Parents can be the biggest stumbling block on the road to dreams
When I was in junior high school, I often watched CCTV's "Taiwan Business Story".
One Taiwanese businessman said something that I still remember vividly.
He said: In fact, if you ask a random person whether he has a dream, he will say yes, but in a hundred people, only one or two of them may really realize their dreams. This road is really too difficult, external, to face countless unexpected difficulties, internal also have to put up with parents and relatives of the question and opposition.
The reason why I always remember this quote is because similar things have happened in my life.
In the first year of high school, my classmate, Tian Xiaoyu, who has a dream of being a writer, wanted to study literature, and his mother insisted on forcing him to study science, saying that it would be better for him to find a job in the future.
As a result, the original every week in the QQ space to criticize the current situation, the lyrics of the Tian Xiaoyu, after graduation in a factory as a quality control, and never wrote a word.
The first time I saw this, I had to go to the hospital, and I had to go to the hospital, and I had to go to the hospital, and I had to go to the hospital, and I had to go to the hospital, and I had to go to the hospital, and I had to go to the hospital.
As a result, my cousin had to study for three years, but she didn't learn to play well, and her test scores plummeted, and she was almost at the bottom of the class.
After graduating from college, his classmate Jie wanted to stay in Nanjing to do media, but his family called every week to urge him to go back and take the civil service exams, and urged him to go back for the first half of the year, just as his work was not going well. The first time I saw this, I was able to get the ball rolling, and I was able to get the ball rolling, and I was able to get the ball rolling.
The result of the test two years did not test, and still stay in their own family restaurant to collect money.
I wonder if Tian Xiaoyu's mother could have supported him to study literature, perhaps he would have insisted on writing, and at this point, he may also be successful;
If my aunt had let my cousin study painting, perhaps she could have been admitted to the Academy of Fine Arts as a fine arts student, and later be a good designer;
Smaller Jie's parents if they had supported him to do self-media, perhaps he had already grown up to become a monthly income of several hundred thousand KOLs.
They had a chance to have a better life, but they were killed in the cradle.
We have to recognize that often, parents are the biggest stumbling block on the road to your dreams.
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Mom and Dad, your support may give me a lot of energy
Yesterday evening, "This is Street Dance Season 2" officially closed! This is Street Dance Season 2" officially ended.
Among the top four, there are two dancers whose experience of learning to dance is in stark contrast.
One is the most popular contestant on Weibo, AK.
In an interview before the finale, he said he didn't know why he danced at one point because of his family's opposition.
But insisted on it, and used his strength to prove to his family the significance of his dancing, and eventually gained the recognition of his family.
AK's entire pre-game interview had a depressing atmosphere, and looking back, it seemed like all he could think about was confusion, pain, and helplessness.
The other is the overall winner of Season 2, Ye Yin.
Compared to K, Ye Yin's pre-game interview was much more relaxed.
He was basically smiling the whole time.
Ye Yin's mom and dad are very supportive of what Ye Yin likes to do.
If you like to draw, let him draw.
If you like to dance, let him dance.
With the support of his parents, Ye Yin not only can get the first place in Shanghai in the art exam, but also successfully break through the many world champion level in street dance and become the national champion.
In the interview, Ye Yin's father, said this sentence: win or lose he never emphasized. （
So you go to see, Ye Yin's whole state of the game, very relaxed, very comfortable, and do their best to bring out their best state on the good.
Because he knows that even if he loses, his mom and dad will support him as always.
Because the back is strong, he can let go and show himself without any worries.
On the other hand, K, who has a much stronger desire to win, dances very hard.
In the semi-finals, he danced in the battle for his team's spot, and was carried off the stage until he became dehydrated, but in the face of the staff's concern, he tiredly said: "It's okay, it's just a matter of winning".
If Ye Yin's street dance road is smooth and full of joy.
If Ye Yin's street dance path is smooth and full of joy, then AK's pre-street dance path may be full of gloom.
Because he was not recognized by his family at the beginning, AK was burdened with too much pressure, he had to win a competition, and use his victory to prove to his family that he was right to engage in street dance, and that he could rely on street dance, so that he could live the life he wanted.
Ye Yin is going with the flow, while K is carrying the weight.
Which is more powerful, joy or pressure?
Ye Yin's 100-46 win over AK in the final two out of four might answer that question.
