The author's cousin, now 33 years old.
The author's cousin, now 33 years old, after graduating from college, was recruited to an enterprise in Xinjiang, with a salary of about 5,000 yuan,
The author's cousin, now 33 years old.
The author's cousin, now 33 years old, after graduating from college, was recruited to an enterprise in Xinjiang, with a salary of about 5,000 yuan, which is also considered to be OK. But suddenly one day, the enterprise to the second uncle called, said cousin has been many days did not work, let go back to lead the Church home. After returning home, ask cousin what is the reason for not working, he did not say, anyway, since then do not go out to work, and do not help to do farm work, all day life is the computer, cell phone, has been two or three years.
Through the author's understanding, found that this is not a minority of the phenomenon, but more and more common problems, can be regarded as a false "gnawing old people". So why?
Now the generation of about 30 years old, are the family planning policy is quite strict when the generation was born, some are only child, some are two children, very few have four or five children's situation. This generation is also a generation with significantly improved living conditions compared to their parents. With the reform and opening up, people's life is getting better and better, in addition to the necessary living expenses, there is more money to buy things for their children; moreover, because there are fewer children, no matter it is the parents or grandparents, they are more loving, or even spoiling, "in the hands of the fear of dropping, in the mouth for fear of melting," wanting to give money to the money, wanting to give things, not to mention the physical work, not to mention the physical work. They would give you money and things, not to mention manual labor. Therefore, it has become a habit of growing up in the days of "clothes and food", not willing to go out to work, but also too lazy to do farm work.
Especially those who grew up with excellent grades, in school, is the teacher's eyes of the good students, is never praised by the one; in the home, is the heart of the family's good boy, rarely reproach. However, out of the school this ivory tower, leave home this haven, when they need to face the complexity of society alone, will find that people are not so good communication, money is not so good to earn, and their original expectations are far from the psychological gap, can not stand, so they will go home for a long time, do not know what to do well.
What do you think is the cause of this phenomenon?
There are more and more young people in the countryside who don't work, don't work, and don't lack money. This is for stupidity?
I have a cousin nephew, thirty years old, born and raised two children. According to the reason is the age of the old, under the small, is a great time of hard work, but he did not do anything, sleep during the day, the night to do the "night wanderer", to mahjong as a friend, to poker as a friend, night and day intoxicated by gambling. Won, calling friends straight to the hotel, line wine guessing order, just like a rich son of a big money in general; lost, go home and open to the parents to ask. Parents have money to give him, no time, he will be fierce, holding a chopper stick, shouting parents: "I counted from one to three, and then do not take the money, I fucking start to beat people." The parents had no choice but to go around borrowing money for their son to gamble. Finally, this uneducated, lazy cousin nephew went to the place where he should go one by one to prison.
Nowadays, in the countryside, if you are interested in going to the field to see, the labor of the people are more than forty years old, and there are only a few below forty. Why do young people not work, afraid to work? The reason is very simple, parents of pampered and improperly educated so that their children are good for nothing, sit and eat. Another reason is the social culture, the popularity of a variety of entertainment tools, some negative things can not face up to the misguided young people often can not extricate themselves from the labor in their eyes is the lowly inferior, mahjong, recreational ball, ghost dance, etc. They regarded as high-level fashionable, will not mean that inferior, and over time, everyone follows suit, do not labor, figure enjoyment of the wind this formation.
Hedonism requires money, and the parents are the backbone of that! The parents of the children produced by the family planning as the jewel in the crown, after all, the burden of life is not as heavy as before, how much wealth to the children to spread, as long as the children are happy with their own pain is also willing to do. Spoiled children grow up to naturally accept their parents Shi Hui thought it was a matter of course! If they want it, it's fine; if they don't want it, they'll look at each other angrily or throw their fists at each other. The "young master" temperament is not to be messed with ah!
On these "gnawing old people", I dare to assert that if their parents once left, they will be a major tumor in society. Without the economic support of their parents, they do not labor, not to steal, what to eat, what to use, what to wear, not to break the law is strange!
