A friend I haven't seen in a long time recently asked me to get together, we ate together, shopping, 2 years we are each busy with their own things, see each other time is very little. This time we got together, the change in her made me feel unbelievable. Previously, she did not know how much savings, cosmetics basically did not use the imported brands, clothes are discounted out of season, this shopping, she is like a shopaholic, a thousand dollars of clothes she tried as long as she felt appropriate, immediately swipe the card to take a few hundred dollars of lipstick is also said to buy on the buy, I said: "you have been rich in this period of time, this is not like your style," she said "she said," she said, "I'm not a good person. "She said, "No, credit card, paycheck to pay, before really stupid, do not know how to love yourself." Most of us think that loving ourselves means buying ourselves some expensive clothes, buying a designer bag, letting ourselves eat well, or being selfish is loving ourselves? What exactly is loving yourself.
I say that the real love of oneself is actually not to forget one's own original heart, not to forget the commitment to oneself, do not lose faith in oneself.
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What kind of life do you want to live, what dreams do you have in mind, what goals do you set for yourself, will you remove all the difficulties, but also to swim against the current, to keep the original promise of the heart. But with the passage of time, money, power, became a watershed of self-love and indulgence. When you decide what kind of person you want to be, no matter how difficult it is, you have to practice it. Even if the end result is way off the mark, you are fulfilling a promise to yourself more than doing nothing.
My childhood playmate had a dream of being a singer since she was a child, and her looks were average and she didn't have much talent for singing. After the failure of the college entrance examination, the family let her repeat to continue to study, she insisted on not repeating, went to Beijing relatives while working in an art training school classes, learning voice. After graduation, she worked as a resident singer in a bar. Every day in the environment is not a good place to perform, this sing after the transfer to another, and friends live in a remote basement, in order to be able to better practice, to protect the voice, to give up their favorite spicy food. Later, she still didn't become a singer, but she was spotted by a record company and asked to be their manager. Her dream of becoming a singer accomplished her entry into show business, where she can see her favorite singers every day, and help those talented singers realize their dreams of becoming singers. In the end, she did not lose faith in herself, and is still in her favorite line of work.
How many people, in order to always be easy and happy, deviate from their original commitment, farther and farther away from the original intention, and ultimately can only live a life that they do not like, and become a person they do not like.
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Some people say that the dream goal of a lifetime is too big, and because the work has been dusted off, life has taken root, the burden and responsibility of the family does not allow you to restart the pursuit of the dream, then, what about the small goals, your small goals are reached?
A friend will say as soon as he sees me, I intend to go to India next year, the results, he said from 2012 to 2016, India or did not go into, each time there are a variety of obstacles to make him not go, what do not come down to the leave, what the company's efficiency is not good, no bonuses,------, and there are people who set themselves the goal of fitness and weight loss, be sure to thin to how many pounds, but wait to do the gym card! The moment, it seems to have felt that they have completed the commitment to their own, the rest is a long no time, lazy to go, until the day the fitness card expires, thin to how many pounds of commitment seems to be farther and farther away from their own.
The colleague's mother has been almost 60 this year, because she likes to dance, when she was young, because of family reasons did not realize their dreams, and now when the children have grown up, the old partner also passed away because of illness. But she still hasn't given up dancing now, she will participate in the senior social dance competition every year, and she also dances with the community aunts in the square dance every day. Amateur life is colorful. In fact, only do what you promised yourself, you will love yourself more.
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We can always do what we promise others, but we can't do what we promise ourselves. Promise to give yourself a good vacation, so that the body and mind well charged, but in the way of all kinds of did not realize; promised to learn oil painting, enrolled in the training course, but only once on the class; promised to a weekend cleaning, but by the friends of the accidental invitation and had to give up ------
This year after year, day after day, feel that their lives are always dominated by others, has always wanted to become the protagonist of the life, but I've been trying to be the protagonist of life, but I've become the supporting actor. Love yourself has become an empty word, lost its original color. In the long run, we feel more and more confused, the day is more and more numb.
Even if you shout to everyone, I love myself, but no excitement, no courage to move forward, no difficulties to overcome, no realization of their own promises, it is not love yourself. Love yourself is, promise yourself something, even if it is small, will keep their promises; love yourself is with excuses, laziness, stress, loneliness against, and strive to grow upward; love yourself, is to never lose faith with yourself.