There are some old people who do still retain a customary family concept, that is, the man in charge. In fact, this is completely understandable, once upon a time, the patriarchal society, men go out to make money to support the family, women as "inner son", is not out of the door, not to step, concentrate on the men at home to take care of the family, give birth to children, housework, filial piety in-laws and so on.
In fact, women do not do things less than men, but the matter of making money, as well as outside the work of the head, are men doing, and the right to be first-class, the size of the family affairs, all through the men, it is a veritable home. Why is it that once upon a time women seldom called their husbands, but called "the householder", which also confirms the family status of men in the past, on the other hand, also shows the woman's dependence on the man's like the sky.
But nowadays, to be honest, women have long been integrated into society, into the workplace, men can do, women can do the same, and women are more delicate, some positions to do more than men have more prospects for development. I don't mean to elevate women and devalue men. Equality between men and women should be reflected in all aspects, even if they have their own strengths, but the energy contained in both sides is actually equal.
Of course, if someone wants to say that women are not as physically fit as men, and that they are small and thin and can't take the pain, then I can't help it. After all, if a woman has to go to a construction site and carry bricks and cement, it's really not something that all women are capable of doing.
But that doesn't mean that women don't have the fortitude to stick with it, and find their own areas of fitness, women can also do a great job of showing off their abilities in a different way, to promote the new era of women's characteristics, and their creativity as well as the degree of contribution to the family, will not be lower than that of men. Only some old people, their old calendar is still always turn over, always feel that the man is the right way, women in the cattle, should not be over the wind over the man, but also impossible to cover over the man.
There is a saying that the most despised woman is a woman, this is true, they first look down on themselves, and then look down on the whole female group, that women even if they are working, there is no great ability, that should listen to the man's words, and honestly do a small woman, put the attitude to the lowest, and do their best to serve the man, is a woman's life on the family's biggest contribution.
These days are different from the past, and then look down on women, but also to open their eyes to see the strength of women, it is time for them to open their eyes and shut their mouths.
Some six months ago, Xiaoxia's mother-in-law came to Xiaoxia's house from her hometown, saying that her son had made a fortune in the big city, and that she had come here specifically to enjoy her life. In fact, said so, but the dashing mother-in-law is a shrewd and capable old lady, is heard that the dashing is not very good at housework, specially invited a cleaning regularly to clean and so on, the old lady is not happy to hear.
On the one hand, she feels wasteful, on the other hand, she is dissatisfied with Xiao Xiao's practice of being a daughter-in-law, and she is not doing anything to help her, so she has come here to "fix" Xiao Xiao. Half a year ago, the old lady was head high, full of energy to come, but who would have thought, half a year later, the old lady and dusty face back, about Xiaoxia, she did not care about anything, even if the son asked her to go back, she refused to go back, said at home in the rice paddies and feed the chickens is quite good, do not disturb the young people life.
What is it that Xiaoxia has done to make her mother-in-law jealous to such an extent? In fact, Xiaoxia did not do anything, she is a new daughter-in-law, will not do those women in the backyard of the calculation, have to say, can only say is the mother-in-law "know what's going on", recognize the form of this know difficult to retreat.
First of all, let's talk about Xiaoxia, Xiaoxia, I actually know, she used to be one of my former colleagues from a small city, married before a good job, her writing is good, in a network of companies to do editing, the salary is also quite high, seven or eight thousand or so. The first time I saw her was when she was a student at the University of California, Berkeley, and she was a student at the University of California, Berkeley, and she was a student at the University of California, Berkeley.
After she got married, Xiaoxia quit her job, because she didn't like the company's atmosphere, and she wanted to take the opportunity to rest for a while. But she wasn't ready to be a housewife, relying on her husband to support her. After all, two people in a big city, the house has not been bought, relying on her husband's salary alone, is not enough.
Home for a few months, Xiaoxia did not idle, she used the former in the company to learn the principles of big data projection, began to analyze the novel industry audience preferences, she herself has writing skills, thinking of doing the old job, but to change the way, ready to start writing novels, to be a full-time writer.
