Married life, in addition to being able to live with your beloved, you also have to live in harmony with both family members.
When we are in love, we always look forward to forming a family with our lover and have our own life, but the ideal is always some gap with the reality.
We have to find a way to get along with each other in the constant bonding, be kind-hearted, and at the same time protect ourselves from harm.
This is the first time I've ever seen a woman in the world who has been in a position to do this, and I'm not sure if I've ever been in a position to do this before.
01,
Small Fang and small Yang when they got married to say yes, the house small Yang family to buy, bride price of 66,000, just married not long, the mother-in-law said he was sick to use money, looking for small Fang to before the bride price.
Small Fang is not willing, small Yang persuaded small Fang this as a loan to his mother, and then return to her, in her husband some persuasion small Fang agreed to borrow 30,000 to the mother-in-law to see the doctor.
Small Yang's father died early, only his mother alone to bring him up, his mother's words are very important to him.
Small Yang went back to his hometown to take care of his mother after he learned that she was sick, and a month later, he came back with his mother-in-law, and Yang told Xiaofang: "Mom came to help us look after the house, and she's too lonely by herself in her hometown."
Xiaofang was speechless, looking at the two of them in peace and harmony can only be temporarily stopped, thinking that this is not sick, why so energetic.
The mother-in-law also goes out dancing every night, and it's a good thing that she's healthy, but she's so energetic that she has to get involved in the daily lives of Xiaofang and Xiao Yang, which is a bit of a stretch.
Small Fang and her husband also mentioned many times, I hope that he and his mother-in-law to talk to her, so that her mother-in-law no longer randomly placed things in the house, and no longer open the door to their room and study, which will affect their rest and work, especially at night, do not lie down in the door to listen to them talk.
Small Yang always says yes, but then he doesn't know what he's doing.
Small Fang mentioned more often small Yang also impatient, always feel that it is small Fang in defaming their mother, and mother-in-law always pull small Yang asked the couple's life, all kinds of details, but also for the son of the advice.
Small Fang look at her mother-in-law's physical condition does not seem to need 30,000 hospitalization fees so serious, it would like to find her mother-in-law to get the money back, I did not think that just spoke, Xiaoyang said: "How can you do this, the money to my mother how to have the nerve to ask for it back, 30,000, and not a big number, my mother to raise me easy it? This house is still my family bought it!"
Listening to this, Xiaofang was not happy at all, obviously all agreed before, and now their family began to play a lousy, so she was not willing to show weakness back: "This house did not add my name, I'm still helping you to pay off the mortgage, what else do you want?
Small Yang directly threw out a sentence: "Unbelievable!" Then she dragged her mother-in-law back to her room.
Xiaofang packed up and went back to her mother's home that day.
Not two days later, Xiao Yang came to pick up Xiaofang home, said: "My mom knows you're not easy, she is also no money, we go back together, everything can be discussed."
Small Fang's parents also advised her not to be capricious, first to go back to the small couples which do not quarrel.
If Yang and her mother really want to solve the problem, they can live in peace and harmony, but Fang is the only one who thinks so.
02,
After returning home, her mother-in-law's attitude did change, and she prepared a nice dinner for her, so she thought life was finally starting to return to normal.
Two weeks later, Xiaofang found out that she was pregnant for two months, and her mother-in-law was very happy, bragging that she would soon be able to hold her grandchildren, and that there were many relatives who came to visit during the period of her pregnancy, and they brought a lot of health care products for Xiaofang to replenish her body, and some of them were for her to eat after the delivery of the baby.
When the child was eight months old, Xiaofang realized that the bird's nest and some supplements that she had prepared for the month had disappeared. She asked her husband if he knew anything about it, and asked her mother-in-law, who said, "You don't have to use it now anyway, and you still have two months before you give birth to your child.
Xiaofang almost fainted when she heard that, and cried for her mother-in-law to get it back, but she refused, and said grimly, "There's no point in getting it back if you're giving it away, you're forcing me to die as a mother-in-law!"
Xiaofang could hardly stand up and looked at Xiao Yang helplessly, and her mother-in-law added: "It's useless for you to look at him, he's my son, it's useless for you to say that he's useless, he wouldn't dare to care about me, let's just forget about it."
The result was that Xiao Yang really didn't even fart.
The next day, the mother-in-law appeared in front of Xiaofang with a victorious posture, saying: "I tell you, our generation did not eat any bird's nest is not also healthy over it, you are those things are a waste of time, I can return all the returned, can not be returned to take the relationship, which is better than you ate a lot of strong."
Listening to her mother-in-law, Xiaofang was really shocked, this is what the mindset ah, she really can not stand, then she decided to go back to her mother's home, the child was born in the home to sit in the month, not here to suffer!
