Ju Yuran told the Beijing News reporter, he only recognized due to traumatic brain injury, nerve damage caused by mental illness, depression, such as "mental illnesses "Neither exists.
"Great Love Without Borders" claimed that by the end of 2019, they had helped "153 children who were diagnosed by experts with depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder, autism, mania, psychosis, and so on, who were forced to take psychotropic medication, and who had been admitted to special hospitals, to wean off the medication. " Ju Yuran said, for example, "a child who had been on psychotropic drugs for more than six years, stopped taking them after meeting with me, and now not only works, but also has a driver's license."
In July 2018, her parents asked Su Xing to go to the Hulunbeier Prairie with her for a 10-day camp.
The parents spent 90,000 yuan on the trip. They will join more than a dozen other families in touring the sights and enjoying the "case-by-case counseling, in-depth links, and family adjustments" from the head of the organization, Ju Yuran.
On the official website of Love Without Borders, Ju Yuran, who is known as "Dad", wears a blue polo shirt, bald, tall, chubby, and smiles as he leans against a tree. He has a lot of titles, is "public welfare tutor founder, Peking University, Zhejiang University, Harbin Institute of Technology and other institutions of higher learning visiting professor, more than 20 middle school honorary principal of the country, the University of Nice, France, DBA in the study."
Juran's introduction on the official website of "Love Without Borders". Image source network
Su Xing was reluctant to go, but could not resist the increasingly assertive attitude of his parents, who nagged: "Learning while playing, it's very relaxing", "Go and talk to Ju Yuran, and if what he says makes sense, you'll stay there, and if it doesn't, you can leave at any time! ".
After arriving at the grassland, Su Xing's family of three was put up in a yurt. They went to Erguna, where there are endless meadows and large swaths of rape flowers. Juyuran took them horseback riding, watching Mongolian performances, attending bonfire parties, and arranging parent-child games such as tug-of-war and dancing.
The parents acted excited, but Su Xing had no heart. She felt a depressive episode, low mood, anxiety, insomnia, did not want to participate in group activities, and looked at the table full of food only feel nausea and regurgitation. She brought along medication prescribed by her doctor and took a quarter of a tablet a day. "But my parents think I am not sick pretending to be sick, forcing me to go out, saying that if I do not go, I will not give me living expenses."
During the tour, Ju Yuran called Su Xing's family to his room for a one-on-one "link". Juran asked in detail about the problems in Su Xing's family and videotaped the whole process, chatting for hours.
After the chat, Ju Yuran concluded: Su Xing is not sick, her "emotions" because her parents are too arrogant, coupled with the usual poor communication with parents caused. The company's main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers, and to provide the best possible service to its customers.
He also asked Su Xing to write down on a piece of paper what she wanted from her parents, and Su Xing wrote "I hope my parents respect me more". Su Xing said, "At that time, his attitude was very good, my attitude is also very good, I also told him a lot of heartfelt words, I hope he pity me, let me forget."
"Discipline is a kind of family style, family rules"
Soon, Su Xing realized that many of the children who attended the camp were "tricked" by their parents to come in, and most of them were only in their teens. The most of them are only in their teens. The children were resistant to the idea - some were unwilling to get up and take part in the activities, and some were suicidal. In the face of these "unruly" children, Ju Yuran will use their own methods to "education".
There is a boy who loves to play games and thinks he is the "Li Yuanfang" in the game. Ju Yuran and the staff with a marker, in the boy's face repeatedly write his real name, while writing, while scolding "do not recognize the ancestors, is not a person". Later, the boy's story was publicized on the official website as a positive example of "love without boundaries".
Ju Yuran wrote his name all over a boy's face.
Su Xing also saw a boy who left the camp without permission, and when he came back, he was pressed to the ground by a group of people who "slapped him hard, used chopsticks to pry his mouth, and smashed a chair directly at him."
She was terrified, and the next day she secretly bought a ticket home, and reported to the police at the airport, saying that Ju Yuran "engaged in pyramid schemes". Because there was no evidence, the police sent Su Xing back to the tour camp.
