"No one is born strong. A man is only truly strong when he stands on the edge of a cliff." Who wrote this quote?

Ma Bow Takeda A Japanese Deaf Woman's Experience

"Although stories of people with disabilities living tenaciously despite their disabilities are not uncommon in the world, only those who have experienced it firsthand will understand the hardships involved. There is no such thing as a born strong person, and a person is only truly strong when standing on the edge of a cliff." This is the colophon of The Resistance. Since its release in August last year and as of January this year, Resistance has sold 270,000 copies, making it one of the best-selling books in Japan this year. The autobiographical novel depicts the author's bumpy and rugged 29-year life journey. Song Lei, a Japanese woman of less than 1.5 meters tall, is so striking in her valiant posture and confident demeanor when she is mixed in with the tall and burly American crowd. This is Takeda Ma bow, her 29 years of life is the way through, courageous, never backward. For a 3-year-old girl, becoming deaf and mute meant that there would be a silent world in front of her. Due to the side effects of the scarlet fever treatment, this bad luck befell Ma Bow. However, deep in her young heart she still longed for joy and friends, so she refused to go to the school for the deaf. However, she didn't get what she wanted and spent her kindergarten through high school years being bullied. The hearing aids of the time were large and bulky, hanging from her chest like two large peaches. This made Asahina an excellent target for teasing, with female classmates just laughing at her, while the boys would always make a move and say nasty things, thinking that deaf people couldn't hear others anyway. Living under ridicule all day long, Asako became withdrawn and timid. She always kept to herself and ate her meals in silence. But she still maintained a strong sense of self-esteem and often hid in the restroom to eat so that no one would see her pitiful appearance. She was not allowed to answer questions in class, and no teacher was willing to answer her questions. She was not allowed to attend physical education classes, and she could not play her favorite game of horse jumping... There was a time when Asako was really confused, could not find the meaning of her existence, and even thought of death. A child who has suffered a lot in life always matures earlier. When she started high school, Asako's thinking began to change. She thought, "If you only get angry and cry when someone bullies you, you are doing exactly what you want to do. She thought, "If you just get angry and cry when people bully you, you're just getting what you deserve. From then on, a smile often appeared on Asagao's face, but the smile contained anger and tears, as well as one of the saddest experiences as a girl: at the age of sixteen, a strange man who said he would teach Asagao to practise her voice took her to a corner of the schoolyard and raped her. "Japanese men are bad people, they are dangerous." The thought began to arise in Asagao's mind, "If I ever fall in love, I will definitely choose black men, who are also seen as inferior due to their different skin color, and should share many of my ****ing feelings." At the age of 25, Asako was increasingly interested in living in the United States. At that time, she fell in love with a black man named Troy. Troy was married and in the middle of divorce mediation. She took him at his word and kept faxing him until he returned to the U.S., but it was hard to stop the growing longing. As a result, Mah Bow quit her job at an advertising agency and took up a job as a hostess at an entertainment center in order to save up for her trip to the United States as soon as possible. Soon, the deaf-mute hostess became so famous in the entertainment industry that guests called her "Leopard Girl". Various media outlets also paid attention to her and published many articles about her. In two years, she saved 20 million yen (equivalent to 1.4 million yuan). Finally, she got what she wanted and set off for the United States. However, when she arrived in New Jersey, what she saw was that Troy, whom she missed day and night, was still not divorced and was living a peaceful life with his wife and two daughters, and it dawned on her that her feelings were being toyed with. Asako doesn't want to return to Japan either and comes to New York with a broken heart. She meets a young black man, Kalu, in a hotel in Shimokukappu. Kalu is attracted to this small, fair Oriental woman and starts to pursue her frantically. The unfamiliar Mah Bow felt lonely and helpless, coupled with the trauma, and soon fell into the arms of Kalu. Not long after, they applied for marriage to the New York City Hall, and became an official couple. After a long period of time, they filed for marriage at the New York City Hall and became husband and wife, but she had many hopes for her marriage and realized that her husband was HIV positive. Not only that, he was also a member of a violent group that sold drugs and killed people. Kalu was reluctant to take up a proper job, let alone save any money, and had difficulty in keeping the family afloat. She has no choice but to return to her old job as a bare-chested dancer in a bar to earn a living. However, she still loves her husband and believes that he will be able to turn over a new leaf someday, and will do whatever she can afford without complaint. However, Kalu is already a criminal, and has become more aggressive in the face of his weak and kind wife. Soon, the newlyweds' life turns into a violent day of swinging swords and sticks. "If you dare to run away from me, I will find you and tear you apart!" Threatening Asako in this way, her husband took out a picture of the body he had raped