When I was a child, I felt that I was not beautiful enough and cute. In order to avoid being disliked, I never take the initiative to make friends with others. Even if I have friends, I dare not say more, for fear that if I accidentally make a mistake, people will think: this man is ugly and stupid, why not hide?
One day, my mother bought me a pair of jade butterfly hair clips and praised me for wearing them like a princess. How easy it is to satisfy a child's vanity. At that moment, I really felt like a princess, or the youngest of your highness.
So, in the afternoon when I put on the jade butterfly hairpin, I flew happily in the eyes of my classmates and talked about it everywhere. Everyone talked with me enthusiastically, and I was surprised that I had such an idea.
Near school, intoxicated with happiness, I could not help secretly feeling: "This hairpin is really attractive, and everyone is beginning to like me."
Just then, the deskmate suddenly said, "Hey, you are wearing a beautiful hairpin today." As soon as the voice fell, other talents gathered around and found the hairpin.
It turned out that it was not the jade butterfly hairpin that attracted them, nor the good luck that the jade butterfly hairpin brought me. What really changes my situation is a happy heart that radiates from the inside out.
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There was an architect who could never design satisfactory works. His clients criticized him for being too old-fashioned and lacking creativity, and he couldn't surprise people at all.
The designer feels wronged because he is not an irresponsible guy. On the contrary, he has always been a workaholic, often working overtime to catch up with the sample, but God never cares for him. Instead, look at the young people in the company. They are busy chatting, eating and dating, but they often come up with solutions that surprise customers.
Over time, the designer began to doubt that he was not suitable for the job at all, so he went to the boss to resign.
He told his boss that it was difficult for him to do this job alone, and I was afraid I could not do it any more. The boss asked him, "What kind of flowers are planted in the flower bed downstairs of our company?"
He was a little puzzled, wondering why the boss asked him this. Moreover, he hurried downstairs every day and didn't notice what flowers were planted in the flower bed.
The boss sighed and said, "How about this? You stick to it for another month. During this month, I ask you to hold your daughter for three minutes every day. "
A month is nothing to his career, and three minutes is nothing to his miserable day. He agreed.
At first, he hugged his daughter for three minutes in a hurry and then put her on the bed. Gradually, he found that three minutes was not enough, because his daughter said more and more to him, and he had to hold it for a while. Later, the designer himself began to enjoy this task and liked to chat with his naive daughter.
Once, my daughter raised her arm exaggeratedly to show him her bruises in the corner of the house. Before, she had never spoiled her father so much, because he was always busy with his work with a calm face.
Soon, the designer submitted a new plan to the customer. He designed a house with no edges and corners inside, which is not only unique and refreshing, but also very gentle, comfortable and safe, suitable for young couples who are ready to have a baby.
This scheme has been unanimously recognized by the company and customers and has become a classic case of the year. The designer doesn't want to quit, because he has learned to enjoy life with a new attitude. Moreover, he has seen beautiful roses planted in the flower bed downstairs of the company.
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My neighbor's aunt is nearly seventy years old this year. She can play Tai Ji Chuan and likes to dance square dance. She is a happy old lady.
Before the annual leave, she suddenly knocked at the door and asked me to go to the market to bring her some vegetables. It turned out that she hurt her leg.
I just remembered to say hello: "Where are you going for the New Year?"
"Where is it? Spend it here. " The old lady who lives alone smiled.
She lost her husband when she was young, and her son was brought up alone, but he left first, leaving her with the sadness that white-haired people sent black-haired people. She was isolated.
She told me that at first she couldn't figure out why fate was so unfair to herself. She's been moping and sighing all day, and it's getting darker and darker.
Once she was walking on the road, a little girl accidentally met her. The girl cried, looked up at her, gasped, and then ran back two steps.
She went home and looked in the mirror and found herself dressed in black, pale and cold, really chilling. No wonder the world treats her coldly from morning till night, and no one gives her a good look. How sad my son will be when he finds out.
From then on, she began to cheer up, pay attention to three meals a day, and strive to participate in community activities to make herself healthy and rosy. Her friends have increased and her life has become lively. Even people on the road no longer look at her coldly. She found life less difficult.
Whether it is the cold reception of others or the injustice of fate, if life continues, the pain will not help. Why not please yourself?
If you can't bring happiness to yourself, then you can't bring happiness to the world. If you can't bring happiness to the world, then the world will give you even less happiness. To break this vicious circle, we must start from our own happiness.
The so-called pleasing yourself is a kind of ability to produce happiness. We can only love the world from ourselves and others if we first delight ourselves and radiate happiness. Otherwise, a person who doesn't even love himself and his family well, why should he ask the world to be gentle?
So, when you want to please the world, you might as well learn to please yourself first, and then you will find that it is not as difficult as you think.