The concept of modern people may be so different from that of the elderly that various contradictions may arise when living together. Some young people don't want to live with the elderly after marriage, but the elderly always want to live with their children in order to take care of their grandchildren or eliminate loneliness, which will lead to contradictions and even quarrels. In fact, I don't want to live with the elderly after marriage, not because my children are unfilial, but mainly because of the following two points.
1. Reduce the burden of housework for the elderly and give them more free time.
In the eyes of many young people, living apart from their parents after marriage is mainly because they don't want to continue to trouble their parents. Because if parents live with themselves, they need to be busy with all kinds of housework every day, such as washing clothes, cooking, taking care of the baby and buying food. Once they work overtime at night, their parents will have to worry constantly.
However, if you live apart from your parents, they just need to take care of themselves. They don't have to do so much housework every day, nor do they have to buy food and cook in advance. If you are free, you can also go to a square dance and go shopping with your partner. It is also very free.
2. Avoid the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and make the family more harmonious.
The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been an unavoidable topic. Even since ancient times, there has been a saying that at least 9 pairs of 10 have various contradictions. It seems that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies. Even after marriage, there will still be various barriers in my heart. Especially after having a baby, there may be many contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law because of taking care of the baby, which directly threatens the relationship between husband and wife and leads to divorce.
But as we all know, distance can produce beauty. Keeping a certain distance from your mother-in-law can bring you closer, and both sides don't have to deliberately change their personal habits to cater to each other. In this way, many possible conflicts can be avoided invisibly, and the daughter-in-law and her mother-in-law will be more harmonious together and will not be noisy every day.
So many old people are more open-minded now. If they can take care of themselves, they don't need to live with themselves because they feel more convenient.