and murdered and asked, "You don't want to turn out like this!" When Kalulu had a bad day outside, he came home and took it out on his wife, choking her, slashing her wrists with a knife, or putting a gun to her head. Many times, Asako felt that she was living on the brink of death, and that the mental and physical torture she was subjected to had reached its limit. She attempted suicide but was unsuccessful, and was brought to a mental hospital by a neighbor, which provided a moment of safety. With the help of doctors and staff, Asako mustered the courage to denounce her husband's brutal behavior. Kalulu was arrested. For Bow, Doraje, a 26-year-old black man, was the best gift God could have given her. Doraje was the night guard at a high-rise condominium on the block where Ma Bow worked. Unlike Kalulu, who had a bloodied face and a look of terror, Doraje had gentle eyes, calm and humble. At his side, Ma Bow finally smiled from the bottom of her heart. Doraje worked diligently, and although the night guard's pay wasn't great, only 300 dollars a week, what pleased Asako was that her husband was an honest laborer who would put every penny he earned back into his home and use it to live on. Every evening at 7:00 p.m., no matter what the situation was, Asagao made sure to drop what she was doing to prepare dinner for her husband before he left for work. Usually it was a Western style like steak and macaroni, and occasionally, a table of Japanese food was set up. No matter what Ma Bow cooked, Doraje would devour it all, except for the Japanese natto, which he could never get used to eating. Once, hemp bow pranked the natto sushi for him to eat, Dora Jie ate a bite, shouted that they were fooled, rose red. Asako said proudly, "Ha! So you blacks can blush too!" Maybe this is the happiness that Ma Bow has been expecting for a long time, "Peace and quiet is the best." She always said so. From Times Square in the center of New York City, take the subway, then transfer to a bus***, and drive about 1 hour and 20 minutes, there is a tree-lined residential area. It is home to a large Chinese and Japanese population, and signs with Chinese characters abound. Asako and Doraje's home is in this neighborhood. It was a simple apartment with a living room, dining room and kitchen in one place. Today, they are a family of three, and one-year-old Narumi Angela is the apple of their eye. Perhaps inheriting the restless gene of the hemp bow, the little one in three months, every two to three hours to eat milk, nine months, as long as the support of something, can walk out more than two meters away. Finding back the kinship someone said to hemp bow: "Why don't you try to write a book about your own twisted life experience?" Yes! For a person who can not express in words, the sweet and sour in the heart into words, should be the best way to talk. Ma Bow decided to start to put into writing, the title of the book is called the most straightforward and clear "resistance". However, she was hesitant to write an autobiographical novel. When she worked as a hostess in an entertainment center in Japan, she was strongly opposed by her parents. Later, because her story was published by many media, her family often received boring and harassing phone calls. Her parents broke off their relationship with her in a fit of anger. Now, if she publishes an autobiographical novel, she is sure to include many things that her parents don't want to know, which will undoubtedly be another blow to the two old men. What to do? Asako decided to portray her true self, but she would first write a long letter to her parents to seek their understanding before the book was published. Just then, Narumi was born. Coupled with the official settlement of her divorce from Kalulu, Asako was slow to find the time to write the letter. Last August, "Resistance" was published. "Mom and Dad will be furious." She felt very uneasy inside. It wasn't long before the family received a fax that came from mom! "We saw your book as if we also saw you living strongly in New York. Narumi is our eldest granddaughter, and we hope she will grow up healthy. Maho, who exactly do you resemble with your stubborn character? We are proud of you and wish you the best. All is well back home, so don't worry." No matter how hard and difficult times were, Ma Bow never shed a tear, but after reading the fax, she cried. She had finally gained her parents' understanding. Later, Ma Gong said, "In fact, my parents have always understood me very well, but it was me who did not understand their hard work. This is what I gradually realized after becoming a mother and in the days of raising Narumi." To this day, the memories of her childhood are still vivid in her mind. She remembers that when she was five or six years old and had just started practicing sign language, her mother was very strict with her. As a young girl, Ma Gong always felt aggrieved and was often scolded by her mother to the point of crying. Whenever she did, she would find her mother secretly weeping. At that time, she couldn't understand all these things, and she always resented her mother for being too cruel. Now Ma Bow finally understands that if she can't master sign language well, it will be very difficult for her to communicate with others, and she will live in a lonely and narrow world for the rest of her life. Now, she can work, have love, and raise her own offspring, all these should be said to be given by her mother. Asako's heart is filled with gratitude. At the end of "Resistance", she writes: "I am grateful to all the people who gave me love, and I am grateful for my 29 years of struggle against fate. Because, it is in this struggle I learned to experience love, but also learned to love unreservedly to the people around me, my parents, husband, children and even more people."