After returning to the camp, Ju Yuran said Su Xing made a mistake, must accept the "discipline", pulled out a 30-centimeter ruler, and Su Xing's father together with her 30, hit to the buttocks on all the injuries.
Ju Yuran has never shied away from the fact that "discipline", and even use it as a publicity stunt. According to the "love without boundaries" public number, with the ruler "discipline" is called "soup", because "the ruler is made of bamboo, referred to as the 'bamboo slice', hit on the body 'crackling' loud, 'soup' that is being disciplined by the soul of the tears, jokingly called 'bamboo slice crackling soup '", is the institution's "most distinctive and shocking spiritual meal".
"Although the law provides that you can not beat your children, but I strongly embrace the legacy of the old ancestors of 'discipline', discipline is a kind of family style, family rules." Ju Yuran told the Beijing News reporter, "discipline" and beating is different, there is a degree, they only "discipline" children under 18 years of age, once hit the boy's hand or buttocks 30 times, the girl's hand or buttocks 20 times.
"'Discipline' is aimed at letting children know the bottom line of doing things, can not be below the top, many children were 'disciplined' after are convinced". Juru Yuran said.
After accepting the "discipline" Su Xing thought, might as well pretend to be good to get through these days. She no longer resisted, at the dinner table obediently to Ju Yuran toast, but also let his father took his arm, pretending to be very close. "But what's in my heart is the exact opposite, I just don't want to be beaten again."
An altered parent-child relationship
After three or four days of obediently staying at the tour camp, Su Xing returned home to Hubei with his parents. The first thing I did was to bring home a 30-centimeter-long wooden ruler from Juran, with his "quote" printed on it: "Never give in to principle, never be ambivalent in front of feelings."
After this trip, mom Li Fang took Ju Yuran as a guiding light for her family. Every day, she would recite the "Collection of Juran's Sayings" presented by Juran, and would also copy and recite, "Juran said, the inner light, life can only be bright," "Juran said, the essence of morality, is the heart of other people". Not only that, but she often gives feedback on her reading experience in the WeChat group set up by "Great Love".
She and her husband traveled all over the world to participate in Juran's "lecture hall", the first 4800 yuan per person, and then charged a few hundred dollars each time.
In one of the lectures, Juran mentioned that "a house with four toilets is unlucky in feng shui", and Li Fang thought that she had four toilets in her house, so she thought about whether to sell the house or not.
Whenever she encounters a problem, Li Fang says, "Do you want to call and ask your father?" She believes that Ju Yuran's vision is very "poisonous", pinpointing the main problem in the family is the spoiling of children, and every time the message back in a very timely manner, "can let us calm down in the panic, give us a direction".
All along, Li Fang could not accept that her daughter had "bipolar disorder". She and her husband are doctors, but in her opinion, in addition to dizziness, anorexia and other physical symptoms, there is nothing wrong.
Li Fang believes that the psychiatric diagnosis is not scientific, because "the diagnosis of other diseases have hard indicators, but psychiatry is based on the doctor's own views and experience to judge. She also does not recognize the treatments given by doctors and the drugs prescribed, because "drugs cannot change a person's thinking, and there are many side effects".
She began to seek help beyond the professional doctor, and frequently attended various types of parental wisdom classes, lectures, and went to Foshan, Guangdong, and Hangzhou, Zhejiang. But she felt they were ineffective, "only giving us parents feelings of guilt without telling us exactly what we should do."
In January 2018, a friend introduced Li Fang first heard of Ju Yuran and "great love". The friend said that he "has a strong aura and has a knack for treating children's mental illnesses".
In May of that year, Li Fang and her husband attended a "sharing session" at a teahouse in Wuhan. A teacher named "Suhong" told the more than 20 parents present to distinguish between "feelings and principles" and to "discipline" disobedient children, which is a traditional Chinese family tradition and a way for parents not to give up their children's rights. This is a traditional Chinese family tradition and a principle that parents can not give in to.
Later, they spoke to Juran alone and asked him how to ease the relationship with his daughter, and Juran's advice was to "cut off Su Xing's source of livelihood and let her go home to live.
