All love hides a black thorn that is softly embraced.
01Time is like a leaky spoon, in the marriage life of firewood, rice, oil and salt, gradually the love of those glorious oath and sweet words, a little bit of filtration, leaving a piece of boring and tedious true colors.
Chen Ya also remembers that when she married Liu Sheng, he lived with his mother for many years, renting a modest house converted from a garage. At that time, he had no savings and his job was unstable.
However, Chen Ya was impressed by his sincere heart, which made her believe that no matter how much suffering there is in life, as long as there is love, it will be overcome.
Love can give a woman the power to have the courage to face the hardships of life, even if the flame of ten thousand feet ahead, she is willing to feast on.
However, life is not as beautiful as imagined, Chen Ya married Liu Sheng, rented a small three rooms, love house, will be the mother-in-law over to live together.
Just unanticipated, due to the different lifestyles between her and her mother-in-law, conflicts arise frequently.
At first, Chen Ya tried to be tolerant and patient, giving her mother-in-law the greatest respect. However, the grievances in her heart were like a snowball, getting bigger and bigger.
How many women have fantasized about getting along with their mothers-in-law when they first got married, and even tried to treat them like their own mothers, but it didn't work out that way.
02In all love, there is a black thorn in the side that is softly embraced. Despite Liu Sheng's many shortcomings, Chen Ya never cared because of love.
When you're in love, whether it's a man or a woman, you're in love with the other person's strengths. Sometimes, it is precisely these shortcomings, the old couple's relationship with each other in tatters.
In order to improve the quality of life, Chen Ya worked hard, and even took out her salary every month to subsidize the family, and bought gifts for her mother-in-law on New Year's Day. The company's main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers," he said.
However, this life is very tiring, every morning at six o'clock to get up to go to the bus, seven o'clock in the evening back to sometimes have to work overtime, in order to earn a little bit more money, she had to work hard.
Back home, my mother-in-law sat on the sofa, watching TV, while high on melon seeds, looking at the home of the cold pots and cold stoves, there will always be a kind of inexplicable tiredness.
She had to go and fasten her apron and make a good dinner in a hurry. Then, simply eat a little, and urge her husband to make sure to mop the floor, wash the dishes, and then bring a cup of coffee and start working overtime.
Whenever this time, the mother-in-law will always grab the housework in the hands of Liu Sheng. At that time, Chen Ya did not think y, but felt that her mother-in-law kind.
The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law starts from ? You don't say, she doesn't ask? The first thing that happens is that the mother-in-law starts to accumulate.
03The pressure of life will always shift the attention of couples gradually, resulting in each other are negligent in the management of love. Love, in the marriage is covered with dust.
I don't know from when, Chen Ya and Liu Sheng began to have quarrels between her and her mother-in-law gradually began to show the contradiction.
Whenever there is a conflict between her and Liu Sheng, her mother-in-law always helps him to put in a good word, which often makes Chen Ya have to compromise. However, after a long time, she would also feel upset because she felt that she was not respected at home.
Chen Ya's salary is more than three times higher than Liu Sheng's, and all of the family's expenses are borne by her. The money Liu Sheng earns is not enough to cover his own expenses.
However, no matter what Chen Ya called Liu Sheng to do what chores, the mother-in-law will be upset, she said: ? The more a man does female labor, the poorer he gets!
What makes a woman tired in a marriage is often the lack of growth of the man.
04Marriage is a family formed by a man and a woman who love each other. Then, no matter the duties or obligations, they are actually ****ing borne together.
Chen Ya feels that telling her husband to share some of the household chores is just a way to run the marriage better. However, her mother-in-law interfered in it, resulting in all the housework having to be undertaken by her alone.
Sometimes, after the evening rush planning, already to the early morning, looking at the clothes did not wash, the ground did not mop, the home did not clean up, and the husband is lying on the sofa, while playing games, while smoking, ash flicked all over the place.
At that moment, her heart will always be a million helpless, inexplicable anger.
Men in marriage are too lazy, in fact, are women? The woman is not a woman, she is a woman. s. This woman may be the wife, perhaps mother-in-law.
Later, on a business trip back, Chen Ya because he felt very tired, so after dinner, lie down and fall asleep. Who knows, after her mother-in-law came back from square dancing, she saw her son washing dishes in the kitchen again.
She immediately complained loudly: ? Son ah, you really married a good daughter-in-law, their own sleep there, called you to wash dishes.? When she walked to the door of Chen Ya's room, she deliberately said loudly: ? The son I worked so hard to raise is not here to mop the floor and wash the dishes for you!!!?
Chen Ya was stung by her mother-in-law's voice, and at once she couldn't hold back her tears.
05That day, Chen Ya opened the door and stood in front of her mother-in-law and said: ? Mom, this is my marriage, it's my marriage with your son, please don't just interfere in my marriage anymore! Otherwise, this day will not be able to go on.?
In fact, Chen Ya's mother-in-law has always been aware of her daughter-in-law's ability to work and buy a house, but also all her efforts. However, she is also just heartbroken son, accustomed to take care of his son, everywhere to defend his son.
That night, Chen Ya asked Liu Sheng, ? Married to you these years, I'm tired. Give you a choice, divorce me, or we live separately from your mother.?
Women in marriage are not afraid of suffering, not afraid of how hard life is, the only fear is not understood.
If a couple can't be of one mind, the marriage is meaningless.
Later, Liu Sheng chose to live separately from his mother. Without the mother-in-law's interference in it, the marriage is surprisingly much easier. And Liu Sheng in the marriage, under the guidance of Chen Ya, gradually began to grow, began to take the initiative to share the household chores, took the initiative to start caring about his wife.
Sometimes, Chen Ya returned home, Liu Sheng has done a good job of cooking. The two sat together, simple three dishes and a soup, chatting about trivial trivialities in life, life has a different fireworks.
Although, after the separation of life, the mother-in-law has many complaints, but, with the development of time, the mother-in-law also gradually see the young couple live happily, see the daughter-in-law every bit of effort.
06How to get along with your mother-in-law? Do one thing: live separately.
Living separately from your mother-in-law has several benefits. On the one hand, it is conducive to a man's better growth in marriage and better assumption of family responsibilities and obligations; on the other hand, it is conducive to the establishment of a relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and distance produces beauty.
After living separately from your mother-in-law, every bit of your daughter-in-law's contribution can be seen by your mother-in-law and is no longer easily ignored. After living separately from your mother-in-law, you can solve your own conflicts, which is conducive to improving the ability of couples to solve conflicts.
The man is too lazy to pay, too lazy to share the household chores, will make the woman in the marriage does not feel happy.
A mother-in-law who interferes too much in her son's marriage will make her son not grow up in the marriage, and will also make her daughter-in-law not find a sense of belonging in the marriage.
On this road to growth, the mother-in-law as a mother to gradually loosen? The son? s hands and let him live his life as he wishes. The mother-in-law? carry a clear? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty. The mother-in-law will be a great help to your son in his marriage.
Couples *** with the growth, *** with the commitment, the marriage of that sapling will gradually be cared for to grow up, in order to flourish.