Beauty and Blue Beauty Life Comprehension 1 At present, confidantes with beauty and blue beauty are actually confidantes of the opposite sex other than spouses (or prospective spouses).
Knowing a girl is an emotional form superior to his wife in spirit, an ideological lover who can't live together, and a spiritual companion whose soul communication is better than physical communication.
The boy said, "A boy, if there is a girl who loves you deeply and understands you attentively in this life, what else can he ask for?" "confidantes are extremely smart girls, and they know best: if a girl wants to be eternal in a boy's life, she must be his mother or a confidante he will never get."
There must be excellent, smart, strong and independent girls, and some girls have really become confidantes of those equally excellent boys. However, no matter what kind of girl, her heart is still bitter and she can't be chic. And a really mature and rational boy will not be complacent because there is such a girl around him. His heart will feel helpless because of his deep understanding and sympathy, and feel the same pain and helplessness. So they finally chose to implicate each other in the form of confidants, just because of too much helplessness and love.
If a girl can be your confidante, you should remember that she must love you and you are worthy of love in her heart. No matter how she behaves in front of you, she is afraid of your pain and death. She can't wait to hurt and die for you, and because she knows that she doesn't even have such power, her heart cries even harder. If you are lucky enough to have such a girl, you should at least know how to cherish her. Understand?
This is why more and more excellent women finally choose to be alone.
Lan Yan's bosom friend is a girl's hardcore brother and sister, and also a male brother and sister who can talk to each other. In girls' understanding, Lan Yan's confidant is a relationship between men and women that is lighter than feelings, deeper than friendship and more innocent than a third party. A boy who can become a confidant of Lan Yan must be the best among boys. A woman who can have a blue face confidant must be an understanding and intelligent woman.
Girls' feelings towards men and women are much simpler than boys'. Girls are born talking animals. Moreover, the complexity of life, the pressure of job competition and psychological depression are inevitable. It's less vanity to find a blue confidante who really knows himself and listen to himself than to talk to his girlfriend. He can be spoiled, he can do something wrong properly, and he can tolerate it. Think of him as his mother's brother. Compared with his lover, he has less emotional entanglements and less inevitable injuries. Therefore, the blue confidante is certainly a pleasant part of modern fast-paced life, while the popular blue confidante is the drizzle that falls on girls' hearts.
The most qualified confidante in the eyes of girls:
Have a good harvest, you can share the account with the girls in the coffee bar or bar. Girls don't like blue confidantes. Boys who are absolutely noble in quality and single-minded in feelings can ensure that Lan Yan's confidant will not deteriorate in communication; Well-informed, a boy who makes people empty their stomachs after a few words, no one wants to stay with him, let alone be a confidante; Good at communication, understanding the potential, good at tolerance, can walk into the hearts of girls.
If you choose an unmarried boy as your confidant, then this man must be mature and steady, able to read all complicated things, know how to share happiness with others and relieve pain. Married boys should have the prerequisite to become confidantes, and a stable and perfect marriage is the most important prerequisite.
Girls looking for confidantes are different from boys looking for confidantes. Of course, boys' confidantes should know each other, and more importantly, boys are also eager for a cup of black tea to add fragrance. Girls have no such desire for Lan Yan's bosom friend. Their emotional simplicity is a bit as clean and perfect as Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs in fairy tales. They can hold hands and dance in the forest, but the fingers they hold will never convey any complicated feelings between men and women.
In my opinion, confidante and confidante are rare in our life. Meet by chance, we must grasp and cherish; On the contrary, there is no need to look for it deliberately, because it lives in the gap between spouse and lover, and it is difficult to grasp proper limit, especially those with poor emotional self-control. Don't take this risk, and you will lose both sides in the end.
No one wants to be lonely, and no one is not eager for the friendship between the opposite sex. More attractive and nervous than same-sex love. There are many things that you can't say to the same sex or that the same sex can't understand. At this time, if you have a brother or sister of the opposite sex, you can tell your brother or sister of the opposite sex without scruple. He will not only understand you, but also comfort you and care about you. This is something that same-sex brothers and sisters simply cannot do. If you have a brother or sister of the opposite sex, then you should be happy, like rain and dew to moisten every dry season.
