To be precise, no one is not afraid of death. Especially people of a certain age are even more afraid of death. Once a person is afraid of death, he or she will lose confidence in life and show a state of hopelessness. How can we, as family members, help the elderly to understand this kind of mentality? Observing those old people around us, we find that those old people who are afraid of death are characterized by a relatively rich spiritual life and a relatively happy life in their twilight years. For them, the older they get, the more they fear death. Of course, there are also some old people who are worried about their children and grandchildren, for example, their grandchildren have not yet been born, or their grandchildren have not yet started their own families, so they cannot leave until they see them achieve happiness. However, with the departure of their neighbors and old friends, the elderly become more and more afraid of death, so they are more concerned about their health. For example, when they get a sales call from some so-called expert health seminar they will try to attend it. As a family member, how can we open up this kind of psychology of the elderly?
One, more time with the elderly
As family members, especially children, more time with them. Reduce their sense of loneliness, and then reduce the elderly fear of death psychology. Many elderly people are more afraid of death because they are lonely and isolated for a long time. Often with the elderly to do sports, chat, tell jokes, the elderly happy and pleasant, invariably prolong life. Cheerful laughter can enhance immunity, help blood circulation, can reduce the accumulation of harmful substances, reduce the threat to blood vessels, reduce the chance of heart disease, while driving away negative emotions, release stress.
Two, around the neighbors, friends died as little as possible to tell the elderly, to avoid the elderly to participate in the memorial service
When the elderly friends and relatives died, if the elderly state is not good, it is best not to tell the elderly, to avoid the elderly to participate in the memorial service, otherwise it will aggravate the elderly to the fear of death. Of course, if the elderly can adjust their own state of mind, insist on going, as a child is best accompanied.
Three, to the elderly to find something to do, let him feel that he is needed
Many people are afraid of death because there is no faith. My grandmother was 84 when she left, and my grandmother was 77 when she left. I remember when my grandfather left, my grandmother came to the house to do my grandmother's thinking, and from then on my grandmother and my grandmother began to believe in Taoism. They were kind and charitable, donating money when they heard of disasters and burning incense at temples on the first and fifteenth days of the lunar calendar. Before Grandma and Grandma left, they both said they would go to heaven when they died. When they left, they were very peaceful. Developing the interests of the elderly and giving them something to do, such as square dancing, playing chess, planting flowers, feeding cats and dogs, or letting the elderly take care of the children, driving them to and from school, cooking and cleaning the house, etc., makes the elderly feel that they are needed and is more useful than saying, "You are not going to die". If the old man began to talk, nagging, family members should try to cooperate, let him believe that their views are valued, they are welcome, so as to experience more support and sense of intimacy, the old man will slowly put the attention back to their own lives, and will not be every day thinking about the fear of death.