In the second child just liberalized when my husband and I are 42 years old, there has always been a desire to want a daughter, I am ready to fight the second child.
But the thing is to wish for two years have not been pregnant, in the time we do not hope to be pregnant, then also hesitated at this age should not want this child, the husband did not want to feel the pressure, worried about what to do if it is a boy again? I was adamant that I wanted to have a boy and a girl! The child came to be destiny, and then my first few years of work environment is not suitable for pregnancy, this year just changed the job, physical conditions allow, son has been admitted to college, if it is the senior year of pregnancy really dare not want to think that the child came at the right time.
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The family unanimously requested a cesarean section in the second trimester, and the doctor suggested a normal delivery. After listening to the advice of three expert doctors, they all agreed that I was physically fit and suitable for a normal delivery, and I wanted to try it myself.
The first time I saw a woman, I was in the middle of the night, and she was in the middle of the night, and she was in the middle of the night.
The condition allows you to want nothing wrong, pay attention to more pregnancy tests, let nature take its course
I was 42 years old, but the second child, but not on purpose, was accidentally pregnant at that time did not want, and found that the doctor went to the hospital and said: the child is too big, scraping the danger of you wait until five or six months to come back to do induced abortion it. The result is less than six months I went, the doctor with his hand on the stomach, touching the child's head, said: the child's head is so big, do it for nothing, keep it. I was still insisting not to, the result and I went to the students also advised me to stay, so confused to stay, and now are 14 years old, learning is particularly good, and now think of their own sometimes also secretly happy, thinking thanks to stay, a wobbly so big, the eldest daughter of the couple graduated from the university into the army a little bit do not have to worry about me, I will focus on cultivating the second baby every day is very fulfilling, and did not feel tired, the second baby is very cheerful and often teased! We are happy, if there is no second baby I may also go to the square dance with the mothers, but I think it would be better if I cultivate a college student, dancing can not always dance, and so the old have a disease have Zhai more loved ones in front of the bed, so do not want to see their own ideas of the second child, and think that the happiness on the line.
My little sister forty-six, and gave birth to a son, her eldest son has been employed, she wanted a daughter, and gave birth to a son, the sky does not follow the wishes of others.
To be honest, I'm 82 years old, soon 39 years old, once pregnant with a baby, due to their own mother strongly persuaded to give up the final and the second baby has no chance. During this period countless times and their own psychological struggle, considered the second child, but has not dared to take this step, why? Want to give birth to thousands of reasons, do not want to give birth to thousands of reasons, I guess we are similar, especially understand your feelings, however, since the pregnancy, take it seriously, calm down, let nature take its course, no matter how good or bad, into or out of the world, as the saying goes, the Taoist law of nature, and follow the will of God on the good.
In fact, I want the big baby is in 30 weeks old, would not have been small, and is a cesarean section, in the daughter less than 2 weeks old, I am pregnant again. My mother persuaded me to firmly do not let me, the reasons are as follows:
First, my husband does not make much money, my mother-in-law does not give to take care of the child, and does not help a little help, although my husband is an only child. During pregnancy, my husband is still working in the field, until three months pregnant when my husband jumped ship to his hometown, but the job is not satisfied with the resignation, more than three months did not find a job, my mother-in-law has never been a son of the heart, disgusted that I did not work, to my pregnancy seven months when my husband is officially working, we did not have their own house, began to live in my mother-in-law's house, but my mother-in-law, while my husband is not at home, always ask me for living expenses, said Rent house still have to have rent it, people who who daughter-in-law to the family a month to pay 2,000 living expenses, when my husband's salary a month is only more than 2,000 [face], and her husband came back and she did not admit that she said this, at that time the mother-in-law never cared about how many months I was pregnant, the outsiders asked her, obviously I am more than seven months, she said that not long after the pregnancy [face], and she is not very good at cooking, most of the time it is me! I'm the one who does most of the cooking. The first time she cooked, fried oatmeal, I do not know why, during pregnancy can not eat oatmeal, eat it on the vomit, the result she said that I am petulant. It was not a pleasant stay. So we moved to my mom's place and stayed there until I was about to give birth. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on this, but I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good deal on this.