My neighbor is the most typical, the neighbor's family of three daughters, some years ago, tight family planning, the old couple hid to give birth to a son, gold like a master, nothing to let do, a little bit of good food at home are his. Now tall and fat, thirty years old, what did not stand, out of work for fear of fatigue, in the home to do farm work for fear of dirty, nothing but the temper is not small, always heard him at home hysterical scolding father and mother, the old couple of bullying can not live, the neighbors heard a mess of shaking their heads! They say that this child is spoiled, tsk ...... because of the bad reputation, so far no one to say daughter-in-law. What's more, he is tall and energetic, three days with his parents' hard-earned money to go to the county whoring, back to the village to see people still show off, a night whoring one is not too much, have two or three ...... These have become the townspeople's joke! We give his family wall neighbors, he gave his parents at home when the power, I heard in my house are creepy, once my cat are scared from my two middle of the courtyard wall fell down ...... scary!
Lao Jin, the village old man called him Jin young master. The first time I saw this, it was a very good time for me to go to the hospital. The first time I saw this, I was in the middle of the night, and I was in the middle of the night. There are three sisters. It is the most idle person in my husband's village. It is said that he only came out to work for half a year a few years ago, and went back to press a gate for the house. After that, he never came out to work again. Every day he goes here and there during the day and goes fishing at night. When he was hungry, he would either go to the street to eat a noodle or go to his uncle's house for food. I would go to my uncle's house to get some rice, and I would also pick the food that I like to eat if I can see that it is good. The return is to catch the fish to eat to go to take no money.
The source of income depends on the remarried mother and three sisters. The two-story building built by the family is also the same. I feel that he is a big boy who has no control. This is so no one dares to introduce him to the girl, and he refused to come out to work to earn money to find a wife. The first time I saw this, I was able to get a good look at it, and I was able to get a good look at it.
Hubby said that his uncle ah aunt ah called him to help him is not to go, asked him to pick up a person or send things can. At first, his brothers-in-law had pity on him, the house has their credit, and then see him so do not self-respect - laziness is also a handful of things. His financial resources are his long-married mom and a few sisters from their own money, oh yes, and he went fishing at night to take the money to buy fish. Plus their village is a relocation village per capita six hundred dollars a year. Anyway, the single man can not spend much. This is the way to get by. People talk about him behind his back is used as a negative example: Oh do not care about you, let you like Uncle Jin like day to day on nothing to do, running around, not a man. People think that since he was a child, no one cared about him and ruined his life. In person, it is polite and courteous.
There is also a boy called Jinmin, and we are up and down the house. The first time I saw this is when I was in the middle of the night, and I was in the middle of the night. This is to his parents spoiled out. The first thing I'd like to do is to get the best out of the world, and I'd like to do it right. The parents were able to do a good job and inappropriate education or parents only cared about him to eat and wear a good cause of his now like this. He was too dirty to learn how to repair cars, and refused to do it, so he couldn't stay there for long. Every time he goes out for a few months, he goes home again. Not to mention giving money to the family, every time he comes out, he still has to pay for his transportation. Once his mother told my mother-in-law, "People say I spoil my child, but I still wash his clothes when he is this old. My own child I know, the clothes are from childhood to wash, I can not see him thrown there I am also idle, their own children do not hurt ah. What can I do? Now the child is not much life is also better than in the past. These are all fine, just think he is a little fat. I'm afraid he won't be able to get a wife in a couple of years. We've prepared the bride price. So we don't have to worry. If he's fat, he'll find a fat one. The first thing I'd like to say is that I don't know what to do.
No parents to count far-reaching will create young master, have parents will not give the child count far-reaching will also be the same to create young master.
"Young master" is the ancient rural landlord's children only have the title, but now it has become a kind of pejorative pronoun, but I found that there are many "young masters" in our village, they do not go out, do not work, do not go out to work, but they do not have a good job, but they do not have to go to work. The first thing I'd like to say is that I don't want to be a part of the family, but I'd like to be a part of the family.
At first I was very surprised, but then after my multi-faceted understanding I finally found their little secret, it turns out that they are doing these things!