Brothers and sisters are naturally different from lovers The premise of the establishment between two people is mutual appreciation and love, and then step by step into the ranks of brothers and sisters, but he will not talk about feelings with you, except love. He will always be your closest brothers and sisters, brothers and sisters of the opposite sex, and the safest brothers and sisters that outsiders can't give you.
He appreciates you, he cares about you, just because he appreciates you, and you associate with him only because you trust him. Knowing him is your safest bottom line. Knowing him is the person who will give you a towel when you come out scarred.
How many people will envy your pleasure, and how many people will long for this pure and beautiful friendship. However, this kind of situation, not everyone will have, this kind of situation, only between you and him. This feeling will further become a secular love between men and women. In this case, take a step back and become ordinary brothers and sisters, even passers-by. Measure, so it becomes the most important dimension between this situation.
The love between boys and girls is like climbing a mountain. Standing at the foot of the mountain, the top of the mountain is full of green flowers, and Yingying dances around. As a result, your desire to climb soared. Then, regardless of the risk, you climb to the top of the mountain step by step. Finally, you reached the top. The scenery on the top of the mountain is really perfect. First of all, the endless sky makes your heart intoxicated first. Butterflies come, birds are crisp, and occasionally there is a stream, and the joy of mountains and rivers is lingering in the voice. You are drunk, and there is only this infinitely perfect scenery in your heart, and there is only this sweet overlapping emerald between your ears and your eyes.
It's just that you are hungry, which is perfect and can only give you inner enjoyment. And you, who grew up eating fireworks, are neither a fairy nor a bird. You need human food to supplement your physical strength and fill your spirit.
So, you started going down the mountain. The road down the mountain seems simple, but in fact it is difficult step by step. First of all, there is no joy of going up the mountain, only hunger can't wait. Your children may be starving and your lover may be in a mess. You, the last step fell to the bottom. You and he, each returned to his own home. Long-lost family warmth nourishes your heart.
So, you and he gradually faded. So, you and he drifted away. Therefore, you and he still inevitably become passers-by. The most difficult and crucial thing between boys and girls is size. There are too many people to grasp this size.
Between boys and girls, if you can't stand the temptation, if you take that step, unfortunately you become his lover. If you can't upgrade to a lover, if your feelings can't get into marriage, how much affection do you have to stand the wind, frost, rain and snow? How many tears can withstand the collision of loneliness and injustice? Then, you lifted yourself to the top of the mountain, and then, when you went down the mountain, you began to face tears. Therefore, you will inevitably become a passer-by. Although, you are crying, although, you are bleeding.
Boys and girls-friendship-feelings-lovers-passers-by, this is the formula that thousands of people in Qian Qian come out with tears. Either you make yourself his lover, or all you have to do is keep your heart and be his ordinary brothers and sisters with only gender differences. However, there are more tolerance, appreciation, understanding and tolerance than brothers and sisters of the same sex. If you are wise, you will turn yourself into the same gender as others, although differences are inevitable. And this subtle difference is the key pleasure of making friends with him. Behind this difference is that you have regarded him as an almost homosexual person, so you are happy and you are not in danger.
Love is always the saddest term in the world. It has too many tears and too many disappointments. How strong is our fragile heart to bear?
Let's be brothers and sisters. Brothers and sisters are the best. They have fun between the opposite sex, but there is no distress between lovers. If you have this friendship, you are happy, but you must make yourself extremely rational. If you cross that step, you will become miserable. Bless you, with this friendship, thank you, and let others have this honor.
Beauty and Blue Beauty Life Comprehension 3 There is an inseparable affection and significance between men's doubles. A woman who knows herself reminds people of an intellectual woman and a man that boys dream of. She doesn't need to be beautiful or smart, but she must have an understanding heart, understand and understand the pressure and troubles of boys from society and family, and put forward her own opinions appropriately. She is willing to use her gentleness to soothe the fragile hearts of boys, but she can keep calm enough to make you realize that this is not just lust.
An extramarital lover, a girl who has a physical relationship outside marriage, is of course different from a mistress. Therefore, it is called a lover. Of course, there are also necessary emotional elements in it. Perhaps it is because of an unfinished relationship before marriage that this extramarital affair has been achieved. Perhaps because of an unhappy marriage, I met a bosom friend.
Maybe I fell in love with you because of my help in the workplace or my acquaintances on the Internet. It can be denied that many extramarital lovers have evolved from confidants, from spiritual communication to physical entanglement. In fact, this distance is very close. The attraction of men and women themselves makes the relationship between red and blue confidants ambiguous. Everyone has feelings, and it is normal to have love because of family ties. They simply solve problems for each other, but slowly start asking for them.
