January 22, 2015 10 pm, good man "Zeng Xiaoxian" Chen He released a long article "I'm wrong", the first to admit that he and his wife Xu Jing, who has been in love for 14 years, are divorced: "We signed the divorce agreement has been almost half a year! ...... 14 years of affection is not easy, very beautiful and precious and important. But in this world, a lot of things make it impossible for you to maintain."
The microblogging, once issued, immediately triggered a nuclear explosion in the entertainment circle. In just a few days, the microblogging message breaks through 3 million, people have to sigh, this pair of once everyone's envy of the couple, in the end, experienced what kind of emotional fissure? This reporter exclusively contacted the parties Xu Jing, listen to her tell the sob past ......
Time to go back to September 17, 2013
Phuket, Thailand, the beautiful sea water witnessed the vows of love. I put on a white wedding dress, watching the man I love put on the ring that signifies the three lifetimes, blurring with tears. At that moment, the sea breeze turned the pages of our acquaintance one by one, and the wind was full of the flavor of happiness.
In 2001, he was in his third year, I was in my second year, we met and fell in love. The first time I saw you, I was in the middle of the night, I was in the middle of the night, I was in the middle of the night, I was in the middle of the night, I was in the middle of the night, and I was in the middle of the night. We have argued, and make up, break up and then make up, I thought, there is the security of marriage, we must be able to hand in hand to grow old.
Since he became famous for his role as "Zeng Xiaoxian" in "Love Apartment," he has been filming, interviewing, and recording programs ...... all over the country, with almost no free time. In order to make him less run around, I often volunteered to go to see him.
One time, I accompanied him to Hunan to record a program. Just after getting off the airport, he was surrounded by fans wearing sunglasses, asking for photos and autographs. I hid helplessly until these people dispersed. Then, when we arrived at the program, a female choreographer asked me, "Are you his assistant?" I smiled and didn't say anything. He hurriedly corrected himself and said, "She's my wife!" The female choreographer gave me a look, and there was something in her eyes that I couldn't tell you. Afterward, Chen He said to me, "These people, they're boring, don't bother with them." I replied, "It's okay, it's better if she doesn't know me, lest I be as uncomfortable as you." He took my hand and lamented, "In fact, I envy you more, and miss the simple life we used to have." I was tempted to say, "If you don't like this business, quit and let's do something else. However, looking at the stage lights, I had to encourage him, "Isn't it good to be popular? Many actors envy your current success, be famous before it's too late!" He made a face at me, smiled and went on stage.
More often than not, I wait for him at home. When he came back, it was three or four in the morning, and he was so tired that he fell apart. By the time I made dinner and brought it out, he was already asleep. I helped him lie flat on the bed, and my heart ached. The first time I saw this, I was able to see the man in the room, and I was able to see the man in the room, and I was able to see the man in the room.
On one occasion, I called him and he hung up in a hurry. I was on tenterhooks for a day, and it wasn't until the evening that he called and told me he was filming a movie. He then sent me videos and photos from the set to tell me he missed me. Later, I told him, "I'll go out and get a job, so you don't have to work too hard." He immediately stopped, "I'm willing to suffer as much as I can, I don't want my wife to suffer any more, I'm willing to support you until I'm old." After hearing his words, a warm current welled up in my heart. Even though it was hard to wait for him every day, my heart was still filled with emotion and happiness.
On Valentine's Day 2014, at ten o'clock at night, the door opened and I saw a familiar face. He said, "Wife, I sneaked back, I didn't have time to bring you a gift." I said, "It's okay if you don't have a gift, you're back." He smiled badly and pulled a bracelet out of his arms like a trick, that bracelet was heart shaped onyx, like a rose in full bloom. He told me, "Love you forever, wife, no matter what comes my way, I'll be there for you on the big holidays." I nodded, his embrace still so warm.
During those two days at home, he couldn't stop talking about how hard it was to work on the shoot and asked me childishly, "I read a quote that no matter how happy a marriage is, there will be 200 times in a lifetime when you want to break up and 50 times when you want to strangle each other. Is it that exaggerated?" I deliberately teased him, "It's probably more than that." Looking at his astonished expression, I comforted him, "It's okay, impulses are impulses, and after the impulses are over, you're still an old married couple." He hugged me, bad smile and test: "If one day I did do wrong, what to do, you forgive me?" I didn't even think about it, "As long as you admit you're wrong every time, that's all that matters."
One day in April, he told me he was ready to come back after the movie. I cleaned up the house, bought flowers and candles, and made a table full of his favorite dishes. But when it got dark, I didn't see him. I was just about to call him, he called: "wife sorry, the company is going to hold a press conference, I have to rush over there, today can not return." I said it's okay, put down the phone, all the expectations all of a sudden disappeared. The next day, he sent WeChat, the scene of his press conference in Beijing. Although I knew he was busy, this huge loss made my mind reel.
After this, we met less and less. He told me that several of his films started shooting one after another, there is the movie "Rush Hour", there is a costume drama "Medical Hall Laughing", and there is also "Love is Back", "Micro Love Gradually" ...... his career to the blowout period. Our conversations are almost nothing more than his work. I was happy for him on the one hand, but worried about his health on the other. He tweeted a lot and shuttled from set to set, and once when he told me he was not in good shape, I advised him, "If you're not feeling well, take a few days off and come back to adjust." He said; "The crew doesn't care about you, how can hundreds of people stop for you!" Saying that, he apologized, "Wife, I wanted to promise to give you the life you want, but now it seems hard to achieve, how I feel sorry for you!" When he didn't finish, I comforted him, "Don't think too much, what's the point of feeling so guilty, I'll just forgive you." He put down the phone, wanting to talk.