The first thing is to do a happy anchor at home, I think the anchor industry we must be particularly clear, the last few years especially hot, basically every day to stay at home face also do not go out through some software and meet with everyone, and then through the whole world friends of a variety of rewards to live, not only the work of the bright, but also a very high income, attracted a lot of young people! "The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and you'll be able to do that!
The second thing is to do handmade work, now the handmade work is also particularly hot, through the online task and then online to find people to process, for the middle of the price difference can be said that these handmade work, if you can insist on doing it every day income of a few hundred dollars is absolutely no problem, a good brother of mine to do the handmade work of the project, in the rural area of the two-storey building have built a number of sets, the income is very substantial. The first thing I'd like to do is to get the money to pay for it!
Through my introduction you should understand the rural areas of these "young masters" do not work, do not work, how to earn money it, people are not not working and I do not have the same as my guards, I hope you can support them!
The rural "young masters" are more and more, do not work, do not work, there is money to spend, this is why?
In fact, the reason is very simple, these "young masters" are parents from childhood spoiled out, and now big can not stand a little bit of suffering, the work is not relevant, spend money on parents.
Now that we are here, we are in the midst of a busy season of corn harvesting and soybean harvesting, and our neighbors are planting fifteen acres of corn, and in the past few days, they've been harvesting corn and beating it up. The first thing you need to do is to have a quick and easy breakfast.
They're so busy, they don't see their 30-year-old son helping them out.
When asked, they would say that their son could not do the work.
The mother-in-law said about their son on the mouth: "His family that is the young master, from childhood, spoiled, spoiled to thirty years old into the family still continue to spoil, the small money to look at the eye, the big money is not capable of earning, playing cards and drinking the most good, a family of three to spend money on all rely on his parents to work hard to earn."
Looking at the busy old couple across the street, and then thinking of their "young master" son who doesn't help out at home playing with his cell phone, I really can't understand moncler jackets outlet the thinking and behavior of the old man.
And this is not an isolated case. In our village, I know of many people who don't work and rely on their parents for money.
These are the only children in the family, and I know that they are not the only ones in the family. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and you'll be able to do that.
Now big, do not want to work part-time, parents still can not afford to say more about him, lack of money a want to parents will meet him, so they live into the "big master".
I believe that every village has never had to work, and never lack of money to spend, and even in the past few years, this so-called "big boy" is more and more, and they are living in the clothes of the free days of the food, so they consume every day from where the money comes from? Why are there more and more such young masters?
This kind of never work and never lack of money to spend on the big young man is also known as the cold family rich two, they often come from the family is not rich, but is never a large amount of money, in the eyes of outsiders think that the family mining. There are several young people in our village who are this kind of rich second generation, one of them is still my distant relative. My relatives this cold rich second generation first called him a small king, small king is in his mother gave birth to two daughters after risking the risk of being overweight fines born, listen to my grandma said, small king's grandfather knew that the oldest three is the eldest grandson, the excitement of all the old tears. Wang's family is a typical family of son preference, the family's chores are all two sisters to do, Wang is responsible for eating and drinking, it is because of the family's spoiled, Wang did not go to school, so early dropout at home, to work in factories and can not eat bitter, so the family at ease to let Wang gnawing old age at home. Although Wang did not work but very generous, wearing a brand-name, holding the latest cell phone, never go out to take a taxi, but Wang's parents are still in their sixties to work for someone else, wearing the old clothes that were not popular many years ago. The neighbors and relatives can't see eye to eye have persuaded Wang's parents to stop pampering Wang, good heart no good reward, in exchange for Wang's parents do not understand.
In the countryside, there are so many "young masters", the first reason is because of the patriarchal ideological decision. In the past, the idea of son preference in the countryside is very serious, especially the son of the old man, can not wait to contain in the mouth for fear of melting, thrown in the hand for fear of falling, it is because of the spoiled since childhood, so many young people have lost the ability to do their own hands to get enough food, so when they grow up there is no ability to support their own ability to only nibble on the old man to support themselves.