But once there is a physical connection between men and women, many feelings will become mysterious. Instead of simply solving problems for each other, they will slowly start asking for them. Can you make it clear whether this is a complex of a pretty girl confidant or a blue girl confidant?
Therefore, if girls want to become confidants, they need to have a decisive attitude. Even if you can't help falling in love with each other, you should keep a necessary distance, and a boy is an indispensable reason. Don't let hormonal impulses ruin this hard-won relationship. Physical stimulation is only a temporary pleasure, and spiritual communication is a long-term comfort. In the vast sea of people, it is not easy to meet a heterosexual who knows himself and is willing to share it with himself. If it is sublimated,
In fact, every couple once knew each other's close friends. It is because of the initial love that when they fall in love, everything is so beautiful. She is gentle and careful, and he is considerate and tolerant. We are willing to share everything with each other. So * * * walked into the besieged city hand in hand, only to find that something slowly changed its taste. Couples and partners who broke up because of understanding abound, and the distance is close.
Girls between men and women are also jealous. Even if you know that the communication between you and beautiful women is only spiritual, it is not allowed by girls. Although you can all treat this rare friendship with an open mind, another girl knows her husband better than herself. This kind of thinking will make girls feel that their self-esteem as wives has been hurt, while extramarital lovers, especially the boys closest to them, will have the same intimacy as other girls. Thinking about it will make girls angry. It is very likely that Lan Yan knows where she is from. The reason is no less than a revenge, a physiological need that hurts her self-esteem. No one can tell its boundaries.
But even if the girl is unwilling to do anything, the boy will still look for it, so that the girl who can relieve mental stress can know her lover and the extramarital lover who has vented her excess sexual desire, and then use the phrase "his favorite person is still my wife" as an excuse for fidgeting. In fact, boys never thought that when two people get along, there will always be boredom, and the aesthetic fatigue of marriage does not only happen to boys, but girls will always sacrifice more than boys in marriage and family. However, in view of the helplessness of marriage, girls are not always ready to move like boys, but most girls are still trying to run this so-called home. Can you tell right from wrong?
Beauty or blue is destined to be just a passer-by in the boy's life, and the boy will eventually return to a dull marriage. Therefore, as a girl waiting in a dull marriage, we should learn and understand that boys should have their own private space and girls should have their own private space without breaking through the principle. It is your own brothers and sisters, whether of the same sex or of the opposite sex, who leave a good impression on themselves. You are allowed to be an emotional woman or man outside the family, know how to love others, and know how to love yourself. As a responsible boy or girl, they will also know what to do and what not to do. This is life, brothers and sisters; Can you make it clear?
Life perception of beauty and blue beauty 4 Martial arts film and television dramas often hear martial arts experts talk about "confidante". A bosom friend is a bosom friend, and a beautiful woman is her female friend to a man. There is a clear difference between a confidante and the only thrill in the Jianghu. Because they keep their word.
In the modern version, women also have male friends in their sexual life, which are called "blue confidants". Singer Chen Qianqian once wrote and sang a song with an eye-catching title: Lan Yan bosom friend. There is a passage in the lyrics, "You know my heart, I know your code word, and you are special, always in your heart, even if there is no tomorrow, no result, no forgetting, no giving up, no one can replace you."
Some people say that the opposite sex is either a husband-wife relationship, a lover relationship or a lover relationship, and there is no third way to go. If there is a confidante in real life, many people will not believe it easily.
Whether you like it or hate it, it is pleasing to the eye, not pleasing to the eye, understandable or incomprehensible. In the society of China in the 2nd/kloc-0th century, there are indeed living facts of friends of the opposite sex. Men and women can communicate together. Their relationship is neither lovers nor husband and wife, nor lovers, but friends in the true sense. Of course, this kind of friendship is clear, some are caused by hobbies, some by mutual appreciation, some by spiritual complementarity, some by customer business relations, some by classmates and colleagues, and so on.