In July 2014, he returned to Shanghai after filming Rush Hour. This time, after meeting, we surprisingly did not have the joy of reunion after a long time. A strange atmosphere spread in the air. I saw that he was preoccupied, so I said, "If you have something on your mind, say it"! He pondered for a moment and said, "Jing, if I say what's on my mind, you won't hate me for the rest of my life, right?" I grinned broadly and said, "Say it, it won't!" He bit his lip and said word for word, "We don't see each other more than a few times a year, I think this is too unfair to you, I can't give the promise I made to you in the beginning. We'd better separate ...... I'm sorry." Said, he cried, I was shocked at once, I suppressed the trembling voice, asked him, "Is it because it's too busy? Or you have someone else outside, you tell me the real situation!" He shook his head and said, "No, I just feel that I can't accompany you, we still can't see each other ten times a year, in the future if we live like this, it's too bad for you!" He held his head and sank into the sofa, his whole body like a pale paper man, as if it would be shattered at the touch of a button.
I couldn't stop my tears from falling. Although I was somewhat mentally prepared, but how could I not expect him to answer like this. Separate, separate ...... my whole heart confused, we love each other for 13 years, in the end where is the problem? I did not sleep all night, my eyes swollen like peaches. He freaked out and said to me in a pleading tone, "Jing, don't be like this, okay, or I'll quit showbiz to be with you, what do you think?" He looked so sincere, this expression couldn't deceive me, with my years of intuition, I knew he was sincere, but how could I let his starry starry night go out because of me? I nodded my head, shook it again, and cried once more.
In mid-August, he called and said to me, "Julia, Southeast TV's True Love in Lost Journey is inviting me and two other couples to participate in the recording of the program, to go to South Korea to shoot a reality TV show, so we will finally have time to spend with each other, and haven't you always wanted to go to South Korea as well? Now I can spend some quality time with you." His happiness infected me, although I do not like to go on the show, but the thought that the two of us can have a good ****ing time together, rekindle the love past, and let each other's feelings improve, I still agreed to it.
Before we left, we had dinner with the film crew. When the camera pushed me, I was full of words to say. At this point, the crew asked Chen He: "If there is a future life will you still marry Xu Jing?" He immediately replied, "Of course I would!" Then the camera panned to me, "Will you still marry Chen He in your next life?" I was still reeling from his answer, and in a panic, I stammered for a long time without making a sound. Chen He asked me, "Why are you so hesitant?" I looked at him, thinking about what he said about the separation of that thing, actually have a kind of unreal feeling, when, so familiar with the person has a strange I do not know?
In the next few days, we were finally together again. Setting up a tent and camping on the beach in Korea, he put his arm around me and we embraced each other, waiting for the sunrise to rise from the distant sea level. With the sea breeze, his arms were wide and warm, and I felt like I was back in the days when I was that big boy chasing after me. We opened up, and he confessed that he was not happy doing comedy, and that his image as a "good guy" made him tired, and that every day was like wearing a mask. I also told him that he was waiting for the time is very lonely, real communication is less and less ...... We talked, analyzed, at that moment, I really hope that time is frozen, we stay until all the distance disappears, back to the simple years.
But after the recording of this program, we went back to our respective lives. The distance, could not be removed. His phone calls became less and less frequent, and I felt bad.At the end of August 2014, he once again filed a request for divorce. At that moment, I was in tears and I knew that we had come to the end of our relationship. We had held hands through the most precious time, just more and more different paths, he went to the scenery I can not see, the distance is getting farther and farther.September 8, 2014, the Mid-Autumn Festival, a major holiday no longer have his company. I forlornly wrote in microblogging: "but wish people long, thousands of miles of **** Canyuanjuan", but no more tears.
September 11, 2014, I signed my name on the divorce agreement brought by Chen He. Afterwards, I packed my bag and embarked on a solo trip. During the journey, I passed by the magnificence of mountains and rivers, the vastness of heaven and earth, I remembered the contradictions and problems in my relationship that I had ignored, and the truth of the breakup gradually became clear. I shouted his name to the sea, and then fiercely said forget.
He once said to me: "want to be together, can not be at the cost of dragging. If I become an actor, it's destined to be a busy career of running around. If we want to be together all the time, then you have to get used to being apart, to being watchful, to being blessed." Yes, I could no longer catch up with him and could no longer accompany him on his journey. Holding on - became mutual pain and suffering. In that case, give blessings. Loved each other for 14 years, if man is a tree, his love has grown into an engraved wheel of years in my world. Love is gone, we are still the closest people in each other's lives. I also promised him not to announce the breakup of our marriage to the public, as that would be a fatal blow to his image.
In January 2015, photos of him and Zhang Zixuan on a trip were exposed, and the "marital cheating" crusade was like a floodgate opening, almost overwhelming him. He had no choice but to show the divorce agreement. Looking at the article he wrote, "I was wrong", tearful confession made my heart ache. While I don't know when this new relationship will begin or how it will continue, it is after all after our divorce. Regardless, I gave him my blessing. To take the pressure off of him, I sent out this tweet, "What can fourteen years teach you about a person? Understand that you have to hold on even when you are aggrieved, understand that you have to let go even when you endure heartache, and understand that you still can't see him helpless even when you are separated. He is just a fragile child, but my family, please do not attack him." After the microblogging, he called, a thank you, his voice once again choked, my tears also ran out, and hastily hung up the phone.
If the fate of each other can not come together, there is no need to go to the responsibility and moral kidnap each other. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.