Li Fang said that they followed what Juran said, no longer give Su Xing hit living expenses, soon after, Su Xing really moved back home. This made Li Fang think that Ju Yuran is very capable. She decided to enroll her daughter in a study tour camp for more in-depth tutoring by Ju Yuran.
The Su Xing family, who are being "linked" by Juran.
After the in-depth contact with Juran, Li Fang believes that her family relationship has also improved, "at least my daughter no longer scold us", "even if we do not give her living expenses, a person in Wuhan can also support themselves."
But Su Xing feels that the gap between her and her parents is getting wider instead of being bridged.
In the past, his father hardly used violence against Su Xing, but after coming home from the study tour camp, Su Xing was beaten by his father twice. The first time Su Xing's hand was fractured, and not long after the cast was put on, there was another clash with his father, and the cast shattered all over the place.
Recalling these two conflicts, Li Fang told the New Beijing News reporter, "is that we are too anxious, the implementation of 'discipline' is not in place to cause."
The parents
Twenty-four-year-old Wang Meng's family relationship also changed after she attended the "Love Without Borders" camp.
Her parents stopped giving her money for living expenses, and she moved out of the house, gradually losing contact with them. "But Juyuran would use this as a means of publicity, saying that after the adjustment at his place the children were out of the house and on their own," Wang Meng said.
Wang Meng was diagnosed with depression in high school and then took a break from school. Last summer, she was taken by her parents to a camp in Inner Mongolia under the guise of traveling. In the camp, because of disobedience, Wang Meng was Ju Yuran called "unmanageable beast", and was repeatedly beaten by the ruler and wooden stick on the buttocks and calves.
The family of Zhang Ting, a depression sufferer, was also subjected to the same "conditioning" by Juran.
Zhang Ting's mother recalled that other people introduced Ju Yuran as the most powerful man in the world, and that as soon as they met with him, he was able to see into their hearts and clear away their inner weeds. "At that time, my daughter was at a low point, and I thought it would be great to meet someone like that."
In the conversation between Zhang Ting's family and Juran, Juran said he never recognized psychiatrists, and that the psychiatrists' approach is a Western thing, which is to put people in the right place, and that in fact every child is not sick. In order to support this view, he also took himself as an example, said he had been diagnosed by psychiatrists, suffering from more than a dozen mental illnesses.
"This is something that convinced my parents to trust him in particular, because my mom never wanted to admit that I was sick, and she was particularly offended by the idea of depression." Zhang Ting said that at the mere mention of a psychiatrist, Juyuran jumped in anger, as if he had been poked at a sensitive point.
In the "Great Love" organization, there are staff members who have been certified in psychological counseling, and Juran would emphasize that it is not allowed to treat the children in the same way as psychologists.
At the camp, Zhang Ting's parents took Juran as their mentor, and on the day they said goodbye, Zhang Ting's mother cried in front of Mr. Juran. But after leaving the study tour camp, she and her husband reflected that it hadn't helped them much. "He definitely helped some families, but he's not God."
Zhang Ting's family didn't contact Ju Yuran again, "Apart from the general effect, it's really not suitable for our family, the fees are too expensive, it's a rich man's game."
According to the materials provided by Zhang Ting's mother, there are five types of services provided by "Great Love", the price ranges from 30,000 yuan to 1.2 million yuan, the service period of the shortest one month, the longest period of time, each project includes a different number of phone calls or voice consultation, face-to-face counseling, and the minimum fee of 90,000 yuan for a study tour camp. .
Zhang Ting's parents are both middle school teachers. She said that most of the parents who attended the camp with them were middle class or above, including many university professors and business executives.
In fact, there are few parents like Li Fang who believe in Jiyuran. Many parents have written feedback articles on the public website "Love Without Borders". In the articles, the children who took a break from school went back to school, and the depressed children regained their vitality, and all of this is attributed to Juran. They called Juran "the iron man, the chivalrous man, the non-human, the ferryman of souls, the monster sent down from heaven to exorcise the demons".
Indelible Shadow
But recently, Su Xing and Wang Meng found out that this parents in the eyes of the "perfect man" had been jailed because of marketing.
