The relationship between "husband and wife" is reciprocal, there is no one noble, who is lowly, insisting on "husband and wife" to distinguish between a high and low honor and dignity of the man, has not been able to experience the happiness of marriage, but also because of their own views on marriage and lose their own! The first is that the woman's husband is not a man, but a man of the world.
Women who decide to marry a man must fully consider all aspects of the man, such as: parents, family conditions, the man's nature, views on marriage, etc., but one of the most important is that the woman as their true partner, not a subordinate product, men and women in the marriage should be in a fair position.
Now with the great progress of people's thinking, men in all aspects of society will not underestimate the woman, and the woman has erupted comparable to the man's energy, showing a woman's personal style, although the words are said, but many women will still be committed to the man under the man, allowing the man to a dominant.
This phenomenon can not be said to be wrong, after all, men give women a sense of security is the woman most want to get, women naturally want to be in the man's wings under the happiness of life, the idea is right, but this will inevitably result in the relationship between husband and wife is not equal, so that the man in the life of the woman despised.
Men give women a sense of security for granted, but women also need to have the courage to bear the storm alone, marriage is not a person's one-man show, but the husband and wife of the stage, on the stage, men and women are interpreting different roles, blossomed into a different splendor, to be called a happy and beautiful marriage.
Looking at the present time, despite the progress of thought has brought equality between men and women, but in some unknown places, there are still dregs that should not be there, these places will not be floating on the surface, only hidden in the minds of people under the surface of the elegant, in fact, the heart of the holes.
Linjun wrote this article in order to tell a point of view, that is, "do not take for granted that the person who accompanies you all your life, as a supporting role in your own life, you do not qualify, she does not have to."
Reader Qingqing said to Linjun, "The reason I turned my back on him at the wedding scene was not that I didn't love him or want to marry him, but that he didn't treat me as his wife and didn't give me the respect I need as a wife. "
Women want to be happy and peaceful in their lives, but to achieve this, you must first have a good husband who loves women, no matter how much both sides pay for the family, will not make each other in the heart of the status of the decline, as always, to keep a heart of the beginning, to keep the heart to love her and respect her.
Qingqing and her husband Zhang Hu does not belong to the flash marriage, on the contrary, the two of them have been in love for up to three years, and then the Qingqing view, her husband's everything she knows the root of the bottom, in addition to some macho, do not smoke and do not drink Zhang Hu looks so perfect, and, now many men are a little macho, Zhang Hu is not an exception.
Zhang Hu did his duty as a boyfriend, taking care of Qingqing like a carefree student in the campus, innocent, without worrying about anything, Qingqing also fantasized that her whole life would be spent happily like this, and it was a bit unbelievable at first to her fantasies, but whenever Qingqing saw Zhang Hu's peaceful and stable national face, she would dispel the last trace of concern in her heart.
Qingqing firmly believe that Zhang Hu can do it, although Zhang Hu to Qingqing doting, but Qingqing did not waste their talent, the student age was named "the best dance star on campus," she also went to the training course to consolidate their own foundations, Zhang Hu was dissatisfied with this, but Qingqing every time, he would say: "I earn my own money. But she would always say, "I'll earn some money myself, so I can offset the pressure on you."
But every time Zhang Hu will be angry by Qingqing's behavior, in Zhang Hu's view, Qingqing's behavior is undoubtedly in his face, after all, has always been a macho Zhang Hu, can not tolerate his own mother-in-law to go outside to earn money, although it has not been paid the actual action, but this just shows that Qingqing to his distrust.
Qingqing had nothing to say about this, so she had to go along with his wishes, "Then you have to work hard, after marriage I will be a housewife, and the expenses of the family will be handed over to you." When Zhang Hu heard Qingqing say this, he laughed and said, "If you follow me, you will never suffer."
Zhang Hu body has a jianghu gas, in the present, this kind of temperament is extremely rare, whenever talking, no matter how far away, as if in front of your ears shouting, Zhang Hu y proud, he has made friends with those who are often infected by Zhang Hu's bravado, and aspire to become Zhang Hu like the top of the sky and the earth, a good man.
Zhang Hu on their own friends have nothing to say, that is really righteousness, often out to help, although in the eyes of outsiders this is a good man's performance, but in the eyes of Qing Qing, this kind of friends more friends no good, when the Zhang Hu difficult to stand up to the people do not know if there is, but this can not be said to the Zhang Hu said that, one said that the guarantee anxious.
Qingqing said, Zhang Hu seems to have a strong desire to control, which is also the answer to Qingqing often contact with Zhang Hu, not only every day, consciously or unconsciously glanced at Qingqing in the chat with who, and even Qingqing occasionally and strange men say a word will usher in Zhang Hu's wrath, when the Qingqing about the three or two friends to have fun, Zhang Hu will be every half an hour to call once.