After returning to her mother's home, her husband didn't rush to pick her up this time, but only came to stay with her during the maternity checkups, and she went to the hospital to wait for the delivery of her baby on her due date, and her mother-in-law came.
That night, there were signs of a start, Xiaofang and the doctor before the consultation is the first to give birth to their own can not be on the C-section, mother-in-law next to say: "It's okay, you go in and give birth to, I and Xiaoyang waiting for you to come out."
Small Fang's parents are on their way, peeling off the placenta when a little bleeding, small Fang vaguely heard her mother-in-law outside shouting: "Doctor inside the situation how! The baby is fine, isn't it? If you can't do it, you have to save the baby."
Xiaofang out of the maternity ward, his mother in the bedside lying down to sleep, the child is still in the nursery, I heard my mother-in-law outside and son said: "I tell you Oh, this time it is a girl, this is not ah, you work hard to regenerate another, how have to have a son ah, this girl is not much use to raise, read the junior high school will be able to go out to work, you are also a little easier. I'm not going to be able to do that. The previous said that the sick cheated 30,000 I give you save up, later I pretend to be sick again, she is not still a little money well, then again asked her to pull out some."
This side of Xiao Yang also responded: "En, the daughter is also okay, she is also very hard recently, the money even if it, I go in to see her."
Small Yang went into the ward and said as he cleaned up, "Wife, our little princess is quite pretty like you, when she's a bit older, let's have another one for her to be her companion."
Hearing this sentence Xiaofang, immediately felt a little sick, did not expect their husband is a face a set of people behind the scenes, she has been silent, did not pay attention to Xiao Yang, and so on the day of discharge Xiaofang and his mother said directly to take the things home, do not go to their side, to divorce.
Out of the month, Xiaofang contacted Xiao Yang, went to the Civil Affairs Bureau, her mother-in-law learned that she wanted a divorce, but also called her and said: "Women alone with children is very tired, you do not want to be capricious, you can not marry after the divorce to us such a good family, if you want to come back to me to let Xiao Yang on the pick you."
Xiaofang already knew that her claims were completely ignored and misinterpreted by her husband when she realized that there was no place for her in this family, she was a child-bearing machine and a money-bag for this family, not an equal member of the family.
When things came to a head, Xiaofang's mother-in-law still didn't realize the seriousness of the matter, and Xiaoyang didn't think she had done anything wrong, always thinking that what her mother said was right, and that the patriarchal idea had been internalized in their habits.
03,
After the divorce, Xiaofang brought up her own children and bought a two-room, two-bathroom house. Fortunately, she did not listen to Xiaoyang's words and resigned from her job to bring up her children full-time at home, and her boss liked Xiaofang's independence, and arranged for her to have a further education after a year, and her children followed her.
Soon, the baby will reach the age of kindergarten, and Xiaofang has been promoted to a higher position, and her monthly salary can save a few thousand dollars in addition to the mortgage payment, which is very good.
One time when I picked up the baby home, I saw my mother-in-law at the door of the kindergarten, and I didn't want to pay any attention to her. I was ready to get in the car and leave, but I didn't realize that my mother-in-law rushed over to me and tried to snatch the baby, and she ran away from me with the baby crying.
The next day after school, I saw my mother-in-law again, this time she did not rush up to snatch the child, she slowly walked to Xiaofang's side and said: "daughter-in-law ah, I will not interfere in your life again, you will come back from the mother's home, Xiaoyang home every day to read you to come on, mom knows the wrong, you will be as a mother of old fools, not okay!"
Small Fang, at this point, looked at her mother-in-law with a mocking face and said, "If I had known, why would I have been as such? I'm sorry, I'm not your daughter-in-law now, we're divorced, please don't call me that, okay?"
In fact, after the divorce, Xiao Yang would often call her to try to remarry, saying that her mother-in-law knew it was wrong and hoped she could come back, and also reviewed her own shortcomings.
But Xiaofang has broken her heart, her self-esteem does not allow her to return to that kind of environment, and even more so, she can not let her own daughter really lose their own life, as a mother in addition to their own, she cares more about their children.
Small Fang recently also has a good development object, only the two sides have not yet pointed out, this person is very good, on the small Fang parents and children are very good, she will no longer be entrusted to do a "tool" without the right to speak.
04,
When we got married, no one could have imagined that there would be a day of divorce, and it's very important to understand each other, to be tolerant of each other, and not to take anything for granted.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a problem for the ages, and two women loving a man at the same time is more than just a love triangle, there is such a problem in every family.
It is far better to let go and let the child have his own life than to control him.
Love will eventually turn into affection, the longer the more blood is thicker than water, but the process of bonding only the person concerned to learn to grow up, the relationship can be solid.