Some people think that this is an attitude of exquisite life, a romantic demand and a valuable pursuit.
Some people think that this is just a kind of "affectation", a princess disease, and an unhappiness for themselves and the other half.
Everyone has his own attitude towards life, his own outlook on the world, life and values, and no one can force anyone to change them.
Because everyone's life trajectory is different, you don't know what others have experienced, so you are naturally not qualified to judge others' right and wrong.
For most young people nowadays, life is well-fed, and most of the troubles in life come from family and growth, and more are psychological.
Social progress allows people to pursue their own interests and ideals. So for many young people, the sense of ceremony is as important as eating and drinking water, and it is an indispensable part of life.
However, on the other hand, the older generation are more conservative in life because of their birth environment and growth experience, and their personal ideals often appear extravagant in the face of the cruel reality of material.
This early experience determines their living habits and attitudes, so the older people are, the more practical and practical they are.
How indispensable the sense of ceremony is to young people, and how flashy it is to the older generation.
Whenever you discuss the sense of ritual with older people, they will ask, "Can the sense of ritual be eaten as a meal? Can you wear it as clothes? "
Faced with this kind of question, the interviewee is often speechless and doesn't know how to answer it.
Actually, it's normal not to answer Why? Because these problems are actually "the bull's head is not the horse's mouth."
The so-called sense of ceremony itself can not be used to eat, nor can it be used to wear. Like books, it is neither food nor clothes, but a kind of spiritual enjoyment and wealth.
In the past, people used to preach the theory of "reading is useless", but later this argument gradually disappeared.
Now people are beginning to condemn the sense of ritual again. Do you think this story is familiar?
In fact, rejection and negation can't reflect the quality of a thing, especially for new things.
People are always full of fear and doubt about the unknown and new things, which is a survival instinct engraved in genes, but in this era, this instinct has gradually become as redundant as wisdom teeth.
New doesn't mean bad.
Existence is reasonable, and people will not create something meaningless for no reason. What's more, the sense of ritual is not a new concept after all.
As early as when civilization was uncivilized, human beings had a "sense of ritual", but at that time it was manifested in awe of nature and respect for gods.
Now the gods and nature are no longer unknowable forces, and the sense of ritual has changed from a belief in external things to a belief in self.
Ceremony in the modern sense embodies people's three views on themselves and their pursuit of life, and is a concrete projection of people's abstract mental outlook in reality.
In that case, everyone actually has a sense of ceremony, but they are different.
Young people buy fresh cut flowers and raise more meat, while middle-aged and elderly people grow vegetables and raise bluegrass; Young people keep pets, and middle-aged and elderly people keep fish and birds; Young people dance street dance, and middle-aged and elderly people dance square dance. ...
It seems that everyone's hobbies are different, but there is no difference in essence. As long as it doesn't affect the interests of others, there is nothing to blame and dislike each other, but everyone usually can't see through this.
The sense of ritual is just to make your life more meaningful. A person has lived all his life. If there is no expectation and nothing in his heart, what's the point of living?
As for the relationship between husband and wife, the sense of ceremony is even more important.
What is the basis of marriage? This is love. Love itself is an intangible spiritual product, but people always use material to measure and maintain it, thinking that as long as they eat, drink and wear, their feelings will last forever.
Through countless "painful cases" in reality, it is not difficult to find that in love and marriage, only talking about material needs and ignoring spiritual enjoyment will lead to big problems sooner or later.
When people are carefree in material things, they will naturally start to have the need for spiritual enjoyment.
For couples, to meet this demand, a sense of ceremony is the best way, especially as they get older.
When people reach a certain age and everything settles down, when should they not enjoy life at this time?
After working hard for most of my life, I can finally think about spiritual enjoyment. It is not cost-effective to send yourself and the other person away with a "unnecessary" sentence.
The most important thing in life is happiness and success.
It only takes a little cost to satisfy the sense of ceremony of both parties, but it is a great sense of satisfaction and happiness. Why resist such a useless thing?
If there is no sense of ceremony in husband and wife's life, marriage is like a stagnant pool, and two people are like right and left hands, which is not fresh at all. What's the point of living that day?
The older you get, the more you need a sense of ceremony. It can be a bunch of flowers, a "I love you" before going to bed, or even a "love dinner" for each other.
A sense of ceremony is not necessarily a specific thing or thing, nor does it necessarily cost much. As long as there is a warm and loving heart, it is enough.
Life needs a sense of ceremony, and couples need a sense of ceremony more.
Especially middle-aged couples, don't take being old as an excuse to warm up their love and just say "I love you" to him.