Text/Uchiha Itachi Kawaii
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I love visiting Zhihu, and I accidentally brushed a question? I am 22 years old and a junior. My parents gave birth to a second child behind my back. I didn't know until the baby was born. What should I do? ?
After a little reading, the topic is that junior students are preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination, busy with their studies and don't go home very much. When calling home, her mother said that she had prepared a surprise for her, and she was going to have a younger brother soon. At that time, she thought she was stupid, and then she was angry and annoyed.
Angry, she scolded her mother for nearly half an hour, and suddenly her mother said it was an exam. The reversal was so fast that she didn't react at once. Fortunately, nothing happened. She adjusted her mood and apologized to her parents.
After returning to the dormitory, she thought about it all night and still felt something was wrong. It stands to reason that her family won't make such a joke. So she called back and asked what was going on. Her mother said the child was eight days old.
She suddenly felt very sad. She has been nearly 23 years old since she was a newborn, and her parents are getting old year by year. What should she do in the future?
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Since the liberalization of the second child policy, many couples have chosen to have another baby, and the two children can be a companion.
Some parents have passed the age of good parenting, but thinking that the first child is old, requires little effort and is still in good health, they plan to have another child.
Most Dabao are against it, which will make the family unhappy in the long run.
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A couple, whose son is in his twenties, is preparing to work hard and start a better life, but they decide to have another baby.
My son strongly opposed it when he knew it. In his view, parents are not young, and their energy and physical strength are limited, so they are not suitable for raising another child. And I will get married and have children in a few years, and have my own family to bear.
The couple thought it was their right to have children, so they secretly got pregnant without telling their son and gave birth to a little brother.
Now it's not like before, the child is just a money breaker, and it's still the kind that keeps going 24 hours a day. Gradually, the couple couldn't stand it, and it was difficult to raise a second child, so they wanted the eldest son to help take care of the younger son.
The eldest son refused his parents' help because he didn't agree to have a second child, but his parents insisted on having one. Since he has the ability to have one, he should be able to raise it.
In a rage, the couple took their eldest son to court. To the surprise of many people, the eldest son was sentenced by the court to bear the responsibility of raising his younger brother.
According to the provisions of Article 29 of the Marriage Law of the People's Republic of China:
Brothers and sisters who have the financial ability have the obligation to support minor brothers and sisters whose parents are dead or unable to support them.
When younger brothers and sisters are underage and their parents are dead or unable to support them, adult brothers and sisters have the obligation to support them, and their legal obligations cannot be shirked.
The verdict was unacceptable to the eldest son and triggered a heated discussion among netizens. Most of them think that parents are too selfish, and the age gap between the two children is too big, which delays the life of the eldest son and is not good for the growth of the younger son.
Older children have no right to participate in decision-making, but they are obliged to support them. In front of the second child, the older child seems to be born weak.
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Online one-sided accusations against these parents, who are self-absorbed, paranoid, and heroic, feel that they can do it (of course, they always slap themselves in the face later).
Indeed, these people are reckless, and their children are unable to support them at birth, which has caused a burden to children and even society.
But sometimes, it's not easy to be a parent when you think about it. Behind everyone's single-handed criticism, who has been considerate of their ideas and listened to their demands?
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Parents want to have another child, largely because they need it? Be needed? Of course, it is also to let them have nowhere to put their energy.
Many parents in this generation put most of their energy on their children, leaving little time for themselves.
When children grow up, they leave home to study and work, have their own lives and circles, and are farther and farther away from their parents' lives.
Parents, on the other hand, suddenly lost the focus of their lives, just like busy people who suddenly have nothing to do, and seem at a loss.
Before I gave birth to a child, my father often said that I sometimes had to find fault with everything.
The arrival of the child made him busy at once. He has to coax the child, wash his face and brush his teeth, and teach her to babble. Although he is sometimes tired and backaches, his heart is happy.
When you are busy, you can obviously feel that your parents are better, and the baby is born? Demand side? Hungry, thirsty and sleepy, they all need help from others. Babies are born cute and will smile at you no matter how tired they are.
Every other generation? It doesn't have to be separated from the next generation. When parents are getting older and have more leisure, it is difficult to pamper them with such sustenance.
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After 80 s and 90 s, many of them are only children. They have been carefree since childhood and have no brothers and sisters, so it is difficult to understand the affection between their parents, brothers and sisters.
It is true that a simple family structure avoids many contradictions. We are independent and born in a happy era, so it is naturally difficult to understand their friendship that supported each other in that era.
Parents want to have another child, which is the experience given to them at that time. Brothers are United in interests, what's more, you are connected by blood and never give up.
Moreover, when they are raising children, it is enough to eat and wear warm clothes. The rough children gradually become people and stand tall.
In their view, it is not a big problem to raise another child. I can also give Dabao a companion. A hundred years later, my two children also have ties. Why not?
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The car of the times went ahead with a bang, and we sat in it, but our parents were gradually left behind.
If you can, you might as well spend some time with your parents and find out what they are thinking.
Everyone needs it? Be needed? Yes, so are my parents. Be needed? Only in this way will they feel that existence is meaningful and valuable.
You can also teach your parents some skills of the new era, such as small videos, quick payment, or square dancing to enrich their lives.
They can't arrange their own lives, and we can help them teach them, just as they taught us tirelessly when they were young.
After communicating with their parents, they will not go their own way and want to fight for a second child to divert their attention.
At that time, parents had their parents' lives, and we had our days. Isn't it the best of both worlds?
I am Uchiha Itachi Kawaii, and I love life and myself. Love writing and reflect on life. Please pay attention to me if you like me.