So, how can we really change ourselves?
We can start from these three points.
First, change your thinking first.
Subconsciously, we find it difficult to "change ourselves". "So we don't want to spend too much time to change."
Why do you say that to change, we must first start with changing our thinking?
Someone once said, "I can't cross that mountain."
It means "when you change your mind and face one thing with a positive attitude, you will get different answers."
The individual way of thinking determines the individual way of thinking. When a towering mountain stands in front of us, there are both positive and negative thoughts. At the same time, in the face of this mountain, positive thinking will take a proactive attitude. If the mountain can't move, I can walk there. And negative thinking will find it difficult. What should I do?
The results of two different thinking are completely different.
Positive thinking is a positive attitude, and negative thinking is a hard-working attitude.
For example, the hero in Waiting for the Rabbit was lucky for the first time and met a rabbit that accidentally killed a tree. "
Because of the hero's greed, the choice he made was wrong.
Pony encountered many questioning voices when crossing the river. When it came home, its mother told it, "Son, you won't know the depth of the water until you try it yourself."
After waiting for the rabbit, the hero is unwilling to work, waiting under the tree every day, dreaming that he can get the rabbit for nothing. Greed plunged him into hunger.
The pony was caught in a dilemma when crossing the river. Do the difficulties they face hinder them?
Later stories tell us that the hero waiting for him was killed by his greed.
The pony was inspired by her mother's words. The next day, he ignored other people's voices and bravely boasted across the river.
If the hero who waits for the rabbit can change his mind and face the matter of finding the rabbit with a positive attitude, then he is just lucky. I think. His fate will be very different.
The pony who was able to cross the river smoothly changed his mind, and his brave attitude helped him cross the river smoothly.
Different personal thinking patterns determine different answers.
Second, courage is more practical than imagination.
The pony can cross the river smoothly. Although he was inspired by his mother's language, he also had another side, and that was courage.
In real life, we will also encounter many difficulties, some of which we can solve and some of which we can choose.
As the saying goes, "the solution is always more difficult than it is."
Pony's courage is the result of making a choice. When it faces everyone's words, it is timid and doesn't know what to do.
So he went home and asked his mother for help. Mother told it, "in the face of difficulties, we can only find the answer by trying ourselves."
The pony who got the mother's positive language made a choice. The next day, start over and find out for yourself. Experience is the best experience.
Difficulties are not difficulties. What can stop us from solving difficulties is not external factors, but our own thinking. Think of simple problems as complicated.
A hero who waits for a rabbit will not starve to death if he knows how to choose, faces the reality and stops waiting for a rabbit to be killed under a big tree.
His death tells us a truth, that is, we should change our thinking and treat surprises in different ways, and we should not sit back and enjoy success, let alone be greedy. A moment of good luck doesn't mean it will last forever.
In the face of good luck, we should take positive thinking into account, which is not arranged by heaven, let alone taken for granted, but just accidental.
Fall into a state of imagination, and finally you can only suffer yourself.
If you want to be rich, there is no shortcut. But try hard. Besides being brave, you should also have a positive thinking and a proactive attitude.
In this world, there are not so many things that are taken for granted and there are not so many accidents. All the results come from our own actions, choices, thinking, dedication and other factors.
Third, from small steps to big steps.
Is it difficult to change yourself?
There are such questions on the internet. A high praise replied: "It is not difficult to change yourself, but it is difficult to change your thinking."
To change yourself, you can start with small things, such as developing your hobbies, such as square dancing, baking, learning to write, reading and so on.
It is easier for us to start with small things.
Xiaomei learned to dance for the first time. She was very nervous. She is afraid that she won't learn and that she will be teased by others. With a nervous heart, she danced badly for the first time.
With the accumulation of time, Xiaomei is no longer afraid of outside eyes. Gradually, Xiaomei released her nervous heart and danced well.
When we learn new things for the first time, we are always afraid that we will not learn well and that we will be troubled by external factors. When we take measures to accumulate bit by bit, we become confident and brave.
Why are we particularly nervous when we accept new things for the first time?
There is a word in psychology, "factor."
We are always worried about the judgment of external factors and the inner fear factors. If it weren't for accumulation, I don't think there would be a good us later.
Factor is like a sword. When you treat them in a state of doubt, it shows the relationship between factors. When you accumulate experience, it represents the confidence factor. Different states give different answers.
Start with small steps. Whether learning dance or something else, we allow ourselves to take our time. Everyone has a first time, and everyone will fail. From the first time to many times, experience is accumulated. There is a reason why failure is the mother of success.
All Excellence comes from diligence and accumulation, but all answers come from willingness to choose and willingness to pay. Change your mind.
Xiaomei, who is learning to dance, will accept that she can't dance until she has accumulated experience. I'm afraid she'll give up studying before she learns to dance.
There is nothing black and white in this society. As long as you are willing to learn, it is not so difficult to change yourself.
Write to the end
There is no shortcut to change yourself. As long as you are willing to change and take action, you can get relative results.
As the saying goes, "actions and efforts will have results."
Agreed.
Change yourself, not by external factors, but by yourself, whether you are willing to change.
Change can't just be lip service. The premise of change is initiative, willingness to pay, willingness to work hard, change thinking, make choices, make small steps, and then stride closer. Finally, our change is the real change.