We all have this experience. In interpersonal communication, everyone will meet the opposite sex outside the family (except utilitarian), and there may be communication. No one can predict what will happen and what the result will be. It is not a bad thing to have a good impression on the opposite sex, have emotional communication, like meeting, drinking tea, eating and chatting. Everyone should enjoy their own spiritual space. Even in the era of "preferring socialist grass to capitalist seedlings", the government has left some "private plots" for farmers, but only a few. It seems normal for a man to have several confidantes, but it is unfair for a woman to have several confidantes.
Nowadays, many people theoretically discuss the emotional derailment and physical derailment that may be caused by the contact between the opposite sex, which is also relative to the family. We noticed an interesting phenomenon. In some harmonious families, men or women have confidantes, everything is normal and healthy, and there will be no infidelity, that is, mental and physical betrayal. And some disharmonious families may have an affair even if they have normal contact with the opposite sex outside. This is a question that makes people think deeply. In fact, the conclusions drawn from theoretical analysis are often far from the situation in practice.
We should admit that there is indeed a fourth emotion in modern society, which is not a departure from family values, but a supplement and perfection. We can see around us that many family members get along well with friends of the opposite sex, and there is no vicious reaction in the opposite sex circle. It is not difficult to see the mind and mentality of the parties, the legitimate psychological needs, and the integrity of friends. Naturally, it is important to choose friends of the opposite sex here. Many people have normal families. When they meet some people on the road of life, they may develop into bosom friends. Just like the communication between the same sex, we naturally get to know each other, naturally produce friendship and naturally become bosom friends.
However, it is worth noting that some families have mental or physical problems themselves, and family members need to look for sustenance or transfer their feelings outside, which may lead to mental and physical betrayal of the family and even derailment.
Everything in the world has rules of the game, both explicit and implicit. When people are alive, how to deal with feelings communicated with the opposite sex other than husband and wife, how to handle and adjust their own emotional factors, and how to grasp the intimate distance between beauty and blue beauty cannot be logically analyzed by any theory, nor can it be predicted and controlled by any moral program. The key is to be cautious and rational in making friends.
Vast universe, distant sky, thousands of worlds, colorful. Life is not a color, life is not a sound, life is not a state, life is not a line. Life needs seven colors, life needs birds to sing, life needs a dynamic world, and life needs colorful styles.
O sea, you contain all the rivers; In this world, you have accommodated a confidante, and you have also accommodated a confidante.
I don't know when the word "blue confidante" was widely used by many women on the Internet. This is a sign, or a flag. Blue confidante was born out of confidante, but from the moment it was born, it had its own distinctive characteristics. It is a correction to people's habit of seeing the world from a man's perspective. At least let people know that women are thoughtful.
For a long time, the word "confidante" has dominated the bipolar world between men and women. It is natural for men to use "confidante": XXX is my confidante; Women, uncomfortable, have to make do: I am XXX's confidante! Even the use of words clearly shows the hegemony of male power.
I happened to visit Sohu's blog "Wenbo understands women" and found the results of the selection of "My Blue Face confidant" in issue 107. I was deeply touched after reading it.
That kind of aestheticism, like mountains and lakes, rippling sleeves, beautiful dresses and beautiful and soft words, gave me a gorgeous hug all my life, and let people see the inner beauty of women-delicate mind and rich imagination. Everyone knows that external beauty will disappear with the passage of time, but internal beauty can last forever.
That faint love, that silent tolerance, like a touch of blue in the sky, dispelled the occasional clouds in life. "Never deliberately create opportunities to meet, always follow the fate, like walking on both sides of the railway track, neither leaving nor crossing nor separating, not to mention the purpose, and continuing to go on alive", and the persistence of "caring for this godsend love of bosom friends" make people realize that "if you meet on the road of knowing each other, it is each other".
After reading such words, it's hard to associate them with those red cats and green dogs who swagger into hotels for prostitution. Of course, there is no collusion between power and interests.
For a long time, women have been living with men in this world. Men, on the other hand, ignore the existence of women, who have long depended on men for survival. Men's radar and women's radar are never in the same band. As an independent group alongside men, women may still have a long way to go.
Showing blue confidants shows some awakening of female groups. Everything is relative. Where there is a confidante, there must be a confidante.
Lovers will cross the barriers of love, and "red and blue confidants" will always live next door to love, instead of knocking at the door in the middle of the night, they will walk into your dreams.
Love is a trademark, which is recognized; Lover is an advertisement and a sign to show off; Friends of Red and Blue is a collection of famous paintings that need neither recognition nor showing off.