According to Xinhua, in September 2007, Liaoning Province reported the top ten cases of pyramid schemes, and Ju Zhiguo was one of the people involved. The briefing showed that in November 2006, the suspect Lu Jia, together with the suspect Ju Zhiguo and other people in Dalian established the Dalian Business Leader Technology Development Company Limited, engaged in water dispensers, health care products and other marketing activities. In Fushun Qingyuan area has developed more than 150 people downline, illegal business amounted to more than 800,000 yuan. Subsequently, Ju Zhiguo was arrested and returned to the case.
On May 1, in an interview with a reporter from the New Beijing News, Ju Yuran admitted that he was the "Ju Zhiguo" in the case. "I changed my name because Ju Zhiguo has a history like that, and I'm coaching entrepreneurs in the process of competition between businesses, and a lot of people will attack me for that."
After he got out of prison, Juran started homeschooling. His original intention was to "see a lot of successful people, high-profile families of children's education is a failure, not happy", and his daughter was educated to become a teacher, his own successful educational experience and life experience, can be a "Don Quixote-style character", to save these families. that went on to save these families. "We are one big family, all the children are my sons and daughters and I am their father."
But for Su Xing, the "discipline" of the camp has left an indelible shadow on her heart.
Over the years, she dreamed of being beaten by Juran and his father with a ruler; she also dreamed of going to the school that Juran wanted her to go to, and she sat in the classroom in the dream, very timid, and would only look at the books.
The symptoms of bipolar disorder have not been alleviated. Su Xing often a particularly excited, and a very low, mood changes quickly, can not eat. Sometimes, the people around her to talk to Su Xing, she only habitually nodded or shook her head, or simply pretend not to hear, "especially do not want to talk".
After returning home, her parents occasionally asked her to meet her father. In May last year, Su Xing in Wuhan to meet with Ju Yuran, she was a little afraid, called on his godmother. That meeting, Ju Yuran told Su Xing that he wanted her to go to school, and he had a way to help her get a diploma, as long as he gave him a few hundred thousand dollars.
After the meeting, Su Xing's godmother called Li Fang and said, "You have to rely on yourselves to educate your children, and it's not reliable to spend so much money on others."
Su Xing felt that everything in the family seemed to be under Ju Yuran's control, dominated by him in every way. His parents' fervor for Juran was frightening, "like a cult".
So Su Xing began posting online about his experiences at the camp. Many children have followed the post, most of them have depression and other mental illnesses, in the parents of the coaxing to join the camp, by the Juyu Ran asked to break the drug, by the verbal abuse, get ruler, slapping and other varying degrees of violence.
Su Xing, Wang Meng and others built a rights group. They collected audio and video recordings of Ju Yuran's beatings at the tour camp, and kept posting on Zhihu and Weibo, and emailing the Ministry of Education's monitoring and reporting email address.
Gao Fan, 15, joined them. After the police made a statement, because Gao Fan is underage, they let his parents take him back.
May 6 afternoon, Yancheng City, Yandong police station police told the Beijing News reporter, May 2 received a minor alarm, said "love without boundaries" is a "pyramid scheme", the case has been filed for investigation.
The injured children also questioned the qualifications of the school, and on May 6, a staff member of the Education Bureau of Tinghu District, Yancheng City, replied to the reporter of the Beijing News that the scope of the school is not part of the language, math and other subjects, not in the Education Bureau. The subject class teaching, not in the jurisdiction of the Board of Education, only need to approve the market supervision department can be business.
At present, the "Great Love" Yancheng study tour camp has been closed early. A screenshot sent by Gao Fan shows that in the Jiangxi group of "love without boundaries", a staff member said: "We are now starting to enter the collective silence, and at the same time do not accept the consultation of new families".
After coming out of the police station, Gao Fan's parents decided to take him back to his hometown in Jiangxi.
Before leaving the camp, he was asked to write an "information note" admitting that the police had defamed Juran and all the members. At the end of the "situation statement", Gao Fan made a commitment: "no longer slander Mr. Ju and slander all members, correctly treat parents, go to school, eat and sleep on time, do their own things."
(In addition to Ju Yuran, in the text of the interviewees are pseudonyms)
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