She is also really spelled out, a year out of two novels, to the third when she began a small fame, although not particularly famous, but the paychecks than a year ago has doubled several times, compared to the past wages at work, that is not even dare to think about the leap.
Thirty thousand, fifty thousand a month, ranging from the lowest is not less than 20,000 yuan, she later came to the forefront, far beyond the level of her husband, but Xiaoxia's husband is open-minded, someone to share the pressure of life for him, why would he not be happy about it?
But the increase in salary level also means that Xiaoxia's free time is compressed shorter, although every day in the home office, but Xiaoxia every day to be busy until very late, ten hours in a row. Therefore, she can not do any housework, once rented a room is to muddle through, and then after the couple bought a house, she will formally invited the cleaning, and even the usual meal, the couple are each point each takeout, rarely open stove.
That is, after moving into the wedding room, the old lady in her hometown has always wanted to find a time to come over to see, originally this thing is not urgent, but there is a time when Xiaoxia's husband called, accidentally exposed the two usual mode of life, the old lady did not say on the mouth, but the heart secretly began to be upset, not a few days, so that the son to buy a ticket to take her to the home.
Once the old lady came, she made a thunderous decision to let Xiaoxia resign from the cleaning service, and took over the household chores, and made delicious meals for every meal, in fact, Xiaoxia was quite grateful to her mother-in-law, and she came to make the house more like a home.
Xiaoxia is always lying in bed, sometimes a day will not get out of bed, in addition to eating to go to the bathroom, a long time, the mother-in-law to look at the unhappy, have to Xiaoxia out of the grocery shopping with her to walk around or simply let Xiaoxia not to the computer again.
"You are more than an adult, the man went out to work, you are in bed every day, not moving to play the computer, others see what look? You either seriously find a class to go to, or learn to cook with me to do the dishes and wash clothes and cook, I can not be here for life, I left you guys do not continue to order takeout to eat, looking for cleaning to do housework?"
Xiaoxia also explained to her mother-in-law, she has a job on the Internet, specifically what, is to write to earn fees, in fact, earn quite a lot, that she is not playing, really in a serious job, and very busy very busy, so every day only to the computer a moment. But the mother-in-law could not understand, but also pretended to understand the appearance of disdain, just think Xiaoxia is fooling her.
The old generation's thinking, work is work, every day early morning and late at night, sitting in the office can be called a job, can be considered a decent job, even if she does not understand what his son does, but know what his son is a supervisor, that is certainly a special cow's work, but also get more than 10,000 a month, in her experience, that can be said to be unbeatable.
And Xiao Xiao, all day long can not say how much money can earn, anyway, is lying at home, nothing to do, she felt that Xiao Xiao is lazy, is spending his son's money, living in his son's room, the heart of all kinds of pain, they began to find things to the Xiao Xiao.
Dasha and his mother-in-law once said, these two years do not consider having a child, or to earn more money for the child's milk, so that even if he stopped working for a year, but also not to have no rice under the pot. But the mother-in-law did not agree, she did not hear as if, or always urge Xiaoxia to have a child.
In addition to this, she has been assigning things to Xiaoxia to do, asking Xiaoxia to learn how to cook, cleaning, all the things in the house gradually all over the Xiaoxia, staring at the Xiaoxia to finish. Xiao Xiao was helpless, but after all, the other party is her mother-in-law, even if she is busy again, she still find a slot to fulfill her mother-in-law's requirements.
But the difficulty of the mother-in-law's later request has been upgraded, to Xiaoxia learn to wait for her husband, can not let her husband to take snacks and small fruits and the end of the foot washing water, said it is unruly, so that Xiaoxia to learn to be obedient, all to her husband's preferences, her husband as her own day of general respect, to put it bluntly, it is Xiaoxia and the maid as obedient as the old man, waiting for her husband, outside the band with the mother-in-law, which is the Xiaoxia! But she couldn't bear it anymore.
