However, the problem is that old people tend to pay attention to the result rather than the process. Only when we are really together, we find that there are great differences in living habits, concepts and relationships with children, resulting in entanglements or contradictions, and even breaking up.
As a 65-year-old aunt Pi said in the courtyard, her partner broke up only seven months ago, because her wife was always fooling around, and this life was simply impossible.
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I am a villager in a city village. I bought five houses during the demolition. Although there is no pension, you can get enough food and clothing by collecting rent. I only have one daughter, and I want to be with her, so that I can have a care when I am old. But everyone has goals and pursuits, and after marriage, they go to the south to work hard.
This makes me a little depressed. It is often heard that whose children are worthless and stay at home to eat old things, but our daughter is good and doesn't care about the property at home at all. Only in this way, it is boring for me to live as an old lady.
People are sometimes so contradictory. When children are not self-motivated, they will be anxious to get angry. When children are far away from themselves and strive hard, they will give up and miss them. As the saying goes, if you don't raise children, you don't know your parents' grace. That's right. Only parents can appreciate the taste.
By this time, I also want to understand that everyone has their own life. As an old man, as long as you take good care of your body and manage your life, it is the greatest love for your children.
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In order not to let my daughter worry, but also to live happily, I plan to find a wife to enjoy my old age together.
With the help of enthusiastic neighbors, an old man named Yan quickly came into my life. He is a retired worker, quick thinking, cheerful personality, talkative and joking, and belongs to the kind of person who knows everyone very well.
I like Lao Yan's personality very much, and I don't think living with such a person will be boring or lacking in fun, so I didn't know him for a long time before living together.
Since we have been single for many years, at the beginning, we helped each other, which was very new. We think we have found the right person and we should rely on it for the rest of our lives. But as I got to know him more and more, many of his shortcomings appeared, and I gradually realized that I might be happy earlier.
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Lao Yan likes sports, especially watching sports TV programs. For a time, in order to watch a football match, he stayed in front of the TV every night, clapping and even shouting when he was excited.
For me with a light sleep, it is simply suffering. After repeated reminders had no effect, we had differences and quarreled from time to time.
Finally, after the game, I thought I could have a good sleep, but he changed his way and went to bed early and got up early. Every night, he goes to bed early, gets up at two or three o'clock, then eats and drinks, cooks well, and then goes to the square dance with a stereo.
After he finished, I was sleepy, but I couldn't sleep anyway. Tossing and turning over after 5 o'clock, I had to get up.
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If it is acceptable to have a bad rest at night and sleep during the day, then another move of Lao Yan is something I can't stand anyway.
He is the captain of the square dance team. Every day after the party, he would let several old ladies come home to watch videos and practice new dance moves.
One day, I strolled back and found him dancing with a woman's hand while talking and laughing, and suddenly I was unhappy. After all, two people live together. Isn't it too much for him to fool around like this regardless of my feelings?
Since you don't pay attention to it, why should I make do with it? Willy-nilly, when I came up, I scolded them for not going up or down. Then, several old ladies left in despair.
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After such a stir, Lao Yan may feel humiliated and his attitude has changed a lot. Not only did he stop doing housework, but he also quietly shared a room with me.
Water under the bridge. My stubborn temper came up, thinking that he would ignore me and I wouldn't ignore him, so I could do whatever I wanted.
In this way, stalemate for more than a month. When I went out one day, my neighbor's elder sister quietly told me that I had seen Lao Yan shopping with a woman more than once, so I had to be careful not to be foolishly calculated by others.
On hearing this, I immediately realized that Lao Yan and I were hopeless, and that's it. The next day, I broke up.
Conclusion:
From Aunt Pi's experience, we can easily see that many single elderly people have the idea of finding a wife to live with, but because of their different living habits, concepts and personalities, they can't really understand each other and tolerate each other when they really board. Once there is a contradiction, they will complain or blame each other, and finally they will break up in discord.
For the elderly who are lonely, living with their partners is indeed a good choice, but in the face of reality, we must not make hasty decisions. After all, this is not a house game. We need to understand it carefully and run it in carefully until we reach an agreement with each other and then take that step.
Everyone yearns for a happy life, but don't forget that only when others are happy can they be truly happy.
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Author: traces of love, a cheerful and playful emotional narrator, willing to accompany teachers and friends to taste life and laugh at life.