Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a complex relationship between the two sexes, from the point of view of the current family there are mainly the following:
1, is not the "real mom", to maintain a safe distance. This is not a very close relationship, in the eyes of the daughter-in-law, can reduce the occurrence of conflicts. However, this kind of mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is not for each other to consider, inevitably some hurt and anger.
Mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is generally separate, daughter-in-law and mother-in-law to maintain a distance between.
Real life, many daughters-in-law chose this way, to avoid living under the same roof with their mothers-in-law, even if they have a child, they will not let their mothers-in-law to help bring up the baby, preferring to let their own mothers to take care of the child, if their mothers-in-law want to grandchildren, but also can come to see at any time.
This relationship, although emotionally distant, but as the saying goes, "distance produces beauty", does also reduce the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, especially for the stronger character of the daughter-in-law and mother-in-law, more to avoid the discord, but also to give each other enough space and freedom.
2, their own to bring up children, let each other free. Daughter-in-law silently choose to bring their own baby, the fear is to quarrel with the mother-in-law, and the mother-in-law to live separately, keep the distance, will not be contradictory with the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law will not interfere with their own lives, each other will also have enough space and freedom.
Nowadays, the "polite detachment, mutual respect" relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is becoming popular, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not a needle in the eye.
In the eyes of the daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law is not a "mother", so they will take the initiative to lower their expectations, and will not think that they help to take care of the baby is deserved, the gratitude whether it is material or verbal will give back, and to do each other respect.
Some people think this kind of politeness will make people feel not close enough, but in fact it does avoid a lot of unnecessary conflicts. Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law do not seek to be as close as mother and daughter, but at least can respect each other, not lose peace and harmony. So many baby moms will choose this kind of mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship.
3, eat and live together, life is depressing. Because of the different concepts of life, resulting in differences between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in child-rearing, in addition because of the differences in personality, during the period of living together, there are often contradictions, each also due to endure, living a depressing life.
After all, there is a big difference between the two generations of people's concepts of life and parenting style, under the same roof, the trivialities of life inevitably bump into each other and contradictions, in the long term such a state of life, the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law will inevitably be accumulating resentment towards each other.
As the saying goes, "one mountain cannot accommodate two tigers". In life, if all have their own opinions and do not give in, there will certainly be "fire and water" phenomenon, mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship will be reduced to "freezing point".
4, very good feelings, get along harmoniously. Mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is very harmonious, whether it is the mother-in-law, or daughter-in-law, know how to make concessions; two people in the character of similar, for many people and things have the same understanding, have *** with the same topic, is not easy to conflict.
Like mother-daughter points mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship? Of course there is, but it is also extremely rare.
This kind of mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship often need to be between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law with a true heart for a true heart, because at the same time love a man, know how to tolerate each other, comfortable concessions, the mother-in-law will not be in front of the daughter-in-law, the daughter-in-law will not be picking up the mother-in-law's not everywhere.
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law want to get along well, must go through a period of time, and mutual tolerance, respect, so as to make this relationship in a more stable state.