In the month, my mom served me at my mother-in-law's house, when I basically went to the bathroom, not out of my house, everything is my mom, my mom said that it has been difficult to see my mother-in-law's body, during the day, I want to let my mother-in-law to help buy a thing, they can not contact her, and I do not know what she is busy with, my mom cooked, the night my mother-in-law they came back to eat, and made my mom very depressed, so the month is done, 26 days, my mom said I don't know what she's doing, but I'm not sure if she's going to be able to do anything about it," she said. So my husband and I took the child back to my mother's home. This is to live is half a year, mom's family is the village, it is inevitable gossip, live in the mother's home for a short period of time no one said, a long time a lot of people will discuss. In the countryside, grandma to help look after the child is a very shameful thing, my family are two sisters, outsiders say, you this long-term in this, after your parents old, you have to be responsible for, your sister can not care, honestly, their parents of course, they will be filial piety, but they say this is really uncomfortable. Mom can't stand the people's comments, and she has lost her temper with me many times. I also want to go to the outside to rent a house, but I can't help that my husband earns too little, I can't go out to earn money, and my mother-in-law's house was under repair, there was no heating, so we stayed until the child was six months old, and the weather was warm, and only then went back. However, the mother-in-law does not care about is actually quite good, the child was also older, I was alone with the child, cooking, laundry, care for the child, the child is older, I will arrange to go out every day to play for a while, I remember that at that time, I have to go to the grocery store, shopping, and sometimes push the cart, take the child to the supermarket, the child will initially sit on the trolley, when I come back, I carry a bunch of things, the child does not sit on the trolley, I still have to push the trolley, carrying the child walk back, sometimes the child falls asleep, and then I have to push the trolley, holding the child to walk back, and sometimes the child falls asleep. The child walked back, sometimes the child fell asleep, I held the child, carrying a pile of things to walk back to the third floor, go back to the body, then the arm, the waist are particularly painful, in the washbasin wash a face will not be able to straighten up. But I was so tired, but so full of life. When I brought up my own child, no one interfered with me, and I felt lighter in my heart. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get it back.
Later on, I got pregnant, also in this case, at that time, especially entangled, do not want to give up this little life, at that time, but also considering that one is a cesarean section to three years later to have a child, the second body is not good, the third is the conditions do not allow. However, I can't give up this little life, and my husband also wants it, and at that time, I thought that my mother-in-law's opinion could be ignored, because she didn't care. When I was in a tangle, my mother was particularly determined not to let me, she said that you want this one child half of the life is gone, but also a second, you are looking for their own suffering, and said that if I want to, she will not help me a little help. When I finally gave in and asked my husband about it, he said he respected my decision because he realized at the time that he really couldn't afford to let me keep the baby. So determined to go to the hospital, or to find for me to do a cesarean section of the aunt, in the operating table, she has been persuaded me to keep the child, saying that the medical advances, I can now give birth to what, I am afraid that I will continue to soften her, so let the aunt do not say, and ultimately, the child was killed by me in this way. And my mother-in-law later also complained that I did not discuss with her to do away with the child. In fact, until now, sometimes I still feel especially guilty when I think about it, I made the decision not to have him. Now living conditions are better, we also have their own houses, cars, to the child's education also have the ability to pay more, but also miss the best age of birth, of course, on the other hand, is also worried about if you want two children, then the quality of life of the big baby quality of education will be greatly reduced, and their health is not good, age does not allow, so the initiative to go if not the courage of this.
So the child came naturally, just accept it naturally mentality, specific and he has no destiny, that is the creation, we frankly accept on good. If we give birth to him, then we have to be responsible for him and do our best to raise him with all our heart.
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First of all, let's talk about my mom, she was 36 that year pregnant with my brother, now my brother just graduated from graduate school, he she is 62 years old.
When her peers have become grandmothers or grandmothers, every day to discuss what to buy food, where to travel, what time to walk, she is worried, how my brother does not have a girlfriend? Where does my brother work and where did he buy his house? I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to get my hands on a new one, but I'm sure I'm going to be able to get my hands on a new one, and I'm sure I'm going to be able to get my hands on a new one. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that, but I'm sure I'll be able to do it.
My mother and my father belong to the halfway couple, the birth of a child is also a matter of course, after all, two people *** with the conception of a child, the feelings will be deeper, and now this problem fell on me, I am in the age of about the same as my mother, but only a daughter, in the end, in the end to give birth to a second child? My husband and I are torn every day.
So I especially understand the feelings of this mother, but the good thing is that she is already pregnant, for her, this is not a problem, and do not have to be scared every day, now the most important thing is to relax, so that you can get through the pregnancy, you have to believe that the boat to the natural straight, the future of the problem can be solved, rather than now so worried, it is better to plan for a better life in the future.
People still live in the present, always think of the past will be chagrin and resentment, always think of the future will be anxious and fear, so take a step to look at a step is the real life, do a good job of every step, to meet the arrival of the new life is the most important thing.
I am also the age of four, this year 37, forward but to spell three children, but also careful and scared, all kinds of fear, just because the first two babies are daughters, just in order to round out his family's whole family of an unwillingness.
We have to say that age has a great impact on fertility.
30 years pregnant with the big baby, very smooth, no violent vomiting, nothing special hard, until the birth of all can eat and drink.
33 years old, pregnant with a second child, is to eat a small half a year to adjust the menstrual period of the Chinese medicine after the accident, than a child that time, but much more difficult, four months began to severe anemia, a few times to go to the supermarket almost fainted, just can not go to the flow of people in such a confined space, you feel the roof pressure of the blockage of the heart, fuzzy eyes, the head of the sky, chest tightness and breathlessness, and then after the month after the tiredness, I can not do, stand for a short time, and I can not do. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money.
