Children are the most innocent and lovely in the world, and we can't help but tease and talk to them when we meet them. But some children's mouths will make you feel very surprised, because these children speak very harshly, hard to hear, and sometimes even mean too much. Why would a child who is supposed to be very cute say such hurtful things?
Mingming's mom and dad both work for companies, and when Mingming's mom decided to go back to work after he started elementary school, she left him with his grandparents, who live in his hometown. After sending Mingming back to his hometown, sometimes he could only see him once a month. One year passed in this way. Once when the child was on vacation, the child was taken back to his mother and father. One day, there was a guest in the house with a little girl who was about Mingming's age. Mingming's mom asked Mingming to play with her little sister for a while. Who knew that Mingming said, "She looks so ugly, I don't want to play with her." This comment made Mingming's mom and dad very embarrassed, but they didn't think much of it thinking it was a child's thoughtless remark.
Who knows, not long after that, while walking in the neighborhood, Mingming saw the neighbor's kid playing with a toy car, and even said, "Can you drive? Sooner or later to get into a car accident." When he saw the cleaning aunty coming, he said to the cleaning aunty, "You are so dirty, get away from me." These words made Mingming's mom feel scared. Mingming was still so young, why did he speak so harshly? It was not like the words of an innocent child. Mingming was not like this before, and his grandparents were not bad talkers, so why did he become like this after returning home for a while?
The child who speaks harshly and is mean to others is like a white flower stained with black spots. This kind of flower will make people feel disgusted. Then what kind of situation indicates that the child's speech has become hard to hear, and should be promptly drawn attention to it. What are the specific manifestations of speaking hard to hear?
What are the specific manifestations of a child's harsh speech?Attacking the looks of others
We say that there are no two people in the world exactly like each other, each person has their own unique characteristics and unique appearance, we appreciate the beautiful-looking people, but we can not go to attack those who look relatively ordinary people, but the child speaks harshly often on those who are ordinary-looking people to carry out verbal attacks. attacks on them.
Attacks on others
As mentioned at the beginning of this article, Mingming not only criticizes others, but he also harshly criticizes his mom and dad when they do certain things. One time Mingming's mom said that so-and-so's mom in the neighborhood was a particularly good square dancer, and she wanted to go dancing too. Mingming said, "You don't have good coordination and you want to go square dancing, you're not good at all." This comment made Mingming's mom suffer a lot.
Looking down on others
Why does the child say some rather unpleasant things to others? It is because he looks down on those people. He thinks that those ordinary labor workers and even some service workers do not deserve to be respected, so he uses some unpleasant words to evaluate their behavior, their appearance and dress.
Have any of these situations occurred in your family's children? If your child at home has any of these situations, it must be brought to the attention of the parents, which means that the child may have gone down a crooked path. Parents must find the root cause behind this and lead their children to the right path in time.
Why do innocent children speak so hurtfully? What are the reasons behind this?Child development causes (nature)
There is one situation where there is no problem, and that is the characteristics of the child's own growth and development, which means that it is the child's nature to talk badly during this period. In the child's age period of about three or four years old, this period is a sensitive period of the child's language development. The distinctive feature is that the child speaks, very forcefully to each other, very hard to hear. This is an inevitable stage of the child's language development. The child discovers inner emotions by swearing and saying difficult words.
Parents are too arrogant
There are families where the whole family is centered on the small child in the family, overly pampering the child and holding the child in high esteem. The child develops the bad habit of being arrogant, disrespectful, and overbearing. We often see news on the Internet that some rich kids speak out of turn and have no respect for others. These rich second generation is a typical manifestation of being spoiled by their parents.
Mimicry
A celebrity once said that children are the best mimicry experts. Children are born to learn everything about the outside world from imitating the behavior of their parents who imitate others. If there are people around who speak harshly and acerbically, or if the child's parents are like that, the child is likely to learn such bad habits through imitative behavior.
Lack of parenting
Some parents have poor parenting qualities or characterizations, and fail to teach their children what they need to know when educating them. The child does not know what is respect, does not know what is the right way to communicate with people, does not know what is a good talk.
The above are the various reasons about the child's difficult to speak harshly. From this we can see, in addition to the child's own growth and development of the characteristics of the child, all the other external factors, not the child's fault, so that in the child this situation, parents should take the following methods to educate the child, from the external factors to do change.
How should the child appear this situation should be how to educate the child is the most appropriate?Setting up good imitations
Krupskaya once said, "For both parents, home education is first and foremost self-education." ? This shows that in order to change the child's behavior, parents should first change their own bad habits of talking hard and not speaking properly, and set up a good imitation object for their children, who will naturally learn well.
No overreaction
The child appeared to speak hard, parents do not overreact, that the child will learn bad, harsh education or even abuse the child. In overreaction to the rush to reprimand the child, the child is likely to deliberately and parents against, originally the child does not realize that this is a problem, may not be after a period of time this way to say, but the parents of the overreaction will make the child's this kind of behavior is more and more serious.
Don't make a big deal out of it
Parents need to be able to tell why their child is acting this way, if it's an unconscious behavior or a simple imitation of a child in the first place. Parents should not take this as a very serious matter, a very big thing, a big fanfare to change the education of the child. This time you should use the silent way of education, subtle change the child this bad habit.