But as I'm sure you saw from the show, AK is a very talented and hard-working dancer.
If his family had fully supported his dream from the very beginning, and could have let him walk on this path a little more undistracted, a little more down-to-earth and a little more open, and not let him carry too much desire to win or lose, would AK be a little better off now? Will there be more smiles?
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Parental understanding and support mean a lot to children
This summer's movie market has been completely set ablaze by a Chinese animation called Nezha's Descent of the Demon Child.
Dumpling, the director behind the movie, has also become the center of attention for many people.
A lot of behind-the-scenes stories were slowly revealed.
One of the most touching is that the director of the dumplings, in order to realize the dream of animation, quit his job at home, gnawing on the old gnawed for three years and eight months, relying on a person, a computer, to do an animated short film, "hit, hit a big watermelon".
During this period, countless people were cynical about him, and some friends advised him to do better, but he was unmoved, because his mom firmly supported her, and with her pension of more than 1,000 a month, she did everything she could to support his dream.
The result, as we all know, was a huge success, winning a number of domestic and international awards, including the Special Jury Prize, the highest award in the International Competition at the Berlin International Short Film Festival.
"Nezha's magic child descending" is known as the rise of the national cartoon, the box office has already stepped over the threshold of 2 billion, more than the Disney blockbuster "Crazy Animal City", became the highest-grossing animated film box office in the history of Chinese mainland cinema.
Imagine if Dumpling's mom had thought, like many parents, that his quitting his job to do animation was a bad idea, and pushed him to go out and find a job, and forced him to take the civil service exams, then I'm afraid that it would have been harder for him to have the kind of success that he has now.
The national cartoon that grossed over 2 billion dollars might also come a few years late.
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Mom and Dad, maybe we should communicate better
Although many times, parents can be a stumbling block on the road to realizing our dreams.
But we must understand that our parents are also motivated by love and want the best for us.
You feel that pursuing your dreams is the way to achieve a better life.
They feel that living your life as they designed it for you is the way for you to realize the good life.
Each thinks the same thing, but it's a different way.
Since we all have the same goal, why can't we talk about it?
I once asked Tian Xiaoyu, you like liberal arts so much, have you told your mom?
Tian Xiaoyu said, said, how did not say, it does not make sense, she felt that the study of science good employment. I'm tired of her kind of attitude that only she is right, I must be wrong, do not want to talk to her more.
From this statement, we can clearly hear that he and his mother have not had any effective communication.
The variety show "My Family's Daughter" on Hunan TV had such a thing.
After retiring from the game, ping-pong player Guo Yue wanted to move into the entertainment industry, but his dad was dead set against it.
Guo Yue said, "I want to enter the entertainment industry. The first time I saw this was when I was a kid, and it was a very good time for me.
The first time Guo Yue said he wanted to go into the entertainment industry, his father said no once.
It seems to be an irreconcilable conflict.
But in a miraculous turn of events, when Guo Yue was invited to talk to his father about the issue, the two men quickly reached an agreement after just a few words.
It turned out that Guo Yue wanted to use his spare time to try to enter the entertainment industry without delaying his current job.
Dad also expressed strong support if that was the case.
The reason why dad has been against it before, without any room for negotiation, is because, dad thought that Guo Yue was going to abandon his stable job and join the entertainment industry in which he doesn't have any experience or advantage.
So Zhang Wei summarized: "Yes, you two think about the same thing, but never chat, so you can never chat together.
So, I think, maybe a lot of disagreement between parents and children is because of the refusal to communicate at the drop of a hat, the children did not properly explain their dreams and aspirations to their parents, and the parents did not quietly listen to their children's dreams and aspirations.
In recent years, there has been a very popular concept of reconciliation with the family of origin.
Many people, who have started their own families, realize that their parents are not easy.
A lot of parents wait until their own children become a family, and then realize that they do not go to understand their own children.
So the child grows to middle age and then slowly tell mom and dad, thank you for the grace of parenting, before it is my willfulness.
So the mom and dad told their children that they were sorry, but we didn't have the heart to understand them.
It is of course a good thing to be able to reconcile with one's parents in one's lifetime.
But reconciliation means that there were already problems and conflicts.
Why couldn't those problems and conflicts have been resolved while growing up?
So, if you can, moms and dads, get to know your kids a little earlier and with a little more patience.