In the eyes of Qing's girlfriends, this is a testament to Zhang Hu's favoritism towards Qing, but in Qing's opinion, this is just Zhang Hu's full implementation of his desire to control the situation, and he can't allow Qing to have a few moments of free time, and Qing can't afford to fight with Zhang Hu because of this, and she believes that this is Zhang Hu's love for her.
The two men set up a marriage early, waiting for the wedding day, waiting for the wedding day in Qing Qing seems to be no different from the usual, after all, has long been living with Zhang Hu, Qing Qing believes that the wedding is just so that the two people have the qualifications of the open and honest together, only.
Qingqing would not have thought that in the wedding scene, she can make "regret" move, Linjun has also asked Qingqing regret, Qingqing said a "no regret", indeed, no regret, a disrespect for women's husbands not to be married, Qingqing is still young. The company's website has been updated with the latest information about the company's website, including a list of its products and services, as well as a list of its products and services.
Three rounds of wine, in the wedding site, Qingqing accompanied her husband table after table of toasts, has never been drinking Zhang Hu in and loved ones when the toast naturally did not break the fast, but gently pursed lips, but wait until the toast with Zhang Hu's friends, but Zhang Hu is boldly all of the wine poured into the throat.
One cup after another, cup to the bottom, Qingqing wanted to dissuade her husband's action, but was Zhang Hu brashly pushed away, see already drunk Zhang Hu also want to continue to drink, Qingqing hurried to her husband said: "Husband, there will be things, don't drink it, okay, don't delay the matter."
Zhang Hu sniffed: "What can be bigger than me and my good brother drinking together? Leave me alone." Zhang Hu, who was in the middle of his excitement, pointed at Qingqing and said to his friends, "My wife is a very good dancer, and she dances a few sections in her spare time, so this time, counting on the luck of those of you who have not opened your eyes, I'll let my wife dance a few sections for all of you." Zhang Hu's words were then loudly applauded by his friends.
Qingqing couldn't help but be stunned when she heard Zhang Hu say this, and hurriedly asked, "What did you say? Let me dance?" Qingqing looked at her wedding dress, and then looked at the curious gazes cast by the guests, but could not help but gloomy face to Zhang Hu said: "Are you crazy? Don't jump, if you want to jump you jump yourself."
For Qingqing, this was no longer a threat, but a humiliation for her, Qingqing recalled, "Even if I danced well, his group of friends were not qualified to see me dance, what's more, he didn't even consider me at that time, both the timing and the occasion were not suitable for the dance, I didn't think much about it at that time, I only knew that I had been subjected to the biggest life-long humiliation."
Zhang Hu's face darkened, suppressed his voice and said, "Do not give me face is not it, if you do not dance, do not marry, immediately get out." Zhang Hu originally thought his threat can suppress Qingqing, unexpectedly Qingqing did not reply, self-conscious walk up to the host stage, holding the microphone to the whole audience, said: "First to say sorry to everyone, because a little unexpected accident, today's wedding banquet is canceled." After saying this, ignoring the jaw-dropping guests, he walked out of the wedding site with a black face.
The parents of Qingqing, who were in a great hurry, directly followed their daughter out and asked what happened. Qingqing pursed her lips and cried, and said in a broken voice, "I won't get married, it's too much, he doesn't respect me at all, dad, mom, don't try to persuade me, I've made up my mind, I'd rather be scolded for repenting of the marriage, I'm also not willing to let him trample on me."
After hearing what happened, Qingqing's parents couldn't help but feel sorry for their daughter, but they completely respect her opinion, "If you don't want to marry, don't marry, I'll talk to your mom about it on the in-laws' side, don't worry about it, the worst thing is to compensate them for their family's money... A bunch of bad hearted people have wronged my good girl." Qingqing's father said while spitting towards the in-laws who hurriedly ran over.
From this, Qingqing originally thought that the marriage would be very happy to do this to break up, Zhang Hu in the sobriety and anger to find Qingqing, let Qingqing to the guests to apologize, to marry again, but not waiting for Qingqing refused, Qingqing father took the broom to Zhang Hu beat out of the door, Zhang Hu is still reluctant to, in the door of the Qingqing home jumping to the Qingqing to give a good look.
Qingqing didn't care, she had been raised by Zhang Hu before, she was finally going to start her own new life, but fortunately, her own profession has not been lost, and she can find a job to support her family, Qingqing heart can't help but be happy, happy that she didn't lose her hard-earned dance skills, and gave herself a chance to start over again.
Qingqing had also asked Linjun, "What is true happiness." No one can give an accurate definition of true happiness, there are thousands of people, each with their own happiness, when you can feel happy in the moment, then you have achieved the greatest happiness.
How can a marriage be happy? In Linjun's view, life can be fed and clothed, do what you can, husband and wife harmony, respect each other, is the greatest happiness, it is easy to say, but it is difficult to do, Linjun here in the hope that everyone will be able to find a unique belong to their own happiness.