As the saying goes, "If you don't stop, you will get old."
What a person fears most is not being busy, but being idle all the time.
Many retired people have a thorough understanding of life, so their daily schedules are full, which is busier than when they are at work.
In ancient times, Tao Yuanming left the workplace, farming, reading, writing articles, educating children and girls, and drinking with villagers, which was very lively.
Now you don't have to worry about your livelihood, you can play cards, watch the scenery, dance square dance, watch fireworks and do public welfare activities. As long as you are willing to shine, you are a strong young man at any age.
There is a way of life called "mind your own business and cultivate your spirit". If a person is involved in right and wrong, good intentions will be bad. Enthusiasm is measured, not excessive.
Generally speaking, the following "five things to mind your own business" should be ignored to avoid asking for trouble.
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First, no matter what happens in the unit, a good horse never returns to grass.
My old colleague Lao Li was in charge of technology development in the unit before retirement. Because of his excellent skills and good personality, he is deeply loved by his boss; He also brought several apprentices, and they all appreciated him.
After Lao Li retired, he volunteered to continue working, and he didn't want salary, just a little subsidy. At first, everyone respected him, but after a few months, several apprentices began to dislike him, thinking that his existence hindered everyone's promotion and salary increase.
Lao Li fell out with his colleagues and had to leave the unit. But the good impression left in the workplace was swept away.
When you retire, you won't have to worry about the shit in your old unit. A unit, without one person, will run around the circle. I believe that young people do better than you, and the boss who takes over will be more wise.
It's understandable to go back to the original unit for a cup of tea, but it's unnecessary to deal with some troublesome things or do some unnecessary work.
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Second, ignore other people's family affairs and be an outsider.
During the Three Kingdoms period, Kong Rong worked as a policeman under Cao Cao and was highly valued. But he has one shortcoming-he is outspoken.
At one time, both Cao Cao and Cao Pi liked Zhen Fu very much.
Kong Rong said, "The King of Wu conquered Zhou and gave da ji to the Duke of Zhou."
On one occasion, Cao Cao and his ministers discussed world affairs. Kong Rong said, "If there is a world, why use a golden knife?" "Golden Maodao" is the word "Liu", representing Liu Bei.
It is recorded in Zi Tong Zhi Jian that the theory of holding doubts and melting is gradually expanding, and fear is beneficial.
Kong Rong became the villain, because he had to intervene in everything.
As the saying goes, it is difficult for an honest official to break housework. Everyone should distinguish his home from others'; Distinguish the levels between people.
When you interfere in other people's family affairs, you put yourself in other people's shoes, which is obviously inappropriate.
Whether it is the affection between husband and wife, or the affection between parents and children, just like shoes, only you know whether they are suitable or not.
Some old people have a clear idea about the people around them, their children going to college, their daughters getting married and so on. If you talk too much, there will naturally be some uncomfortable and offensive words.
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Third, regardless of the nagging of relatives, treat people with courtesy.
If you have nothing to do, just go to relatives' houses and have fun at the wedding. Most retired people feel this way.
It is an indispensable link for relatives to get together and have a drink and chat. No matter what you say, you will inevitably get involved in right and wrong.
For example, a relative's daughter is in her thirties and still unmarried. You don't think this is normal, so you have to find out the situation. Inadvertently, you will find that the daughter of a relative is very painful because she was cheated by her boyfriend.
Some things, not knowing is better than knowing; Know, don't say, it is better to say it.
Kiss or not, a family can't turn against each other because of nagging. As a retired old man, you should be more qualified and don't care about ordinary relatives.
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Fourth, regardless of educating grandchildren, face up to the "generation gap".
Lao Zhang, the next-door neighbor, often quarrels with his daughter.
My daughter wants to send her children to a remedial class, but Lao Zhang insists on teaching by herself. Lao Zhang said, "Daughter, I educated you like this at the beginning, and now I educate my grandson like this."
Lao Zhang was born in the countryside. When his children went to school, there were no remedial classes all over the world. Now that the conditions are different, how can we look at it from an old perspective?
As the saying goes, "there is a generation gap at the age of three."
Three generations, I don't know how many generations. It is very popular to take care of your grandson's life at ordinary times. For education, it is better to obey the arrangement of children.
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Fifth, no matter what troubles there are in the network, it is difficult to distinguish between true and false.
Turn on the TV and see Zhuge Liang helping Liu Bei conquer the country. When he succeeds, he applauds; when he fails, he is accompanied by tears. Such people are opera fans.
However, don't get too involved.
In the internet age, no one can guarantee that the reprinted news is true. Many things belong to "posing"; A lot of information is fabricated. If you don't know the difference, you may be fooled or spread negative energy.
Retirement also means that you are getting older, your thoughts are gradually falling behind, and your awareness of society is weakening.
Be a man, don't believe in rumors, don't spread rumors. No matter what troubles are in the network, the mood will get better. After all, your happiness is not in the online sea, but in the life circle.
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After retirement, go back to your family and plant your own acre of land.
It is ideal to retire without giving up; Retirement is a reality.
Be a man with enthusiasm, but give it to the right person and put it in the right place. I suggest you pay more attention to your family and greet your wife. Go out and participate in public welfare activities; Talk more, surf the Internet more, and deliver more positive energy.
In the future, be a person with a sense of boundary. No matter who you associate with, keep your distance.
From a distance, it is not indifference, but respect.
Author: coarse grains in cloth.
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