"Granny, I am a person, I also have dignity, want me to serve him with the same grandchildren, I myself or from childhood by the parents in the heart of the growing up it, why? I won't do it."
Mother-in-law answered very sharp, but also very unforgiving: "You eat my son's, live with my son's, who earns money at home who is the boss, then you have to listen to who, you do not earn money, all day at home to play, but also refused to give birth to a child, what do you have the face to dignity? You should listen to my son, should also listen to my arrangements, you such lazy girl child, I have not seen the second, have to break you right."
Listening to her mother-in-law's speech with a queen dowager's frame, Xiaoxia was really unable to bear it anymore, she asked her mother-in-law a rhetorical question, and it was also the first time that she disliked her mother-in-law in a real sense. "Is it true that whoever earns more money is the boss of this family, is that what you mean, mother-in-law?"
"Yes, why not, if you can earn as much money as my son, more than he earns, then I won't give a fart, at your beck and call. Serve you like a queen all you want." Xiaoxia laughed: "Your family doesn't have a throne, as for me, I don't want to be a queen either, you'd better wake up, but then, granny, I'm afraid you still don't understand the situation very well, you know that I bought this house together with your son, right? But what you don't know is that he put up three hundred thousand dollars, and some of it was from you, right? I put up five hundred thousand dollars, and I earned it all by myself.
Now the house loan, also I am a person in the repayment, the money to hire cleaning, the family food and clothing can be said to be from me, your son's little salary, really nothing, to pay for his car loan has been very difficult, you really think that just rely on your son alone can afford such a big family? To put it bluntly, this family, but I am supporting, without your son can, without me can not."
Mother-in-law stupid, froze half a day and did not say a word, and then ate dinner usually noisy, the result is not a word, the next day let his son bought a ticket, fly like hiding back home.
Dash's mother-in-law actually can not be said to be an unreasonable old lady, she is still quite reasonable, but she does not understand anything, she feels that all day long idle at home daughter-in-law, is using her son's money, exploitation of her son, dash is not the type of wife and mother type of woman, do not know how to be considerate of their husbands in a low tone of voice, and sometimes will also be made to call their husbands, disrespectful, completely no The attitude of a parasite naturally made her look bad.
She felt that since you don't earn money, you should be obedient, low-brow some, honest some, have a eat other people's mouth short, take other people's hands soft look. But I had not thought, Xiaoxia is not the kind of woman she imagined, not only self-reliance, have the capital to call the shots, for the family to do more than her husband's contribution.
Or uneducated, out of touch with the times ate the loss, in fact, Xiaoxia has not been hidden from the old lady, only that the old lady does not understand, a leaf blind, until the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is inextricably linked to the daughter-in-law forced out of the way, take out substantial evidence later, the old lady was dumbfounded.
To be honest, Xiaoxia home this matter, should not have developed to this point, but where the old lady can not be so pedantic, a little bit of Xiaoxia into the words, but also not so, and now they ran back to the old family, afraid of also consciously disgraced, on the other hand, is afraid of the daughter-in-law to give her shoes, after all, the harsh words have been put out, and know that the stone moved up to their own feet, and now in order to be afraid of the daughter-in-law, the daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law, the daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law. The first time I saw her, she was in the middle of the night, and she had to run away.
But from the results, in fact, is also good, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law if you can not get along in one place, naturally, is the most effective way to reduce family conflicts, each other have a distance, in order to better distinguish each other's lives, is also considered crooked.
But the most important thing is that Xiaoxia is indeed a capable woman, although she is always at home, but has always insisted on doing their own business, not because of a man to support the slack themselves, able to dissolve the contradiction between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but also rely on her own merits.
See, want to hold the family status, women still can not be too slack, have their own career, more than anything else, married to a good man is naturally the icing on the cake, but do not rely on all the men, or if you can not rely on it, can not retreat, it is the real call of the day, the call of the ground is not working.