The first trick, back-of-the-ear defense defense mechanism is a psychological term of the psychoanalytic school, meaning that when people face difficult situations, a kind of inner relief of anxiety. Adaptive tendency psychology has developed to the present day, the defense mechanism is also changing with the times. During the Chinese New Year, Gold, and other large family serials hyped up for release, the exposure of the back-of-the-ear defense is increasing. In the process of fighting with parents and relatives, playing dumb behind the ears is a basic trick, the principle of which is to wear down the patience of elders to change the topic and nip the topic of marriage reminders in the bud. In the face of all the soul torture of family and friends, to uphold the smart play dumb, serious perfunctory purpose, the implementation of selective attention, indirect deafness, persistent deafness 17 words of the core spirit, to create a harmonious and warm, happy atmosphere of the Spring Festival. This defense mechanism is convenient to carry, available at any time, the use of index three stars.
The second trick, attention diversion method. This trick to use, the need for agile responsiveness as well as proactive execution, to know people. Attention resources are limited, if you can do a preemptive, promote each other to transfer attention to their own, plus the chances of rushing will be much less.
For example, when the uncle and aunt are going to ask, ah, the daughter is so big, do not know if there is no find? Auntie drink a mouthful of water. Where does your child work? Uncle, where did your child buy a house? How much is a square meter? You should always be careful to throw the sensitive topics of square dance, pension, marriage, work, mortgage, and second child at each other in order to take the initiative in the fight against marriage reminders. Let aunt and uncle show off, or spit a few words to enhance the interaction, better than miserable practical index four stars.
The third trick, reasonable **** love law.
Once upon a time I had a friend in the mom and dad hyped up, attempted to reason with them, and now he has enteritis, because his entire intestine is green. This story tells us to drink again. When not discussing the issue of urging marriage, you must maintain a strong desire to survive, the Department of reasoning both death, a **** love to draw the point. *** love is not the same as reasoning, *** love is to put yourself in the shoes of others to understand the feelings and emotions. For example, when mom and dad say, you are this age, and then do not find a date, alas, what can be done? Mom, I know you are very anxious, but I look ugly, it is really difficult to find a partner ah right, I understand your feelings, I am as anxious as you, really, but I do not have a house, no car, anxious also useless ah. In short, the appropriate **** love in addition to reducing the number of times parents urge to marry, but also to promote the harmony of family relations. For example, mom and dad will close their eyes to comfort you, in fact, you do not look ugly and so on. The practical index of this trick 4.5 stars.
The fourth move, to meet the need for gossip. Maslow divided human needs from low to high into physiological needs, safety needs, belonging and love needs, respect needs and self-actualization needs. The seven aunts and aunts during the Spring Festival level of need, in addition to the material needs such as food, clothing and warmth, there are also urging the marriage, urging the birth of spiritual needs, which can be collectively referred to as the need to gossip. Most of the relatives, especially some less familiar, most of the purpose of urging marriage is not really concerned about you, but to meet their own a burning gossip curiosity, this time just need to meet their gossip needs. For example, the aunt asked, how old is this year? What kind of work are you doing? Auntie, I this year 18 in the food factory to the cookies tied holes, auntie, I this year 20 in the fruit store to the dragon fruit paste sesame seeds, ouch, this child has a date?
No, I don't have any money, I can't talk to anyone. The first thing I'd like to do is to ask you to give me some money, and I'll pay you back when I'm married. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal of money from me! Auntie, I have a low salary, and no object, I'm really useless, anyway, the young people take the initiative, serve the aunts, in order to make the Spring Festival better Oh, based on the wide range of applicability of this trick, I give five stars to the last note just want to say that, we are single by merit, why should we be blind date ah?