The second reason is the improper education of the fathers. Many of the father generation farmers themselves do not have much culture, coupled with every day to do is physical work, after going home tired just want to rest, so the education of their children is either indifferent or the children's education is not correct. Many people in their own children make mistakes, the first thing that comes to mind is not their own children to do the right thing, but to put the blame on others, it is precisely because of this incorrect education, in the children into the society can not be integrated into the environment, and so can only be at home to squander their parents' hard-earned money. Parents facing such a situation is not to urge their children to find a job, but to work harder so that their children have enough money to spend. It is because of the parents' acquiescence and even encouragement that more and more young people are appearing.
The reason why there are more and more young men is that, in addition to the problems that these young men themselves have, it is the parents' acquiescence and connivance that is the main reason why there are more and more young men. Do you have such young masters in your village? And what do you think are the reasons for the formation of such big young masters? I'm not sure if you're a fan of the idea, but I'm a fan of the idea.
First of all, this rural "big boy", most of them are junior high school graduates, because as long as the university, very few of them are back home.
Junior high school graduates do not go to school "big young men", they go out to work age is not enough, parents think of the first two years at home. But I don't know that these two years is likely to raise the child into a lazy lazy idle "young masters" after the age of the older, but also only want to ask for money with the family, began to gnaw on the old man. Often the old man see just this one boy, thinking that he also want to use him to carry on the family line. First satisfy him, and when he gets married, it will be fine. But I don't know directly into a bottomless pit.
My husband's family, a relative of the child so, graduated from junior high school did not want to go to school, the family opened a small factory, thinking that the child does not go to school on the first in their own factory, the results of a day did not finish, followed by his classmates to run out to play. Then every day in the Internet cafes and other places, gradually with the social contacts more and more people, learned to smoke and drink fighting and brawling and other issues, at first the family also thought that the child is older tube, but the back of the child simply do not listen to parents, go home is to ask for money. Although the family opened a small factory, but also not a money printing plant, sometimes do not give money, he followed the others learned to steal, the results were arrested. The family began to find people to take money to bet on him, the result in the police station to the police beat, and finally only do jail.
So, these rural areas do not lack of money, nothing to do "big teenagers", many of them are because now a son, parents to spoil.
If you don't do anything about it, it's not just the parents who suffer, it's also the "big boys".
I'm Xiao Yang, an 80-year-old baby mama with ten years of practical experience in parenting willing to share with you, welcome to click on the attention.
This phenomenon is very common in our area. The question about them having money to spend without working is simple. Let me tell you about a real family!
The boy was born in 80 years, because of talking about friends, let his mother forced to get married, he did not listen directly to his girlfriend abortion to go away, and from then on blame his mother does not take care of not worry. So from then on no longer work, directly reach out to his parents for money, as long as a reluctant to jump on the straddle. His family lives on the fourth floor, the result of the fall broke a leg, now all the fault is attributed to his mother. Claims did not let him marry and have children, but also let him become half disabled. Luckily, his mother is a retired doctor and has a pension of more than 4,000 dollars a month. His father was a retired farm worker with a retirement of over three thousand dollars a month. Now his job is to surf the web from 8am to 6pm every day, and to spend a hundred dollars a day with his parents.
In our case, the only child's parents have a pension, which he takes for granted as a barrier to spending. Many parents can't do anything about it.
In that case, I'm a "big boy" too! I'm not married, and my parents are less than 50 years old! I'm not sure how much I'm going to be able to get out of this one! Typically, one person has enough to feed the whole family! I myself, in the construction site to do carpentry, no work will come back to stay a period of time. Home a no farm work, to be honest, there are also lazy to do, and now I also just came back soon, tea is also quite valuable, are too lazy to pick! In the outside suffer a lot, earn also can, come back is rest! Every day, I buy fruits and vegetables when I'm short of them! Young man, every day at home, he is clean and dressed in a fashionable way. One day, just drink tea, walk around, nothing to do with the elderly like to chat, send send cigarettes. Next door neighbors and so on, all know, very normal, to be a little far less familiar with, may also seem to feel like I am a son of the same bar