It's just that grandparents think it's hard on the kids and the adults, and the parents are tired of going to work and having to take care of the kids, and the kids are sent to the kindergarten early in the morning, and they don't eat well, they don't sleep well, they don't play well, and they wait for a long time for their parents to pick them up from work, which is really heartbreaking to think about.
Grandma and Grandpa said that he is still young, he can go to kindergarten next year, or he can go to kindergarten in his hometown, so that we can earn money and make a living.
I think the grandparents also said very reasonable, indeed come back to kindergarten, my husband and I will be more tired, and, a lot of experts say that the child is too early to school, very bad.
It's just that I still want to bring him back to kindergarten, I really miss him and I don't want him to be a left-behind child in my hometown.
My husband and I don't have much income, I can't give up my job to be a full-time mom, my grandfather is not well and needs care, and my grandmother can't bring the child over, so I can only think of this path.
I gave her back: there is nothing more important to a child than seeing their parents every day. As long as the child is independent and happy enough, all those so-called expert opinions can be ignored.
She was obviously very happy and sent me back: I'm enlightened, I'll book a flight right away and pick up the kids tomorrow, thanks!
For example, the above mom's dilemma, both afraid of her child going to school a year earlier, she will suffer more harm than she can handle, but she also doesn't want to miss out on spending time with her child, and she can't sleep or eat, she is in agony, just how to choose to have the best of both worlds?
But if a step forward, the child can end the gray time left behind, then this step, can be righteous.
When faced with the child's emotional needs and mental health, when faced with the love and companionship between parents and children, the choice of whether or not the child should go to kindergarten before the age of three has long been insignificant.
But there are some tough choices to be made, and it's not about right or wrong, it's not about gain or loss, it's not about pros or cons, especially when you're a parent.
I once met a beautiful young mother on an airplane, she talked to me about mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and daughter, these ancient problems, in her mouth can be light.
She said that her daughter's grandfather had died, and her grandmother was still alive, and her grandmother had poured all her feelings into her granddaughter, probably because her partner was no longer with her, and she loved her granddaughter very much, and spoiled her to the extent that she could be said to be afraid of melting in her mouth, and afraid of flying away when she spat it out.
So, the daughter of this beautiful mother, grew to nearly three years old, still can't eat alone, can't toilet alone, can't speak well, all aspects of development are very slow.
Mom was anxious, panicked, and argued with the old public relations in the room countless times, but still can not change the grandmother's spoiled habits.
Later, mom decided to send her daughter to kindergarten, although under 3 years old, but she felt that the only way the child would not be completely spoiled is to send her to kindergarten.
So she took a long vacation, took her daughter back to her mother's home, spent half a month training her daughter's basic living skills, and finally rushed to the child's kindergarten in September, when her daughter was exactly two years old and 10 months.
The daughter of the kindergarten, there is no expert said "lack of security, fear of socialization, affect the psychological development" and so on.
Her daughter in addition to the beginning of the adaptation of the two or three weeks, basically a month later, very happy and lively, but also made a lot of small friends, and no longer so dependent on the grandmother.
And the grandmother also has their own life entertainment, dancing, playing mahjong, research all kinds of delicious ......
She sometimes get off work early, and grandmother and go to the school to pick up their daughters ......
The family is in harmony.
The mother recalled: "The first time I sent my child to kindergarten, she cried her heart out, I looked at her little face full of tearstains, she is still so small, so fragile, so innocent ......"
When she said these words, her expression Both helpless and ashamed.
How much hard work and effort does it take to have the beauty of today?
There are only a few reasons why children should go to kindergarten before the age of three:
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2. You don't want your child to be separated from his or her parents, and you want to bring the child back from his or her hometown as soon as possible, and you don't want to give up your job, so you send him or her to kindergarten earlier.
3. The old man favors the child too much, so he goes to kindergarten early to avoid the old man's excessive pampering.
4. The mother wants to rejoin the workplace and doesn't want to be eliminated by the society, so she lets her child go to kindergarten earlier.
5. I don't want my child to lose at the starting line, so I want my child to learn knowledge and skills as early as possible.
In addition to the fifth reason, the first four are full of helplessness and sadness.
There was a working mom who cried on the Internet: because of life, the child less than three years old was sent to kindergarten, the child cried and needed more time to soothe, so often late, and was eventually dismissed by the company. The day the company was fired, holding a box, standing in a corner of the subway car, crying snotty ......
None of the parents are only seeking their own ease, the less than three-year-old baby sent to kindergarten.
They have all struggled with the balance between reality and their children, only to succumb to reality and send their children to kindergarten in tears.
They are all burdened with worries, guilt, and self-blame, and are choosing a new path full of unknowns and thorns for their children and for themselves.
They are just trying to make the most of life and parenting until their child grows up, through day after day of patience and exhaustion.
Behind their choices, there is a great deal of reluctance and heartache.
Parents who can stand in front of the school with a smile on their face, waiting for their children to be released from school during the most stressful times of their lives, deserve respect, regardless of whether their children are under three years old or not.