In fact, pregnant with the second baby four or five months know is a girl, his family as well as his relatives have persuaded me to do it, but pregnant with the baby moms are able to understand that the feeling of mother and child, right! From the child in the body of the roots of the beginning of their own is a sense, until the third month of fetal movement, can actually feel that he is a living being, at this time if someone because of the gender of the reason for their own end of his life, their feelings are panic and hatred, panic is afraid that they can not protect his life, so the more panic the more hatred. So I spent the second half of my pregnancy with my second baby in extreme depression. Fortunately, I got through it, and fortunately, my second child is now healthy and growing up, and everyone loves her.
So, for sure, there are a lot of difficulties and risks associated with advanced maternal age, more pain, more complications, and more risks during and after pregnancy. But it depends on their own ideas and decisions, first do a comprehensive medical examination, in the case of physical health can be, in the understanding of the various risks, if you still want to fight the birth, then fight it, after all, life is only once, the survivable egg cells are also limited. The first thing that you need to do is to get a good deal of money to pay for the services you need.
A good scar forgets the pain! The big one is not easy to bring up, just two days of leisure days, idle chanting, people are idle, is to eat, drink and play sex, this is not just have it! [face] Congratulations, from the beginning!
I'm 35 years old this year, the old man is more than a year old, my husband is two years older than me, it can be said that we are also running four of the second child.
Pregnancy of the second was an accident, I discussed with my husband that having the oldest was enough, and we also did the only child certificate. But even the medication didn't stop the second one from coming, and I thought it was a gift from God and a little life, so I gave birth to it.
My husband and I do not want to have a second child mainly for several reasons.
The first reason is that I suffered enough when I was pregnant with my oldest.
First of all, in the second month of pregnancy, I was hospitalized because of the centralized placenta praevia hemorrhage, and I stayed in the hospital for a few months to keep the baby. After being discharged from the hospital, I was hospitalized again for bleeding in the seventh month of pregnancy, and then I started eating, drinking and sleeping in bed until the baby was born. The doctor said I had to stay in bed until the birth, and was not allowed to get out of bed anymore, otherwise I would go into preterm labor, and more seriously, I was afraid of triggering a hemorrhage, and if I couldn't stop the bleeding, I would also have my uterus removed. So I was like a patient who couldn't take care of himself in those months, lying on the bed every day in fear and trembling.
Then, when I was pregnant with my first child, I had gestational diabetes, and I couldn't eat fruit, soy milk, or milk, so I had to eat buckwheat buns every day, and if I wanted to eat fruit, I could only eat half a cucumber.
Finally, I gave birth to my oldest by cesarean section, and I've been recovering poorly since then, with a distended bladder and prolapsed uterus.
The second reason is that my husband and I are separated and have no one to take care of the kids.
I was married far away in Sichuan, my parents are in Hunan, they are not adapted to the climate and eating habits of Sichuan, they are not willing to come to Sichuan to help me bring up my children. My father-in-law passed away and my mother-in-law, who is in her 60s, is too sick to help me with my children. My husband is working abroad and I can't count on him, and I have to work and can't take care of my two children, so if I hire a nanny, I can't afford the high cost, and I don't trust him. The most important thing to remember is that you can't be sure that you're going to be able to get the best out of your life.
The third reason is that it takes too much energy and money to raise a child these days.
Our public kindergarten here is far away and the number of places is too small, so my oldest was not admitted to the public kindergarten and had to go to a private kindergarten. There are only two private kindergartens in our neighborhood, and the cheapest tuition and living expenses are about 9,000 a semester, which is almost 20,000 a year, as well as the child usually learns to dance, painting and other interest classes, and spends a lot of money on her a few million a year, and the child learns to interest classes also need to be accompanied by parents to pick up and drop off, but also need to be too much to pay for the parents' time and energy.
Because of these three reasons, my husband and I discussed not having a second child, and the only child certificate was issued, but the "happiness" came and could not be stopped, and now the second child is already more than a year old.
I was pregnant with the oldest when pregnant with diabetes, central placenta, plus my husband's a blood type O blood, the chances of hemolysis of the second child is also high, and every day is also scared, careful, afraid of hemorrhage, premature birth.
Fortunately, when I was pregnant with my second child, it was relatively smooth, no diabetes, no hemorrhage, and all the test results were normal, and my second child was with my blood type, and there was no hemolysis.
It's just that because of my advanced age and the fact that both of my babies were born by cesarean section, I did have a very slow recovery, and I was very tired of taking care of both of my babies.
But seeing the smiles on the faces of my two children, and seeing them love each other, as long as they are healthy and growing up, it's worth it to pay even more.